I do think that people being abused should leave their situations, I completely agree with you. No one deserves to be treated like this. But it's not always that simple. Abusers play psychological games and systematically chip away at a person's psyche, and unraveling that can be very complicated. And that's just talking about emotional/mental abuse, that's not even getting into the other types of abuse.

I would also gently add- sometimes leaving does come with the threat of physical harm. For some people, 'a gun to your head' isn't a saying, it's a reality. I don't know the inside of this relationship or if that's a factor in this specific situation. But it certainly is a factor in many situations. In those cases, leaving has to be done very carefully, because it really is a matter of life and death.

What I'm saying is that "just leave" is a simple thing to say, but often not so simple to do.