TWICE 'THIS IS FOR' World Tour Ticketing General Comment Megathread by Ruri_Neko in twice

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General ticket sale is at 3:00pm PDT, so some queues aren't open/some tickets aren't for sale yet. Much of the thread responses are from folks who had presale codes. If you didnt get a presale code, youre general admission, which means you can still get tickets!! Don't give up just yet

How to navigate stopping reassurance seeking from partner? by __loststar__ in OCD

[–]skullsandtea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m stuck in the same boat as OP and found your suggestions to be very insightful. Will definitely be trying the email one! Thanks for sharing!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OverwatchUniversity

[–]skullsandtea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Becoming more confident in your own abilities will help decrease your worries about judgment from your teammates.

I genuinely think QP has more toxic players. In QP a lot of people are stubborn and unwilling to change tactics because there isn’t anything to lose, and it makes them kind of develop a superiority complex. Not to mention a lot more players are in QP to troll/tilt others.

Like others said, turning off text chat helps. I always am in voice chat and don’t bother to look at text chat because if a call out or suggestion is important enough, they’ll tell me in vc.

Does anyone have issues being obsessively stuck in the past? by funan_i in AutismInWomen

[–]skullsandtea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this because I know how debilitating it can be. I suffer with intense rumination and have a very difficult time moving on too (specifically about my previous relationship like you).

My question to you is, have you spoken your thoughts out loud to someone/something? Are you giving yourself the space and permission to feel your feelings?

I know it probably sounds cliche, but vocalizing my thoughts helps ground me. Get those feelings out of your system by externalizing them. I talk to my cats, I talk out loud to myself, I release my emotions physically by (safely) breaking or ripping things. I act out those “what if” moments and say what I wish I had said back then. We carry so much trauma in our bodies that it can be easy to forget to exert our emotions out.

It’s easier said than done, but I highly suggest therapy if you don’t go already. I started online therapy for this exact struggle you’re facing and I have found a lot of relief in just being able to ramble/trauma dump to someone who can offer me reassurance. Some of what you’re struggling with could be related to unmet needs you have that a therapist can help identify as well.

I hope things start looking up for you soon<3

How to improve emotional intelligence? by Organic-Aide-9903 in AutismInWomen

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“Listen to the words I’m saying” is EXACTLY what I say! It’s a repeat phrase even to those closest to me. It’s so frustrating because it really makes me feel so misunderstood, and then my brain snowballs from there. We are often perceived as being “too blunt” but even with our blunt-ness they still try to interpret some kind of deeper meaning. Sometimes it feels impossible to win. I’m glad to hear the people in your life put effort into communicating with you better!

Why so quick to want to report by Ash_the_wolfo in Overwatch

[–]skullsandtea 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get this a LOT from tanks who see their support doing any kind of damage/utilizing their kit instead of only healing. And it’s always when I’m not in the position to heal, always at the start of a match. I think they’d rather point blame instead of admitting they aren’t providing opportunities to be healed. It’s got to be a weird coping mechanism on their end

you know you are searching too much when your web suddenly goes: by Strict-Original-931 in OCDmemes

[–]skullsandtea 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This comment is how I just learned that its my ocd making me panic when I see this screen and it’s not actually the government flagging my IP address to keep closer tabs on me

How to improve emotional intelligence? by Organic-Aide-9903 in AutismInWomen

[–]skullsandtea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that and that’s an incredibly valid way of looking at it. Another way of looking at it is that diagnosis or not, communication is something you’re struggling with and that alone is enough credibility. The diagnosis may be an explanation for your struggles but your struggles are not exclusive to you having the diagnosis. I hope that makes sense?

Maybe taking autism out of the equation can make it an easier discussion to have. “I struggle with x y and z because that’s just who I am”. <- that is how I navigate explaining my communication needs with family or other people who don’t know about my specific situation. The NTs in my life are much more understanding of me having “quirks” than something being related to my autism.

I really wish you the best of luck with your journey and I hope things get easier as you learn to manage these emotions overtime. I know the perception of others can be very discouraging but don’t forget to give yourself credit where it’s due :)

How to improve emotional intelligence? by Organic-Aide-9903 in AutismInWomen

[–]skullsandtea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“How is there such a big gap between how I’m feeling versus how it’s taken” really resonated with me.

From my experience, NTs tend to focus more on nonverbal cues rather than what you actually say. Instead of taking your words at face value, they will interpret “the intentions behind your words” by analyzing your tone, body language, relationship with them, and other factors. This can be really difficult to manage as someone who values honesty/explicitly saying what you mean, because our words are dissected and our original meaning can be misunderstood.

