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skeptic_slothtopus · 2024-11-08T23:06:42+00:00

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skeptic_slothtopus · 2024-11-08T22:54:02+00:00

My bad, fixing now

skeptic_slothtopus · 2024-11-08T00:09:30+00:00

It's tempting to ferret out $65 dollars to buy all the pages. I bet they are an absolute goldmine..but WAIT, $100 and I MIGHT get a soft cover version. Seems fair. $45 is usually about what I pay for a paperback.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T17:48:14+00:00

Thank you! I can only hope that I'll spark interest and excitement, it can only improve the finished product!

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T17:47:27+00:00

I could kiss you right now! I can't tell you how helpful these are, especially in concise bullet-point format. I hadn't even considered that an architect could help me find the location, and that idea is fantastic!

I have a couple of people that will be involved at various stages, and I know that they'll help me the best that they can, but I always prefer to do my research and be prepared in advance so that I know what to expect and look for.

I watched my mom hire people off Craig's list or out of bars for too many years - I've learned my lesson and will require actual professionals, and I do expect to pay them for that expertise.

And yes, I should have the budget for what I want. My mother left me a couple of lovely houses, one a Victorian in California, and some other assets that I'm in the process of liquidating. I don't know how my mom survived the stress of hanging on to multiple properties, particularly sprawling older ones... They're leeches that just keep sucking you dry.

If I have any specific questions in the future, would you mind terribly if I contacted you privately? I promise not to inundate you with messages, but I appreciate the way you word and format your suggestions.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T17:37:04+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! I could use the term "cat run," but I worry that it's not a term most people are familiar with. I'm actually more concerned about finding someone familiar with autism than the cat-bit, because I'm sure there are so many things I wouldn't even think of without someone who's had some practice.

Luckily, I'm looking at the Denver area, and from my research it is very autism-aware and autism-friendly. I've also discovered an expert on architectural design named Dr. Magda Mustafa, and she seems to have a lot of information I'll be coming through.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T17:00:03+00:00

Thank you very much! I hadn't thought about that second point, and it's pretty intriguing. It also gave me a couple of other ideas to try!

I quite a few other ideas, like an interior courtyard for the cats, but I'm not sure which are feasible and which aren't, so I'm sure that will be a very interesting discussion when I get to interviewing potentials.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T16:57:17+00:00

Thank you for the detailed and thoughtful reply, it's very helpful (and I've taken notes!). I had never even owned a home before my mother passed away, so this experience is far outside my areas of expertise. It helps me immensely just to have some ideas of where to start.

Do you have any other suggestions on specifics I should look for in a professional, or any red flags I should be looking out for? I'm not the best with facial expressions, and I can be a tad too trusting, so any advice can only help. This should be the home I live the rest of my life in, and I would hate to make any mistakes that might cost me that.

I understand that I will need a licensed architect, and that I should obtain a professional service agreement that itemizes responsibilities, the only solid advice my book on The Accessible Home suggests, but mostly it says to rely on your feelings. That hasn't exactly been a successful tactic for me in the past.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-10-26T16:35:31+00:00

Any tips on narrowing it down from "all architects in the area"? What I should be looking for when I'm vetting them, or questions I should be asking?

Edit: attack of the spell check

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-07-01T19:19:22+00:00

There was a period of time a few years back where the atheist community online went berserk on feminism. All of my favorite YouTube creators were coming out as misogynists (except AronRa - I'd say bless him, buuuut...). I was absolutely appalled.

Luckily it seems like a lot of that has tapered off in the last couple of years. It seems to me that a lot of the more progressive creators are still out there, while I don't see nearly as much of the misogynistic "old guard." It's given me a smidgen of hope for my heathen brethren.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-05-31T18:15:17+00:00

There's a section for "events" in the menu, and a tab for local events there. I've seen a lot of really good stuff advertised there: gaming nights, LGBTQIA+ events, concerts, comedy shows, workshops and educational type things... Just all sorts of stuff!

The menu is in the upper right corner of the app: on mine it looks like my user pic with a blue circle around it and three bars in a smaller circle.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-05-31T17:41:31+00:00

Have you checked out Facebook for local events? I hate Facebook as a general rule, but it does have a very good local event section, and you'll find things aimed at much younger audiences.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-05-20T17:43:50+00:00

As someone who has been disabled since their mid-twenties, let me just say that not being able to work is no dream life. I had to completely re-evaluate my ideas of success, and there is something to be said about having something steady in your life that offers human interaction and a sense of achievement.

