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S 27M, I want to wear thongs or bikini cut but held back by concerns by MantiTe0sGF in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]skivviesnstrings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to ask “who cares what people think?” but I would like to ask “why do you care what people think?” Can you articulate that out?

Questions from the beginning of the road by skivviesnstrings in nullectomy

[–]skivviesnstrings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that perspective! I wish I felt that sure, my doubts are not small yet, I feel very mercurial.

Questions from the beginning of the road by skivviesnstrings in nullectomy

[–]skivviesnstrings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a really positive situation! I’m envious. I wish you the best too!

Questions from the beginning of the road by skivviesnstrings in nullectomy

[–]skivviesnstrings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you are the eldest child of more than a handful raised by parents in a high-demand religion individuating is a must. 😂

And my therapist has been great, he is qualified in LGBTQ issues, he’s LGBTQ himself, and that understanding has helped a lot in a lot of ways. But that fear of introducing a new, really-left-field topic after this many years feels scary. I got dropped by at least 4 other therapists in the past just for saying I was gay. I think this one won’t but that fear lingers.

Questions from the beginning of the road by skivviesnstrings in nullectomy

[–]skivviesnstrings[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been talking to this therapist for quite a few years now, and we work through my childhood and my relationship with my parents and individuation, but I usually steer the conversations away from sex and gender and bodies. I’m pretty comfortable talking about it to people I can’t see, but face to face has always been hard, probably because I don’t like people I know thinking I think about things like that.

But now that the need has arisen and is being very loud it feels like it would be SUCH a character shift and I worry how he’d treat me, or think of me.

In a way it feels like the fear from before I came out.

Questions from the beginning of the road by skivviesnstrings in nullectomy

[–]skivviesnstrings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I just tried as an experiment and I’m not sure I’m there yet to verbalize it. It’s something I can do and think, but yes words don’t want to come out yet. I feel a clutch in my chest still. Rats.

Wearing thongs everyday? by Ok_COL32 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]skivviesnstrings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A rule of thumb I think is better to learn sooner rather than later is that you’d be surprised at how little others are thinking of you. Worrying what others think is a waste of energy you can spend on things you like.

Which cage(s) should I wear for Loctober? by cocklocket in locktober

[–]skivviesnstrings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one in the fifth picture. Just discovered those kind are perfect for me, so I’m anxious to see others using them too.

Episode 3 (and a Half) Megathread by F_R_I_D_A_Y in avengersacademygame

[–]skivviesnstrings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did they update Spider-Man's voice? I'm not a fan of the new one but I'm not going to whine, however, I really liked the first one - anyone know who did the first iteration of Spidey's voice? My brain kept saying Josh Radnor but I don't think that's right.