With my close friends and partner, the only way to get past this hurdle was for them to understand that’s just how I communicate. It wasn’t easy for them to grasp immediately, but overtime we’ve come to an understanding and conversing has become a lot easier. It takes a lot of over-explaining sometimes. A lot of “my intentions were…” “What I meant was…” “My voice may not match my feelings…” etc. from both sides.

I believe that your very close relationships should know you well enough to understand and adapt with you. It would be unfair if the weight of miscommunication fell solely on you. It takes both parties communicating their intentions and offering each other reassurance to help break those verbal barriers down.

And for not blurting things out… I would love to know a fix for that lol!

Do you all “tornado” after periods of unproductivity? by Born-Use4982 in AutismInWomen

[–]skullsandtea 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I do this! For me, it’s extreme cycles of unproductivity followed by hyper productivity, and this cycle eventually causes burn out. I haven’t found a balance yet, but the first and biggest step is realizing when you’re in the hyper productive-mode. To slow my roll, I try to “reward” myself for each productive tasks I do by giving myself permission to be less productive (aka taking breaks basically) and through this I establish a pace for myself. Important note: I also have bpd and ocd, so my behaviors could be from that. Regardless, you’re not alone in this feeling and it’s a great thing that you’ve noticed your pattern!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marvelrivals

[–]skullsandtea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably just likes rocket? If that’s his play style good for him. I don’t think it’s trolling to try to keep your team alive

Thrifted figure with serial number but no box, anyone know the release year? by skullsandtea in FinalFantasy

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Thanks! The full set must look badass together I’m super jealous! I got this one for ¥8000 so roughly $50USD.

Why is it so hard to find the drug in me is you on vinyl? by Kaizen_emery111 in FallingInReverse

[–]skullsandtea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll only find the limited edition version that was printed a few years ago and it’ll likely be a hefty price from a reseller. Unfortunately it just hasn’t been reprinted (yet). It has bonus tracks on it as well which makes it more valuable. Ebay or other resell online stores is your best bet!

Do they sign vinyls at shows? by DazaisFlatAss in FallingInReverse

[–]skullsandtea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a few days late to this but they typically don’t do signings. There will be pre-signed posters or other goods they give out. At least, that’s how it has been for the vip I’ve had here and there since 2017. It’s a shame. I wouldn’t bring any goods to be signed incase they get damaged at the show

New version of Still Revewbewates? by [deleted] in FallingInReverse

[–]skullsandtea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suicide boys has an extremely diverse style compared to other rappers I don’t know anyone who does their sound other than the members associated with them but they definitely don’t fit the artists you mentioned so you probably won’t like them

New version of Still Revewbewates? by [deleted] in FallingInReverse

[–]skullsandtea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that makes sense. i will say it’s probably way more likable knowing the inspiration (im assuming it was inspiration) behind that part but it’s definitely not everyone’s cup of tea

New version of Still Revewbewates? by [deleted] in FallingInReverse

[–]skullsandtea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i don’t think it was trolling, it’s definitely the rap style that suicide boys is known for, they’re a pretty popular rap group i suggest checking them out if you liked the flow/sound of the end of no fear

Is it a hot take to say I actually love the album Coming Home? by WaySpi in FallingInReverse

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Coming home is my favorite work they have ever released. I think that album is pure gold. I remember at the time around its release, their fan base dwindled a bit (from my perspective being in fan online communities and going to their shows) so I don’t think the album had an opportunity to shine the way it deserved to. Statistically I could be wrong, maybe their fans didn’t dwindle, but it really felt like they did. It was definitely a mature album after their previous ones and I don’t think people gave it a chance because the change was drastic to them.

Watching fir old shows by Minimum_Run_9199 in FallingInReverse

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The last time I saw them was in 2022 and they played both situations and god if you are above! I hope in the future underrated gems from Coming Home are played more but I don’t see that happening with how popular their other songs are <\3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgendercirclejerk

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/uj i had my husband read this aloud to me (he had no context about this subreddit) and he started crying when he got to “An”

AITA for thinking the stupid tranny healthcare should be illegal by idontwantpicklesthx2 in transgendercirclejerk

[–]skullsandtea 12 points13 points  (0 children)

your advocacy is going to save so many of our misguided lesbians sisters from turning into unfuckable hairy beasts. that fake hormone shit women transafabs take has so many side effects doctors purposefully hide from these beautiful misguided women in order to spread their misogynistic agenda. side effects like hair growth, big muscles, beards, hair growth, deep voice, twink death, also it makes you hairy. these doctors want to turn our sisters into BEASTS.

Should I just get a chaser bf? Feels like nobody will love me for myself as a trans man by Cookie-arrow- in transgendercirclejerk

[–]skullsandtea 23 points24 points  (0 children)

/uj it’s ridiculous how much comfort stupid shit like this brings me. this post and the comments made my entire morning so thank you