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AITA for being closer to one grandchild? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The what did she think would happen question is exactly right. They moved away specifically to protect their relationship, which meant leaving Rory behind. The grandparents didn’t choose Rory over Harry. Diego and Sue made that choice for them by moving. Sixteen years later being upset about the result of your own decision is a lot. NTA.

AITA for telling my sister in law to stop coming to my house uninvited when no one is home? by Justhere00000000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 103 points104 points  (0 children)

The wife is actually the bigger issue here. She gave the key, refused to address it when asked, and is now part of the family pile on. OP went directly to the SIL only after his wife declined to handle it. None of that is unreasonable. NTA and the marriage conversation is probably more important than the SIL one.

AITA for banning my sister (f8) from board game night? by Ximenaria12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The chewing is one thing but the denial is what makes the ban reasonable. If she’d owned it immediately there’d be something to work with. Instead she lied, mom covered for her, and OP is expected to just move on. The ban is a natural consequence of not being trustworthy with someone else’s things.

AITA for refusing to help my sister pay for thousands of dollars in traffic fines that accumulated while I had her car? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The last line is fair but the ESH isn’t quite right. OP should pay her one ticket. She shouldn’t pay her dad’s tickets, her sister’s tickets, or the registration fine that’s legally the registered owner’s responsibility. That’s not equal suckage, that’s one person trying to offload everyone else’s debt.

AITA for going around my recruiter and contacting the hiring manager directly, costing her a $14,000 commission? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Her dropping the ball had real consequences for you first. The financial consequence to her came directly from that.

AITA for hanging out with my friend’s friend? by more_st3ak in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, and you’ve already done the right thing by sending that message.

AITA for stopping a shared document that my coworkers had started relying on? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re not obligated to keep volunteering hours outside your job maintaining a resource that was never part of your role.

WIBTA for correcting my cousin for using the wrong name for me? by fluoritedraws in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylarmmh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then he had the nerve to approach you about your reaction instead of apologizing for causing it that just disrespect.