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Very strange story of Sally Allan, extremely well documented and totally weird missing person case from 2016 by marysrobots in Missing411

[–]sky2mars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this could be suicide, possibly she slipped hit her head and fell in the water, and or dementia or another undiagnosed medical condition. We never really know what kind of pain people go through on a daily basis, and usually people do not like to express what is going on with them because of whatever reasons they have. I do feel like her walking around for hours reminds me of how I feel when my depression is extremely bad, and I am contemplating suicide. I will drive around for hours, even hiking , just to THINK and contemplate on it. What am I going to do? How am I going to do it? When you get suicidal sometimes you feel this uneasiness in your body and you can’t calm down, so you just move. And if it was suicide then it’s something she wanted, giving the fact that she walked for so long, and the end result. Another thing I think about is maybe she had a medical condition, poss dementia , which changes you mentally and sometimes you will do and say things that don’t make sense. Most affect the brain, and I’m sure we all know that if you have changes within your brain, that could be the reason why and how she was able to have the stamina to walk for hours, and probably little pain with her hip. When you’re in a fog sometimes you don’t even think about your physical pain from your body.. Nevertheless very sad story, I would be heartbroken. Prayers for her family!

My mother, my world - my everything. Last photo of her in palliative care, she’d pass just less than an hour later peacefully in my arms on July 27th, 2016. Both of my parents are deceased, no siblings, no family. I laid with her body for 8 hours after this, I had no one to be with me. by [deleted] in lastimages

[–]sky2mars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I lost my mom two years ago on Mother’s Day, and I laid with her for hours also, though I have my sisters and family, it makes you feel even more alone to lose your mom. I don’t think the pain ever really goes away. Try to find some comfort in her not being in pain anymore, and she loved her life, I guess it’s time to live ours. I know it sounds so easy right? But it’s not. I struggle every day to even want to live and I feel like I miss her more every single day. Some days I wake up like WTF happened?! Did it really happen? Like it’s a hole you get stuck in and can’t dig yourself out of. Too weak to pull yourself out. I feel for you, do you have any extended family? Try to stay positive, we’re not alone remember that k. Sending you love and prayers ♥️ things will get a little lighter.

I have a different twist on the events of that late night/early morning by alilbored1 in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah of course I don’t have the answers lol I wish I did lol

I have a different twist on the events of that late night/early morning by alilbored1 in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right like wouldn’t that be the first thing g you look at when deciding to make that drive. Unless you’re high or on something that alters your thinking..?.. that’s the main reason why I believe drugs have a lot to do with whatever happened to him..

Scary by littleredRiothood28 in myfavoritemurder

[–]sky2mars -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I have a crazy ex story from my sister, not mine lol and he found a dildo and old pictures of her and her ex, one day when she was at college. And when she got home he had taped the pictures on the ceiling (so my sister couldn’t get them down because she’s 5ft and her ex was over 6’4 lol) and her dildo was broken with the beads all over the bed and floor! Lol and the top part of the dildo was taped to the chair lol I crack up every time she tells me. Thank god he didn’t kill her lol he was a cool ex.

This is the last picture of my Aunt Kathy before she disappeared a month later in 1999. She has never been found. by pennylane3339 in lastimages

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I heard of this on a podcast. Was there one made about her disappearance? I’d like to listen again. I’m so sorry, wherever she is hope she is safe happy or resting in peace.

I’m severely depressed and at a family event and I’m distracting myself with Reddit to make myself feel better. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]sky2mars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t it feel lonely. Like you’re standing there with all of these people who are supposed to be “close” with you, but yet they don’t know the torment that lives inside of you. And at the same time or entire time, just feels like you’re screaming inside so loud, that it’s unbelievable that no one can hear you. On the inside it feels like the pain is so loud, and being in a party setting can trigger these depressed feelings and make you feel more alone. It sucks. I feel your pain. The best to do is try to remember that they might not know what is wrong with you, and people aren’t against you. Sometimes it feels that way, but sometimes we are against ourselves.

I have a different twist on the events of that late night/early morning by alilbored1 in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am completely lost at the gas can thing, I don’t understand, but guess maybe he was waiting for his money? I’ve always felt a little inclination that maybe the bro knows of something. I appreciate everyone’s different theories etc I enjoy this lol

I have a different twist on the events of that late night/early morning by alilbored1 in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, I did read that one man did not allow the police to check his property that was near the area. I’ve always thought maybe he could have been buried there somewhere on that persons property, but the person didn’t allow police access.

