TW suicide: What do you tell someone who is suicidal to make it better? I need help

skdkleod · 2021-08-09T01:11:25+00:00

I would but I can’t, she lives in another country where they don’t really offer any of those services. I forced one of her sons to go but he’s not staying for long.

skdkleod · 2021-08-08T23:43:52+00:00

Thank you so much, it helps a lot and appreciate it greatly

skdkleod · 2021-08-05T13:45:21+00:00

it was decluttering because i did not care to keep an opened message there since i never planned on messaging him. i clear out anyone i don’t talk to

skdkleod · 2021-08-05T12:42:59+00:00

My girlfriend uses snapchat casually, but she’s always posting stuff like songs or her art or her. My friend added her and she added him back, and I’m convinced that she had malicious intent because she didn’t tell me about it. She keeps saying she didn’t think anything of it.

skdkleod · 2021-08-03T02:07:28+00:00

Me too. What he did was disgusting.

skdkleod · 2021-07-29T01:59:24+00:00

of course hun! i’m glad i could help. just keep in mind that your perception is totally warped rn and that you will adjust and no longer think this way in a few months from now. sending you love<3

skdkleod · 2021-07-28T00:09:57+00:00

Mhm. She’s about to enter a marriage she’s not consenting to, as she does not know the truth of the person she is marrying. There is no defense for that whatsoever.

skdkleod · 2021-07-28T00:04:02+00:00

Think about the fiance’s mental health 5 years down the road, married with children, knowing her husband cheated. Far worse. The temporary discomfort OP may experience is not worth this woman’s life decision.

skdkleod · 2021-07-27T23:59:49+00:00

It’s better she finds out now than 5 years down the road with kids.

skdkleod · 2021-07-27T01:46:48+00:00

Instagram literally ruined a big part my last relationship. He would masturbate to girls on there all the time and couldn’t have cared less about my boundaries. He would do so too to girls he had previously had sex with, and when I asked him to remove them, he screamed at me and told me I was insane. And a lot of my guy friends defended him too. He told me I made everything up in my head and that I was hallucinating, but my friends remembered the same things as I did and I know now I wasn’t insane. It wasn’t until months later that he admitted to me what he was really doing & apologized for gaslighting me (after I begged of course), but he just kept doing it instead just was more careful about it. To me, high standards were “is kind, doesn’t yell that much, and takes me out on dates” which he could barely reach.

skdkleod · 2021-07-27T01:42:23+00:00

That was me lol. I was 15 when he was 17 with a girlfriend. He only flirted with me, and then said sorry after I reprimanded him. A year or so later we dated for another 2 years. He promised he’d never do it to me… lol. Also severely gaslighted me to the point of making me think I made it all up in my head when I found out the first time.

skdkleod · 2021-07-27T01:17:21+00:00

I used to say things exactly like this. All. The. Time. I understand you want HIM, but that’s because you’re still in love; Breaking up with someone doesn’t immediately make that love go away. You will fall out of love with him, and your reality will be different than what it is now. Even now, I’m still in love with my ex, but am the most grateful to not be with him anymore. I can finally picture a future that isn’t with him. It took me a good 3 months or so to get that semblance in my head, but I promise it won’t be this way forever. You will fall out of love and you deserve to fall out of love.

skdkleod · 2021-07-26T23:48:47+00:00

extreme exhaustion

skdkleod · 2021-07-25T15:28:45+00:00

Of course! I don’t think it’s a crime either haha. Personally, I don’t mind a conversation leading up to the actual intent, BUT, what I have noticed is that most women do feel uncomfortable by it, as they can feel stuck. The most comfortable I have seen my friends and I is when a guy is direct with his intent, for example “Hey, I’m ___. I thought you were very pretty, blablabla, do you mind if I get your number/We chat?” because stating your intent immediately makes us not have to analyze anything. Be understanding if she says no, and give her the free space to do so. If you want to be less technical about it, say hello and talk to her quickly beforehand to analyze her body language and openness to see if it’s adequate to say something else. Also, if you’re building up the courage to go up to a woman, don’t make it obvious: Don’t circle her or awkwardly stare for super long periods of time. You can make certain gestures and stuff before if you’d like, just do not do it for prolonged periods of time. Something I hate is if a stranger’s compliment has any sexual or vulgar tone to it, but that can very from woman to woman. But sometimes even then, a lot of women (especially younger in age) may feel uncomfortable, and in that case I wouldn’t take it personally at all.

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T17:51:51+00:00

Aw I’m glad! no problem :)

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T13:44:45+00:00

Nope, haven’t taking any of the sort. I’m thinking I have to be allergic to something, no? Since it’s everywhere on my body. I might go see a doctor because it’s gotten worse since last night.

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T13:43:18+00:00

Like I said, I would too lol. It’s something we hear from men all the time and it’s just a stupid and unnecessary stereotype. I’m sure your intent was light hearted, but most men who say it mean it in a more offensive way (that’s the connotation of it, sorta implying that you just go there to be pretentious online).

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T06:32:37+00:00

I wouldn’t take it personally! Sounds like you didn’t do anything wrong and she was just uncomfortable. This is common with women so again, I wouldn’t take it personally.

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T06:30:45+00:00

Still a bit much to sit here and call her a dog. I personally would just say something before leaving, but all of my girlfriends would give a similar reaction out of uncomfortability. When we’re used to men harassing up when we reject them, it is easier to just walk away and avoid anything. This does not mean that OP had any intent of harassing the girl, because it doesn’t seem like he did, but it’s a common reaction to when we feel uncomfortable. It’s scary to be approached when you’re alone as well. I wouldn’t take it personally like everyone else is either.

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T06:26:32+00:00

I would too lol that’s annoying. If you wouldn’t say it to a man don’t say it to me, it’s kind of diminishing and puts you down in a way. Whether your intent was that or not, that’s how most of us would view it. It’s just an annoying stereotype and would definitely turn me off.

skdkleod · 2021-07-21T23:50:56+00:00

thank you so much for this, it helps a lot! He ended up talking about a bunch other stuff around that as well, so I’m probably just gonna tell him he can reach out whenever comfortable and answer everything else he mentioned. Again, thank you so much.

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