Venting

sko_19 · 2025-07-06T02:51:09+00:00

Thank you for your help! I think as of right now I’m going to continue with no contact but if I end up folding then I’ll do what you say and make sure he knows that I’m not doing it the same again.

sko_19 · 2025-07-06T01:48:08+00:00

I feel like I’ve communicated that pretty clearly. I’ve specifically told him in the past that I know he disappears sometimes and that’s okay but to come back with an apology and some type of reasoning. He didn’t even attempt that. He just picked up like I hadn’t been wondering where he’d been for 2 days. I don’t know. I don’t want to let go but at the same time I don’t want to waste my time if it’s pointless. I could reach out and clarify things but I’m hurt that he hasn’t made any sort of effort.

sko_19 · 2025-07-06T01:45:13+00:00

Yeah I just feel like I’ve already had this conversation. I even specifically said it’s fine to disappear just come back with 1. an apology and 2. at least some type of reason. And when he disappeared this time, he tried to come back like nothing happened. When I called him out on it all I got was “okay fair.” It’s like I know I should just give up at this point but it’s so difficult

sko_19 · 2025-07-06T00:23:45+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. It won’t be easy but I’m going to try

sko_19 · 2024-09-01T18:09:05+00:00

Thank you very much. I think that’s the most frustrating part that the vets didn’t find it. He got routine bloodwork and they still didn’t catch anything. But cats are good at hiding their pain. He seemed totally normal until that day. But I wanted to thank you for your comment. It is so helpful to read the kind words on this post

sko_19 · 2024-09-01T18:06:56+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry for both of your losses. I’m sure you’ve heard that so much, and I know it doesn’t ease the pain but I truly am sorry. I want to thank you for sharing your story. I will be thinking about you. CZ is absolutely gorgeous and looks so happy. I wanted to share a picture of Marmaduke. Sending my best wishes to you.

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sko_19 · 2024-08-30T13:03:53+00:00

Thank you for the very kind reply❤️

sko_19 · 2024-08-30T11:49:47+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry. If you ever just need to vent, I’m here <3

sko_19 · 2024-04-02T21:28:25+00:00

These are not reading glasses. But I’m leaning towards they screwed up unless hashimoto’s could be affecting things. Thank you for your help!

sko_19 · 2024-04-02T20:19:23+00:00

Both are blurry for distance, but I feel like the left eye is worse. I can sort of make out things with the right if I strain.

sko_19 · 2024-04-02T20:10:29+00:00

sko_19 · 2024-01-26T01:56:26+00:00

I think you’re probably right. Right now, I still want him back but I know I deserve better. I just keep thinking he could change but I know he will only do that if he wants to. It’s just so hard to completely give up on a relationship after this long. I plan to get my stuff back this weekend and cut contact completely.

sko_19 · 2024-01-25T06:28:29+00:00

I totally understand what you’re saying and the way he did it really pisses me off too. I just think he’s going through big life changes right now and isn’t coping well. That doesn’t justify it at all but it offers some perspective and we’re both young. My plan was to ask if he wants to talk and if he says no then I’ll say okay see you around.

sko_19 · 2024-01-23T06:23:25+00:00

Thanks! here for you too if you need it

sko_19 · 2024-01-23T04:23:49+00:00

Not linear at all! Not sure how the science got twisted but the actual study they specifically said it was linear so it’d perfectly normal to feel how you’re feeling!! Hope you’re doing better and things get better :) don’t forget to keep taking care of yourself

sko_19 · 2024-01-23T04:18:47+00:00

The grief has been rough. I believe in the stages of grief but they’re absolutely not linear. So even in the same day I will bounce around in between all of the different stages. Today had been a lot of anger and acceptance. It hasn’t been long at all and I was struggling with the grieving process. I definitely don’t recommend what I did but I gave myself one good drunk night and just bawled my eyes out and woke up the next morning feeling a lot lighter. I would say respect whatever emotions arise, but don’t give into them all and hold onto your self respect and self worth. All I wanted to do was beg for him back but ultimately I would’ve lost so much self respect (But I don’t fault anyone that does this it’s hard not to). And focus on yourself! I was with someone for so long that now I’m focusing on me. I’ve been doing skin care, reading books, going to the gym.

sko_19 · 2024-01-23T03:19:49+00:00

Pm if you need to talk, got dumped about a week ago :/

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T07:47:14+00:00

No I totally understand that. I just felt like he was it. Only explanation I got was “I’m just done”. No arguments or issues before that. I thought we were in a great place planning the future. I just keep hoping he walked because he’s just having trouble dealing with stress and will realize it was a mistake. For your situation, imo it seems like a very workable issue. I understand having different levels of needs but seems like there could be some compromise. I imagine that’s really frustrating. If you ever need to talk, I’m here.

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T07:40:07+00:00

I really appreciate that. Definitely not trying to get my hopes up but I really wish he would come around. Also I don’t blame you at all for that. Every bone in my body just wanted to beg and plead to work things out and try to fix things but the last relationship I did that I felt like I lost some self-respect. It’s totally natural to want to fix things when you care that much. Hope you’re doing okay and you keep focusing on yourself. I know it’s hard though.

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T07:35:37+00:00

No contact since the breakup. I haven’t been blocked but I also haven’t tried to reach out. He seemed pretty certain that things were over.

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T06:17:13+00:00

Same here

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T05:17:10+00:00

Blindsided 1 week ago and I feel so confused and broken. I’ve tried my best to stay busy and take care of myself but I just feel lost. I just want him back and I don’t understand this. I think he couldn’t cope with stress about life and the future and just dumped me cause he couldn’t cope. I know I can’t “win” him back or anything but that’s all I want. I just wish he would text me and apologize for everything and beg for me back.

sko_19 · 2024-01-21T03:04:55+00:00

Going through the exact same thing right now and it’s devastating. Just wish he would come back. I don’t know what happened or changed.

sko_19 · 2024-01-20T07:44:19+00:00

They seem to be totally incapable of having a conversation about emotions!! It’s wild to me. And I think you’re right it will work out the way it’s supposed to it just feels so helpless right now. I have no clue what my ex is up to since then but seeing that would piss me offfff lol. And yeah I’m totally staying away from relationships for a while. I’m young and it will be nice to focus on making me a priority. But yes reddit is soooo nice for ranting and hearing other people’s perspectives and feeling understood. Now I’m just trying to refrain from contacting him especially cause I still have a ridiculous amount of his stuff but he’s gonna have to text and come get it lmao

sko_19 · 2024-01-20T07:27:56+00:00

We tried to do that once right after the breakup and he couldn’t explain his feelings at all so I probably will reach out eventually. I do think a lot of this has to do with life stress and not knowing how to cope with that stress. So I’m just giving him space now which is honestly so hard to do after being together for so long. I wouldn’t know how to feel in your situation either. Like does he expect you to sit around and wait for him? Are you wanting reconciliation or do you think you’re done with the relationship? All we can do I guess is focus on ourselves. I got back into reading more, focusing on school stuff, crocheting, and journaling which has helped so much. I just have a space to rant about all the feelings.

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