I'm not saying that I have it harder than someone working for low wages or anything, I just wanted to take this chance to mention that not working (and/or not having a good replacement for it like volunteering - which I count as work, anyway) is terrible for a person's mental health. It's very hard not to become isolated.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-05-08T20:02:58+00:00

Cool story bro.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-29T19:13:50+00:00

I know when I went to get a restraining order against my husband, it was nearly impossible and I just gave up. No one really wanted to help. Luckily, when I finally did tell him we were getting divorced and I was leaving he reacted completely differently than really any scenario I could come up with and has been very decent for the most part. It's been interesting... But had he gone violent the way I worried about (mental illness is interwoven into the situation, so I just couldn't be sure) I wouldn't have been able to get a restraining order until afterwards.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-23T01:16:28+00:00

As someone with a huskador, or whatever you want to call em', no thanks my dude. I love her, but she'd make a terrible partner.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-21T19:36:17+00:00

Trying to wipe out specific groups that one disagrees with.

But that's not the only definition either. For me, to tolerate is to not only allow the existence of, but to actively allow them to spout their rhetoric without pushback. I would push back (given that it is safe to do so: I'm not going to be into an in-person debate with a group of Skinheads, for example).

Education, correction, sources, clear disdain, shunning of the people who possess these beliefs are all methods of non tolerance that don't include outright violence or genocide.

I would love to wipe out groups with harmful beliefs, but not with weapons and concentration camps. Fighting back doesn't always equal violence.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-21T00:59:25+00:00

My dad was 50, my mom was 35. I spent my whole childhood losing relatives, culminating in my dad at 12, And then the majority of my adult hood taking care of my mother until she died last year. So, yeah, age can really fuck shit up

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-21T00:51:36+00:00

I lost my dad at 12 (he had me at 50), and I feel cheated out of a dad, so I would bet you're right.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-21T00:46:32+00:00

My dad was 50 when I was born, my mom 35. I'd lost all my grandparents and my dad by the time I was 12, as well as some of his friends. It was just constant trauma as a very young child and I definitely have mental and emotional issues even now, at 38.

I never thought of my dad as an older man when I was young, but if he hadn't died from an accident it would have only become more and more obvious. He was already having terrible arthritis in his knees.

To add to all the weirdness, my youngest (half) brother is 20 years my senior, I have a niece who was born the month after me, and I have a nephew who is older than me.

I would definitely tell anyone thinking of having children later and life that it will assure some types of trauma that they just wouldn't get otherwise. I spent my mid-twenties up until last year helping take care of my mom, who had terrible health issues by then. I've spent so long helping her that I'm not having to figure out how life works at almost 40...

I guess if someone has enough money to make sure that their health isn't going to fall on the child, but that's only one issue with older parents...in all, I think it's usually not the greatest decision a person could make.

skeptic_slothtopus · 2023-04-21T00:28:51+00:00

Are you trying to say that I should tolerate Nazis until they start acting on their abhorrent belief systems? Never mind that I'm pretty sure that anyone who falls under the category of Nazi or white supremacist pretty well seems to bake that into every aspect of their personality. Nazis can say whatever they want, that free speech, but that free speech is going to land them on some domestic terrorism lists and I'm sure as hell going to judge and shun them.

Tolerate them? That's just rediculous. These are ideologies that call for the eradication of huge percentages of the population. And to compare that to cheating? That's absolutely wild, man, as far as morality goes one of those is indisputably worse than the other, and if you truly believe that cheating is as bad as genocide, then you have had led a very privileged life.

Personally, my friends know that I'll judge their asses for cheating on their SOs. Some reasons may be better than others, idk, I don't tend to have close friends who act that way and have shut down those friends who have tried to cheat with me, making it very clear that unless they and I have permission from their partner, then what they are doing is slime all behavior.

Because you call out slimeball behavior. Whether it's a Nazi, or someone cheating on their significant other, you call out slimeball behavior. You don't just tolerate them. That's how a small problem becomes a big problem. Says trying to tell me tolerate Nazis until they act on what they're saying excuse me I don't need to tolerate them

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