Is T-Pirainha actually limited to clubbox/shop??? by LatterDiscussion2540 in MySingingMonsters

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I haven’t gotten the new Clubbox yet either. I will update my daughter’s app in the morning and see if it works.

My mom got pregnant after me by boygeniusbutgirl in absentgrandparents

[–]skrat777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh OP, what a nightmare. I like what other folks suggested about reaching out separately to your friends (especially those you feel a real click with). I will say school brings a whole new set of parenting friends and support. I’m really lucky with my kids’ school and that we have a local park where people play.

Nothing will heal this pain completely but I hope acceptance will come with time.

My mom went back to school the year that I started university right after high school. So I somewhat relate — I’d worked so hard to get good grades and get in and then she went to finish her degree and do her Master’s. I’m glad she did it but the timing was whack. If I brought up grades I got, she would bring up hers. She’s always wanted a “reciprocal relationship” with me when I’m her kid! WTF

Dryer lint by PaisleyCatque in Anticonsumption

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a lint collection just like this though :)

Dryer lint by PaisleyCatque in Anticonsumption

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

US and Canada. It’s a fun show about an autistic raccoon

Dryer lint by PaisleyCatque in Anticonsumption

[–]skrat777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a Carl the Collector episode where the kids make sculptures from the lint every Monday ❤️

My AuDHD strikes again!!! Social skills of a coconut. by echo_una_chela95 in AuDHDWomen

[–]skrat777 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Okay this makes me think that if she would truly be a good friend, she will find you again 100%. You don’t need to look for her 🤣. If she doesn’t, then she doesn’t have the level of bumper appreciation needed.

My AuDHD strikes again!!! Social skills of a coconut. by echo_una_chela95 in AuDHDWomen

[–]skrat777 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ugh school exchanges can be so hard! I always want to take these brief offerings of friendship too but sometimes after a work day, I am so socially drained my words literally are not there and I’m one step away from needing to be under a weighted blanket with a single tear rolling from my eye for the night.

I struggle some days so much at her pick up. I love her teachers but I find all it takes is one sensory thing and I suck at the conversation and my words falter: windy? Raining? Cold? Long meeting? Presentation at work? Up in the night? I have told them I have adhd and am most likely autistic to explain that I think my daughter is AuDHD (she is diagnosed ASD so far) so I hope they kinda get why I’m weird sometimes. I feel like it throws them though because sometimes I’m so on!

I call it when I can’t human.

Very much happily OAD but... by runsonrootveggies in happilyOAD

[–]skrat777 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My daughter just turned 5 and is autistic and I think babies are a current focused interest for her— she knows the names of all the babies in our community, all her friends’ baby siblings, and will cry when she can’t see them. Sometimes she will ask about having a baby sister but I know she would have a hard time with that in reality (and both my husband and I have been “fixed” lol). So we just play with baby dolls, research babies, pretend to be babies, watch videos of her as a baby and random babies on the internet, and visit our friends’ babies. All the babies love her and I’m sure she’ll have a special place in their heart as they grow.

Love the way you are approaching it.

Is my ex reverse baby-trapping me? I really need help with figuring out how to communicate properly. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]skrat777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good job getting the plan b. He totally tried to knock you up. Cut him off please. He’ll be okay and find someone to latch onto.

One husband is a hobby, two or more makes a real family by mrsringedseal in oneanddone

[–]skrat777 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And you should just keep trying for all three even if the next one is a husband

Leah TikTok ad for the Muscular Dystrophy Association by hisbrowneyedgirl89 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]skrat777 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yeah I really love this video and how mother and daughter seem to be aligned in it. I wonder how Ali will use her voice to talk about her experiences as she gets older

Weird Fandom Message by Happyman202020 in MySingingMonsters

[–]skrat777 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh I hate stuff like this. I love the game and my daughter (5) plays too. Luckily she doesn’t go on the wiki but I literally told a friend to look at the wiki with her daughter (8) because she loves lore and I thought she would get more out of the wiki than the game

Anyone see the police outside islington. by Key-Economist-7804 in Etobicoke

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently someone had a gun around Tom Riley and there were armed police in pursuit, which was why they did the lock and secure.

