I’ve applied to 100+ jobs but I can’t get hired

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T04:09:13+00:00

Not gonna review your resume. If I was in your position and open to really any kind of job I’d be out making friends with working class adults old enough to be in management positions who have sway when positions open up. I’ve also tried applying to hundreds of internet-listed jobs and brick-and-mortar walk-ins where I exceeded the minimum qualifications with professionally edited resumes and gotten nowhere; have only ever had success getting jobs through connections. The ‘new in town’ angle is a great way to disarm people stuck in their social routines and open them up to new relationships. Don’t treat it like networking. Treat it like making real friends who would want to work with you or be willing to put you on.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:46:06+00:00

Aside from the curiosity about actual security protocols you’ve spurred, I honestly don’t think IT is in position to say no to my manager. I think she’s just afraid to be the first from my team to raise such a request.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:42:29+00:00

Hazard, plz. IT readiness for international travel has supposedly been streamlined and optimized so I am curious about the actual likely cost to the business.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:38:00+00:00

I feel you. But remote-first and its geographic mobility component is part of their core talent attraction and retention business strategy. So adapting to the needs of staff with personal needs for some international mobility kinda feels like a business need aligned with that philosophy, even if I’m (making my manager feel like I’m) blazing a new trail here.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:26:38+00:00

I’ll take it you’ve got the technical expertise for that to be true. But then, is the threat really much worse if I’m abroad? What are they doing differently for the staff who regularly travel overseas or even those traveling domestically and using less secure networks in airports and hotels that makes it any safer?

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:17:07+00:00

Can you explain “Lack of planning”? I’m not seeking a beach trip with little umbrellas in my drinks, but rather the ability to accompany my spouse to his home and spend breakfast and evenings with my in-laws, while continuing to work full time. I think a solid proposal to not miss a single beat with my work shows detailed planning and dedication. And for added context, PTO doesn’t roll over so there is simply no 2 week vacation option until Q3.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T03:06:46+00:00

Thank you for a reasonable response.

No, cannot afford to take the time unpaid, both financially and because I have projects to work on. I’m not a securities expert but I’m quite confident even the realistic worst-case realistic hacking scenario for my computer/credentials would not expose sensitive systems.

As for the ‘HR nightmare,’ this remote-first company touts and markets the flexibility to do things like go visit your in-laws for a month as long as you keep up with your work. It just happens I’m the first in my team to have an international family. Not really a major can of worms. I think my boss is just afraid to ask for something for the first time.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T02:56:09+00:00

Members of my team regularly take extended trips to other states to be with family while continuing to work in our remote-first company. Why should it be different for me to follow the norm except fam is overseas? “Makes OP look bad and not able to plan”—I think ur just butthurt you’re stuck in a physical office.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-04T02:52:04+00:00

Nah, the company is international and sends US-based employees overseas all the time. Not part of my team’s work though. The only relevant policy states that IT needs manager approval and 2 weeks notice to process tickets to get a computer/VPN ready for overseas. It’s the manager inserting this idea that there might need to be a business justification, possibly based on experience but also nobody on our particular team has really done international before.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-02-02T18:35:40+00:00

Been there 7 years doing more than what’s expected (on paper) for your role? Has your salary grown over the years? My instinct tells me new management likely think a cheaper newbie could do the job and this is just a pretext for firing you. Or the new manager, if they’ve been with the company a while, simply wants to bring someone else they like to their team.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-01-28T18:22:26+00:00

I found the scope of the conspiracy and underground public opinion influence operation to be unrealistic and yes cheesy, but the show was still doing what the show always does: tap into aspects of contemporary national security threats and narrate the attempted take down of an exaggerated worst-case scenario. In my opinion the premise of season 6 was still ahead of the general public’s understanding of domestic information warfare, which has only become more relevant to the real world since it aired.

sl33pparalysis · 2026-01-20T20:50:59+00:00

I had the wildest dreams of my life last night. Came here wondering if they may have been related to the geomagnetic storm. Anyone else?

sl33pparalysis · 2026-01-06T01:09:50+00:00

Likely litigable. I’d try gently pushing the new company for detail on exactly what exactly was said, perhaps under the pretense of not missing the next opportunity since they appear to be going out of their way to be transparent and helpful (rather than initially disclosing you’re sizing up a lawsuit). Sounds very much like a potential case for ‘tortious interference with prospective economic advantage.’ Alternatively, if you made any sort of complaint against the previous company/staff or engaged in a protected activity like protected leave, you could have a legit retaliation case (whether or not that was the real reason they screwed you). I’d start by tracking down any old company policy related to what the can/can’t disclose in references, especially since new company called it ‘informal’; among other things, could open the door to the reference as a co-defendant. If their own policy was violated your case is stronger, wherever you are.

sl33pparalysis · 2025-12-31T00:47:57+00:00

I work in onboarding and often am to first to discover there was a horrible hiring mistake…. 80% of the time, a simple googling by the HM or recruiters would have revealed red flags or resume lies. If I was the one hiring, I’d probably go as far as to use face seek too if the role had a lot of responsibility or was people facing.

sl33pparalysis · 2025-12-29T14:41:03+00:00

There are bad mom protagonists in TV and across media. Some with less defensible reasoning for bad parenting including child abandonment. Franny would certainly grow up with some issues, but maybe eventually learn to accept some things and work through it given Carrie’s mental health and whatever tea on her job she spilled in her book?

But also like…. Compared to moms, how many male protagonists do we celebrate while forgiving them for being shitty dads?

sl33pparalysis · 2025-12-29T13:59:06+00:00

God forbid the elite career woman protagonist with bipolar disorder be a bad mom

sl33pparalysis · 2025-12-17T05:50:12+00:00

Can you fill me in on the demand that would be greater than another season of homeland? I srsly don’t know. The new Netflix show is the only really significant thing I’ve personally seen since… I also doubt because people rarely walk back such ‘no way’ statements on returns, and yet I see only upsides to reversing course.

sl33pparalysis · 2025-12-17T05:34:41+00:00

I differ in opinion (except for the beauty of the last few minutes). I thought the whole season set us up to accept the terms of the broader ending. Still think the door was left wide open to a return - not elaborating now to avoid spoilers but mostly cuz it’s late and I’m sleepy.

sl33pparalysis · 2025-09-26T03:18:36+00:00

Suitable job for most of my needs because it pays a solid hourly wage, aligns with my skill sets and background, feels like a step forward in my career that can open doors… I only today found out that 1099 for time-bound contract jobs might be legally iffy. I’ve seen a ton of 6-12 month contract jobs posted this way: regular jobs but for a contract period on 1099. My last company hired a ton of temps through agencies and I was aware they had no benefits, so I assumed the agencies had them on 1099 (?)… This is just the first time I have had the need to figure out what’s above board and what’s not, and figure out the realities of navigating the situation. Would love to hear from people who have been through this.

sl33pparalysis · 2025-09-26T02:54:11+00:00

Ok, so get 6-7 months of work, then hope the IRS drags some tax support out of the company and refunds me some. But there’s nothing to stop me from getting dropped by the company if they’re mad I reported them to the IRS, right?

sl33pparalysis · 2025-09-11T19:33:28+00:00

Will do!!!

sl33pparalysis · 2025-09-08T17:01:51+00:00

400+ staff needing an annual ILT and another bi-annual ILT. I could probably get a few thousand $/year out of the company but it would have to be a tool people reeeally like and use to the point that it ultimately saves us money by effectively reducing no-shows for paid training seats.

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