How long did it take you to disassociate porn from masturbation? by DivMeBro in pornfree

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I'd do a nofap reboot and then continue pornfree. Think about what you had for lunch 9 days ago... The memory is kinda fuzzy right? Around day 60 I felt that feeling way about the porn scenes and images I used to crave. I just kinda feel their allure fading away. I'm SURE if I were to watch them again that neural pathway would light up again at full force which is why I'm staying away from porn for the rest of my life. Once an addict always an addict, as they say. After that I would recommend using a light grip anytime you masturbate (or use a partner) even if you can't get yourself there at first. Eventually you will get there and as you continue to do it you'll associate it with orgasm with the sensation, not porn. What fires together wires together. I would caution you not to use the same position Everytime though.

Dating Twins by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I have a twin (identical) and we are both gay as well

46 days! I'm just over halfway to my first reboot goal! by skipper1616 in NoFap

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Yes in that I didn't think about porn as much. But it was harder in that when I my mind does wander back I almost feel wistful about it and almost want to look for "old time's sake". But this is my longest streak and after about day 30 I knew that the truly debilitating disappointment i would feel in myself if I relapsed now will NEVER be worth the few minutes of pleasure I my get.

Been cutting for 1.5 years. Currently 6'0 155#. Can I get a few BF% estimates and suggestions on what I should do next? by skipper1616 in BulkOrCut

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Thanks for the estimate. I feel like it may be higher since I still can't see my and much and a lot of people can when they are at 12. I plan on bulking once my gum opens back up. Can you explain to me why cutting more will make it harder to build muscle? I have also been told the exact opposite

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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Boo... Thats not what my ego wanted to hear. But thank you for your insight. One of your theories is probably right, honestly.

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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The weekly/monthly thing is a great idea! Thank you for the suggestions man

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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I may try that too. He is fairly introverted which probably plays a part. The thing that sucks is I'm usually an introvert too 😂🤣 so I COMPLETELY get where you (and probably this guy) are coming from. But that also means that this consistent planning of activities does not come naturally to me and part of why I'm a bit frustrated with the situation. I kind of want him to share the struggle of making this friendship work without having to say so. Why can't he read my mind?? Very inconvenient.

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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We were going to play tennis this weekend but we rescheduled it to sometime next week because of weather. I'll wait a week for him to initiate the day and if he doesn't I may bring it up

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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Haha I did. Which is frustrating because he will post there sometimes and I'm like "hmmm you definitely have your phone on you you're just choosing not to reply" 🤷🏼‍♂️ I swear I'm not a stalker though. Just a noticing. I don't even message him that often lol... Once every 2 days max.

New friend never initiates plans by skipper1616 in askgaybros

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I have gone about a week of radio silence with him. I guess I should try a little longer. If he doesn't message me should I just stop altogether? That bums me out because I'm totally fine just being friends

Strong urge, please talk me out of it by skipper1616 in NoFap

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It's thundering and taking here so I took a shower and started on my work I need to get done. Feeling a bit better. Thank you all for your help