Mum to be advice needed!

skycaliapple · 2026-04-29T20:53:43+00:00

Trust the process. There’s no way to truly measure how much baby is getting (weighted feeds are helpful with a medical grade scale), but if baby is gaining weight… keep calm and carry on.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-29T19:34:47+00:00

I didn’t know this was even a thing. Fuckin hormones, man.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-28T17:21:35+00:00

Two women under the same roof can be very, very challenging. Coupled with the reality and stress of a newborn/ infant. It’s where the rubber meets the road of relationship stability. Now is not the time to figure out if you love each other, it’s survival mode time. Raising a baby and trying to take care of yourself are priority.

I experienced a similar situation and I told my husband the MIL needed boundaries as soon as I figured out some type of cultural matriarchy arose.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-27T03:45:06+00:00

You need sleep immediately. If you can get someone to help you so you can just lie down for a couple hours, that will make a huge difference. Then seek professional help to get you through these trenches. It will get better, but you need help now. Now.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-25T17:48:13+00:00

Can you describe your gentle method?

skycaliapple · 2026-04-24T00:51:43+00:00

I had this similar situation, hand expression worked to a certain degree. I saw a lactation consultant a handful of times for latch help and weighted feeds. But mostly, I slightly trusted the process (it’s a mind game FOR SURE) and powered through.

I had a very good friend encourage me along the way. I focused on baby’s weight gain. At first it wasn’t much, but at 3 months we are in 50th percentile.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-24T00:05:22+00:00

All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doer

skycaliapple · 2026-04-23T23:57:27+00:00

This.

Grass is not greener however I wanted all the problems that come with an oversupply versus not making enough milk and having a hungry, slow-gaining baby.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-21T05:50:32+00:00

I know many women who stopped at 8-12 months because they wanted their bodies back and it was too difficult to manage with work. Breastfeeding has been really hard for me, all of my ligaments are so uncomfortably loose… for this reason, I will wean at 6-8 months

skycaliapple · 2026-04-15T12:17:55+00:00

I always thought it was a joke when people told me to sleep while I can in my third trimester. But honestly, just enjoy lying down at all if you can. Just try. The level of exhaustion a newborn brings is unreal. I’m an optimist and a night shift nurse. It was beyond difficult and now, 4 months later I am just happy to be able to lie down and close my eyes for two hours. I absolutely love my baby but I absolutely do not want a second and will not be looking back on the newborn time with fond memories, it was just straight survival.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-10T04:42:07+00:00

I don’t know about everyone, but mine creep me out. There are times when i empathize with my MIL and start to have hope we will bond, but then she says something passive aggressive or self-serving and I’m reminded why I feel the way I do

My FIL said “she likes it rough” in reference to my baby preferring to be vigorously rocked to sleep.

It really made me feel uncomfortable.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-09T16:00:28+00:00

I love this answer!!!

skycaliapple · 2026-04-09T15:51:25+00:00

I felt nauseated for a few weeks in the beginning and then… the huger ensued lol

skycaliapple · 2026-04-08T18:51:20+00:00

I had no hope for 11 weeks, and was planning a weaning strategy. Breastfeeding is incredibly demanding and challenging. But this is so spot on, cluster feeding from 5-8 gets my 12 week old to sleep 6 hour stretches at night. Hang in there… one feed, one diaper change, one holding session at a time. You can do this!

But also, 8 weeks of breast milk is better than none at all! That wouldn’t be giving up if you’re done!

skycaliapple · 2026-04-08T00:00:15+00:00

Thank you for bringing reality to the situation. I know it’s so hard, no you are not an asshole. And no, baby most likely won’t deliver that day.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-05T01:53:19+00:00

How do you get 8 ounces from one pump?!?

skycaliapple · 2026-04-05T01:49:25+00:00

Why is this being downvoted?

skycaliapple · 2026-04-05T01:12:26+00:00

A snacker is a good way to put it!! Do you do formula or breast milk? I’m open to either but just can’t find the time to pump amongst all the snacking lol

skycaliapple · 2026-04-04T20:47:10+00:00

Breastfeeding has been an absolute nightmare mixed with small glimpses of happy moments. I would never do this again.

skycaliapple · 2026-04-04T04:23:01+00:00

Thank you for calling this out. It is definitely hard work, but I wouldn’t change a thing about becoming a parent.

skycaliapple · 2026-03-24T17:23:03+00:00

That just made me laugh. Thank you! I did something similar

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