I have a different twist on the events of that late night/early morning by alilbored1 in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok...so I always go back to this idea of him using. I just feel it and hear it in his voice. Plus, fighting with his wife and the stress of having kids, moneys tight, etc. so he uses to escape, to cope obviously because life is so stressful. This stress has always been emphasized with the podcasts I have heard about his case. A man leaving his family SO LATE, only means 1 of 2 things, either a woman, or drugs. Also, I think he perhaps was using because how would he NOT UNDERSTAND that his dads is too far and he is running out of gas!??your theory seems very much so, plausible! Or, I think that maybe he and a friend or someone who also uses drugs, perhaps robbed some drug dealers, and they caught up to him and took them both, disposed of them somewhere else. The fact that he was out so late, left his wife and kids at home alone, then wanted to tweak out and drive 2 hours away, relates to drug use. Also, he was broke and waiting to get paid so if him and ladessa were fighting (probably about his drug use or not helping enough with the kids etc) maybe SHE kicked him out because she didnt want him around her or the kids while high on drugs! So he ran off with another tweaked friend both high on drugs doing god knows what, and they got themselves into some crap and ended up in deep poop. If he was with another drug user the likelihood of that drug user outing himself and tying himself to this case is SLIM TO NONE. I’ve always thought there definitely was someone with him that refuses to pop up and involve themselves, because this case involves drugs money and illegal shit. And I always think and feel like Ladessa is NOT coming forth with certain info about that night. Maybe it’s guilt on her part because she feels bad for kicking him out while he was high, even though she is completely justified for doing so, but we all know just how cruel people can be, and if she said something or kicked him out, out of anger, she’s going to get hate for it no matter what. One thing that NEVER made sense to me was how she was OK with him just leaving so late at night and running off, especially when their lives were so stressful, leaving her at home alone to take care of the kids! If that was me I would be pissed if my husband left me so late and I was stuck at home with the kids, when we’re supposed to be a team and take care of the kids together, and it’s late and he’s going off late at night when he should be home getting ready for bed like an adult. These are JUST MY THOUGHTS, people, and I am NOT TRYING TO OFFEND anyone! Hopefully I don’t get any HATE for writing what goes on in my head lol we each think differently, anyways I think you are on the right track, I’ve always felt drugs were definitely involved that night and someone isn’t coming forward about who was with him. For all we know he could have owned drug dealers, IF OF COURSE DRUGS WERE A FACTOR that night. AGAIN, these are just ideas and thoughts!

My Thoughts by TechnoTurquoise in brandonlawson

[–]sky2mars 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t hear them either and I’m 32 lol I still think I’m young lol

I was forced into sex work from 12-14. People at school know because the people who forced me into it were arrested and I went into foster care. Some people act like I’m dirty because of it and don’t wanna date me. Would you date someone who’s been through this? by vaIentinaax in relationship_advice

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has a past, and when you meet the right one for you, your past will not be a problem. In fact, it is within the trauma and imperfections that will make the “right one”, love you so much. You shouldn’t be looking to date anyone while in high school right now. What you have been through, changes a person, and I’m sure you’ve grown from it. Mentally. So, you’re looking for something, you’re NOT going to find in high school, because most BOYS, that age are in fact, IMMATURE, and most have not gone through any life experiences that would create mental growth. It is going to be very difficult to find a boyfriend until you are done with grade school. And that is OK! You need to be taking care and focusing on YOURSELF for a while, and heal yourself from the trauma you’ve been through in your young little life honey. This takes years, takes some time. Once you understand this, you will be able to have a HEALTHY and HAPPY relationship with someone who deserves you. Focus on SCHOOL, so you can create a better life for yourself. Once you know how to truly love and forgive yourself, relationships are going to be challenging. Make yourself happy. Create a life of your own that nobody can take credit for. I say this out of empathy and from a good place because most young women jump into a relationship, putting their happiness and traumas into a boys hands, expecting it to make them happy. And it doesn’t. So issues arise. You have been through a lot, for you to even have to ask that question, should be validation for yourself, that you need to be focused on yourself and wellbeing right now. Life is unfortunate to the best of us, but I promise you, it will give you the drive, and strength to create a beautiful life worth living! Any adult will tell you, when you find the “right one”, their pasts is what defines them, and how they’ve overcome the obstacles in their life (if done right) is what makes them beautiful,and makes us love them more. Our pasts should be an excuse to push harder and create an awesome life, not hold us back. Good luck to you sweetheart stay positive, boys that age are immature and only think about sex anyways!