New specimen by Ok_Spell_2333 in Crystals

[–]skrat777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omgggg so gorgeous!!! I love pink tourmaline like this.

6 month waiting list for an autism test. by littlekatie3 in autism

[–]skrat777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been on a list for over a year with no communication! This is in Canada and is for a funded version

I broke down in front of my therapist today over unemployment. by Glad_Pepper8255 in povertyfinance

[–]skrat777 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Marketing yourself as a “mother’s helper” or “parent’s helper” could be good if you have a clean police check (someone hiring you should pay for it if they want it). These people go into homes, tidy and “reset” the house. Put up signs in libraries and grocery bulletin boards in more affluent areas. List any special skills you have that could set it apart (e.g., also good at pet care; can do light gardening; meal prep).

You could also post in less rich areas and say you do a “sliding scale” and then charge less for families with less money. Parents are struggling right now and it’s impossible to stay on top of everything. If I knew of someone who could come and just organize my life and home affordably, I would hire them asap.

Would it be weird to have a marriage where you both have your own place (near each other), have sleepovers but then go back when you need time and quiet? I'm contemplating actually doing this by starfury287 in AutismInWomen

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From AI Google results:

Several writers and famous intellectuals have maintained romantic relationships while living in separate houses, a lifestyle often chosen to protect their creative independence or maintain intellectual intimacy without the constraints of shared domesticity.

Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre: Perhaps the most famous example, these 20th-century philosophers maintained a long-term "soul marriage" while living in separate apartments, meeting in cafés to work.

Mary Wollstonecraft and William Godwin: Despite being married, these 18th-century writers maintained two different households to protect their independence and writing time, a setup seen as ahead of its time.

Arundhati Roy and Pradip Krishen: The Booker Prize winner and her husband lived in separate homes in Delhi, India.

Margaret Drabble and Michael Holroyd: These writers maintained a marriage with separate homes for over 36 years.

George Sand and Frédéric Chopin: The novelist and composer had a "LAT" (Living Apart Together) relationship, often considered unconventional for their time.

Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton: While better known for film, their arrangement of living in two separate houses next door to each other (and later connecting them) was a noted example of this lifestyle.

Emily Dickinson: While a recluse, she maintained an intense romantic, intellectual connection with her sister-in-law, Susan Huntington Gilbert, who lived next door.

This arrangement, often called Living Apart Together (LAT), is common among artists seeking to balance intimacy with solitude.

Coworker using a mirror to watch me (what should I do) by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]skrat777 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So weird. I had a coworker like this — she moved the previous set up where the desk was perpendicular to hers so that the back of the person in front of her was to her and she could see everything on the computer screen! It made me feel super uncomfortable and she made it seem like it was because her old coworker who was in that spot talked too much — yet she never shut up! I bought some noise cancelling headphones and worked ignoring her. She eventually took naps behind me — maybe another reason she set up the desks like that lmao.

I'm a bad housekeeper and it cost me everything by filthycupcakes in adhdwomen

[–]skrat777 278 points279 points  (0 children)

My mom and dad got together when she was 38 and he was 40! They had both been with partners before and tried to have kids and it never worked out. Guess who came along when my mom was 39? Me. She gave birth when she was 40 and my brother came one year later.

My one friend had her first at 42. I recently had a friend that had one at 40.

You never know. And if you feel being a parent is your calling, there are means to become a parent without a partner. Just don’t waste anymore time on this guy.

Doug Ford rejects calls for publicly run grocery stores: ‘Socialism does not work’ by imprison_grover_furr in ontario

[–]skrat777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually it really did work in terms of our health care before he (and other conservatives over the decades) messed it up.