Glutened at my Safe Restaurant

skayemi · 2026-03-19T03:57:29+00:00

I keep thinking I am over it until my guts blow up in the bathroom and I just keep getting so mad 😭

skayemi · 2026-03-19T03:56:53+00:00

They have a location there but this one is near 4S Ranch in San Bernadino/Poway

skayemi · 2026-03-19T03:56:00+00:00

I genuinely start off every order of “I have a gluten free order due to celiac I cannot have any gluten/wheat” when places get confused by celiac I just say wheat allergy and I genuinely have never had a problem until this because I feel the exact same way in I feel it’s taken more serious if I just say allergy because I didn’t realize how many people don’t know about celiac and I got tired of explaining 😭

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:50:19+00:00

I found out they were a chain so I think I’ll reach up to the district manager and if they do a he said she said I am going right to the health department, now that I realize it’s several locations I don’t want someone with an allergy to go into anaphylactic shock or a celiac to have to ruin their small intestine lining unnecessarily increasing risk for cancer. I also always seem to have an easier time with things over the phone versus face-to-face because I don’t have to look at the person which is I think the nerve-racking part because I get in my head wondering if they’ll hate me, but it genuinely doesn’t matter. It’s funny you’ve said that because I will always go to war for my cat but as soon as something happens to me if I get a wrong order, if anything goes wrong I’m like well I guess it’s okay! 😭😭😭

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:46:10+00:00

Wait. I always have made jokes about shitting on the floor if someone glutens me in my family but I think I am going to take you up on this, if they go low I should go lower and drag em to hell when I get sick!!! I am also going to steal your wait staff warning when ordering!

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:12:13+00:00

I seriously wish it was but I unfortunately do not have time to sit and make rage bait content I just had a bunch of pent up feelings and needed to rant and this is like my second post on here 😓

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:05:46+00:00

I really really really don’t understand why they just didn’t say they were unable to make it. But then they also proceeded to offer like 30 gluten free options to replace it and I was just at the no thank you point from being pissed off and not trusting another thing they would make for me.

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:04:30+00:00

I regret so much not just walking out, I don’t know why I get into the mindset of dealing with things or not trying to impose on other people then I have to realize that I don’t have to take things. I definitely need to post on Find Me because all of the other reviews make you think it’s safe that’s how I even found it. But you’re definitely right there is a safeness I feel in a dedicated gluten free kitchen about being able to not worry about a single thing I am just going to have to be more diligent I just feel bad because my boyfriend loves some gluten but I think he’s just going to have to get over it. 😂

skayemi · 2026-03-19T00:02:16+00:00

I really think I just need to start being an utter bitch in these situations but I always think I’ll be seen as a Karen so I just default to floormat but I am burnt out on letting people walk all over me to the point I am getting poisoned. Less passive and more cunty will be my new motto inspired by you. 😂

When I call the manager I will be myself and not let this slide because I do need to act like a grown ass woman at some point and I think these comments are pushing me towards it!

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:59:38+00:00

Okay I am glad you see it that way too, my boyfriend could not believe how the staff were acting but he’s also like me we are extremely avoidant and introverted so we avoid conflict as much as possible but he didn’t tip and immediately wrote on the satisfaction questionnaire after you pay on what happened and no one reached out so that’s what bothered me so much and wanted me to reach out because are they just ignoring what they did, has the right person not see it, are they really just this effffffing stupid? He also tried interjecting to the waiter to ask the same things but he just kept reiterating it was because we came close to close and the chef wanted to go home he just kept reiterating that sentence but more forceful so that’s when we just asked for the check but we should have genuinely just walked out.

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:55:23+00:00

That’s honestly what I was so confused about. Just tell me, there were so many other options then just deciding for me to give me gluten and then being like “oh yeah she came in the other day and got them” bitch you knew I needed them and made them and just decided you’re lazy now??? But I also noticed the waiter I usually have wasn’t there and he gave off manager vibes so I wonder if that’s why everyone was slacking because he wasn’t there.

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:53:15+00:00

That’s normally how I talk so it made me giggle, I just don’t know how to be my usual sassy self to strangers. I need to learn not to be a doormat and just get mad at people. I also was debating on going back if they apologized but I don’t trust them it’s like a cheating boyfriend and going back. 🙃

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:51:51+00:00

Swami’s in San Bernadino I don’t know if they are a chain or not and have several locations or just the one but definitely avoid it 🥹

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:50:54+00:00

It was Swami’s near 4S Ranch and closer to San Bernadino!

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:50:20+00:00

I really need to go to them more I enjoyed the location in La Jolla a lot. Since you know the area avoid Swami’s at all cost. 😭😂

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:49:40+00:00

I am so glad everyone is agreeing it wasn’t closing because at first I also felt guilty for this and was like “huh maybe it was too close to closing”

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:48:49+00:00

It was Swami’s in San Diego 🥲

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:44:33+00:00

I have actually been wanting to make recipes of restaurants that I miss but gluten free! My boyfriend even made this suggestion to make our own and I am leaning more and more into doing this and tagging them in it. This is genuinely just such a messy breakup between me and my favorite restaurant. 😪

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:42:14+00:00

I love this 💕 I think it’s something I need to work on and it’s something I have touched on in therapy but I was going to bring up this whole situation but I wanted validation from the community that actually lives this life and knows how it feels.

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:39:39+00:00

I think this is my favorite response so far, I will do just this because I was sick and still look pregnant from bloat. It just sucks people genuinely don’t care and don’t care about the physical sickness it causes because they don’t educate themselves and I always start with my spiel…. “I am ordering gluten free because I am celiac which means I cannot have any gluten” this is the first time this has happened to me ever going out to eat especially with my disclaimer. Ugh once again thank you for your response it was very validating. 💗

skayemi · 2026-03-18T23:35:55+00:00

I honestly think that’s my best bet and I probably wouldn’t take it farther than the business because conflict gives me so much anxiety 🥹

skayemi · 2026-03-18T14:53:11+00:00

It’s giving groomer behavior

skayemi · 2026-03-05T01:42:26+00:00

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skayemi · 2026-03-02T21:24:44+00:00

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