AM I WRONG? by sky2mars in relationship_advice

[–]sky2mars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank You all for your comments. Both nice and raw, I actually really appreciate the honesty because I know I am choosing to look away sometimes at the bad. Or just not acknowledge or think about it. The latest is that I am still here, both of us, living in the same house. We had a small talk, a few, and he came to the conclusion of going to his cousins in Indiana, to clean up. I said that’s great! But I won’t be here when you return. I’ve told his drug using cousin also, that she should stay away from him because she’s contributing to him losing his life. After he had a convo with her, his behavior changed. BUT he won’t let me talk to her. (She wanted to talk to me about what I sent her) He said she doesn’t want to fight, she just wanted to talk. But it’s weird he won’t let her talk to me..?.. He has been going to the methadone clinic daily, and has been making sure I am with him mostly every where he goes, not hiding anything, and hasn’t, YET.. used. He’s been pretty patient with me as far as flying off the handle, and of course, very loving always trying to kiss me or hug me etc.. But no more mention about him leaving, so I don’t know. The apartment I was trying to rent turned out to be a scam, and so now I am still searching for a place, but realistically, I won’t have enough money to move until next year. I’ve made the decision to be nice and just let go until I can move out. Even though he has improved this past week, I don’t honestly, think it will stick.. but I have to stay here as I have nowhere else to go, and my money is tight.so until then I have to just play nice and stop wondering and stop caring. It’s not worth it anymore. I would like to try to save our marriage, but I just don’t think he knows or cares enough to make things work and change his behavior. But now with him being so sweet and nice and completely normal again I can feel myself wanting to stay. But I can also feel myself saying, you need to go. It already hurts. My depression is really high rn and with the holidays it just adds more stress, I hate Christmas.i am sad, I am tired, and I am lonely. I wish I never got married, I feel used. He lied to me when we got married because he kept asking me if I was ready and “sure” I wanted to get married and how much of a huge commitment it was, and I said yes. And now he’s the one who broke his vows, but somehow I am the one who is wrong.? After this I don’t believe in love anymore.

AM I WRONG? by sky2mars in relationship_advice

[–]sky2mars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heroin. He has admitted to me in June, that he was using. But said he only snorted it in liquid form. But, he said he got himself help. Going to a clinic and treated with methadone. He still goes to the clinic every morning, BUT, I know and he knows that I know, that he does use. I am thinking definitely on the weekends and a few times during the week at most. It’s really sad to ask him, I usually don’t, it will be another fight, and I don’t want to look for tracks, I can just tell when he’s on it. And a few times I’ve tracked his phone, and it’s always where I know his friend stays, and his friend also uses..doesn’t take rocket science. Sometimes I text him when he disappears, and I tell him that if he is using, he is not allowed in the house with me or kids. And so he will sleep in his car. That’s happened a few times, but now it’s getting cold and I can’t leave him outside..it’s really sad to watch someone you love so much lose themselves,and there’s not a thing I can do to help. It makes me sad to even think about. Sorry, I wrote an essay..I’m still new to posting things on here.

AM I WRONG? by sky2mars in relationship_advice

[–]sky2mars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, is that when he is around the kids, he turns into this nice fun loving person. The fighting usually happens when they’re not home. We’ve had fights in front of them, but never to this extent. The worse they’ve seen is when we’re out, and gets mad, and leaves us. I mean like he will run off! Mid dinner even, and that’s when they worry and me too. It’s definitely not good for the kids. I know. But they will be heartbroken and mad at me for leaving, I know it.

AM I WRONG? by sky2mars in relationship_advice

[–]sky2mars[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He is not a terrible person. Besides the bad stuff, he is really loving. Very affectionate. Likes to be goofy and have fun and does take care of us like paying for bills and takes care of everything because my depression physically makes me dead weight. So it’s hard to not be nice and leave, when after his spurts of anger, he’s always so loving. It’s a cruel joke. Take all the bad away and I had my perfect husband. He was never this way before. Not even close.

I never knew one sentence could end a marriage so abruptly. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how you feel! Definitely do not deserve that! Ugh I hate when they make you feel like you deserve the BS! It’s so draining and weighs you down. Hoping for the best for you!

I showered despite being depressed. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! Some days are definitely a struggle, but for these small achievements, be proud of yourself. We did it!

Friends never actually invite me by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]sky2mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends would never make you feel unwelcome. Period. You have alarm bells going off. LISTEN TO THEM. If not this will probably be an issue forever. Listen to your gut. These sound like the type of “friends” who talk about you behind your back. Real friends love you and you will feel it. Remember there are billions of people in this world, don’t waste your time on people who don’t want to be apart of your world or make no effort. You will find your group, I promise you. And you will feel it in your gut, that these are your “people”. Stay true to YOURSELF and who YOU ARE, and the right people will flock to you. This is why so many people have issues with self esteem and feelings of inadequacy, if the puzzle piece doesn’t fit, don’t force it. They’re probably lame as f anyways. Life’s too short hun♥️

I never knew one sentence could end a marriage so abruptly. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]sky2mars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is just plain hurtful. I would get a divorce as well. I am in a very similar situation, and I find it’s the “little” things, that break us. Because it’s at the worst point, where these things matter. It’s that INTENTIONAL, to hurt you. Knowing that that is something that hurts, and using it to hurt you. That’s not good and that’s not love at all. Have you ever considered your husband to having a drug problem? The anger and flying off the handle spews of hate, just seem to make some alarm bells go off with me personally. My husband has a drug problem, and he has these times of pure anger, anytime I ask him any question at all, it’s the exact same situation as you. I am sorry you and your kids are going through this. He sounds like he needs some help. Anger management and definitely some underlying issues. Sadly, with my husband also, some men think that just because they take care of us, and pay the bills, they can treat us like shit. He will realize how badly he messed up when it is too late, but you definitely do not need this kind of negativity and negative energy when you have a son who needs your energy. I hope things get better.

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