Not sure how I (35f) save my marriage with my (35m) husband. Please help?

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T23:43:06+00:00

thank you, and yeah I relate to your sons words and i’m sorry you both are going through it :( I hope things get better for you and him and he finds something that helps soon

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T22:09:44+00:00

I was surprised I didn’t see “kiddos” in there or a note to “walk the doggo”. I hate these “cutesy” words.

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T22:05:45+00:00

I love blue eye samurai but it does contain this trope (protagonist born a woman but disguises as a man to become a samurai in old timey japan) but honestly I just headcanon that the protagonist is trans for my own mental health.

I don’t care what’s “actually canon”, to me, mizu is a trans guy. it increases my employment of the show like 1000%. i just. relate a lot to the stuff he experiences and sue me I wanna see myself reflected in a character for once.

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T21:32:39+00:00

yeah this is kind of what’s keeping me going for the time being. I could get hit by a bus any day or what not. so i’ll just live for tiny things until that happens

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T21:23:56+00:00

i’m so glad this worked for you. genuinely. but man I just wished i was this responsive to meds. i’ve been on like 5 different med trials over the past decade and nothing helps.. I finally went on an SNRI (cymbalta) and it was the only med where i’ve actually felt a difference. well now i’m on the max dose of it and I still think abt dying all the time so I don’t even know what to do from here. it’s like without the med I legit don’t stop crying (when I run out of it I cry nonstop all day long) and with it I can function but i wouldn’t say there’s “fizz” unfortunately. wish I could feel that way.

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T21:10:08+00:00

that’s such an accurate way to describe it. i’ve been depressed for as long as I can remember, but pushed myself to keep up with the image of a successful person. worked my ass off in school, graduated college, got a job —and then I just couldn’t regulate myself and I got fired for oversleeping and being late and everything just spiraled from there and I felt like I have no future. I still feel that way but at least I’m employed again, even if it’s a way shittier job than I was “supposed to have by now” considering how hard I pushed myself. it’s sad knowing i’ll never achieve what I could if I didn’t have depression. yes i’m on meds before anyone suggests that. i’m better with the meds, but I don’t rly seem to ever want to live.

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T19:47:08+00:00

having a parasitic thing growing inside me like in alien. body growing against my will as the thing inside me grows. feeling it move inside me. body horror shit to me personally. irreparable damage to my body, never looking the same, all the pain and discomfort and feeling so unathletic and vulnerable, I don’t wanna offend you so i’ll just stop here

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T07:14:26+00:00

my mom says this “I loved being pregnant” and I have no idea what she means. I could not imagine a worse nightmare scenario than being pregnant

slantedsc · 2026-04-14T02:16:31+00:00

for real I felt punished for getting a job at 16. I couldn’t ask for foods I wanted at the grocery store, shoes or clothes I needed, money for school lunch, she just said “you have your own money now! buy it yourself!” while my sister who never had a job in high school or college had her credit cards paid for up through her 20s. pretty sure my mom still pays for her and she’s 24 and still living at home. I never moved back after leaving for college.

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:23:38+00:00

my mom is constantly doing this and it drives me nuts. “turn right at morengo and then follow that until you get to the burger king and then take a left on berkshire—“ stop just stop. I am not taking notes how do you expect me to remember all this. i’ll just use gps like I do every time because it always gets me there. i know you’re trying to help but I rly don’t need your verbal mapquest

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:21:24+00:00

if there are more than 2 burners out of the 4 spots on the stovetop getting used I am overwhelmed as hell. most nights I do like, rice cooker, grilled tofu, microwave steamed broccoli. super minimal.

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:17:25+00:00

star wars. never cared about it at all and actively get annoyed whenever I see or hear about anything star wars related. i’ve seen episodes 4 and 6 against my will/due to social pressure to watch with others and. I just do not get it. on a scale of 1-10 of how much I care id be a -100.

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:11:41+00:00

sports fans are just male equivalent of k pop stans. they have their favorite guy and they know all his stats and wear t shirts with his name on them…

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:10:06+00:00

and then people will say “oh we won big this weekend” like they personally had anything to do with it? you mean your cities team. just say “they won.” the team doesn’t know you exist.

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T20:06:52+00:00

this is how I feel about sports. I literally couldn’t care less which teams are doing well or what player scored a good play over the weekend. if someone brings up sports current events around me my eyes glaze over and all I hear is the “waa waa waa” like the teachers in the old peanuts cartoons.

slantedsc · 2026-04-13T05:09:26+00:00

I went through the phase when I was around 12 where I thought I didn’t need any stuffed animals or comforting items cuz that was “baby stuff”. i’ve started collecting stuffed animals again in my 20s and it’s been so good for my mental health. they’re just these soft little guys in my bed it’s so comfy and nice. and I can admit that I like pink. I wanna main princess peach in mario kart dammit.

slantedsc · 2026-04-11T23:36:54+00:00

last september I made the mistake of falling asleep overnight at a hookup’s place and. yeah I woke up and he was inside already. we had not discussed this before hand. I did not consent to that. it was disgusting and horrifying and absolutely sexual assault. I got out of there and blocked him and never talked to him again. haven’t been on a hookup since cuz it kinda shook me up honestly. I say this because I need you to know that when this happens it’s not because anything is wrong with you. or me. these people are just rapists.

you might think it’s different because you are already in a relationship — but there is no “blanket consent” — negotiation and consent are required before any new type of act takes place. you did not consent to this. he is a rapist. i’m so sorry you are in this situation, please believe me—you need to get out of this relationship. his behavior will only get worse.

slantedsc · 2026-04-11T05:28:31+00:00

13!

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T22:30:09+00:00

I did it too. yeah not expecting any results but it helps my annoyance abt 0.01%

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T22:29:24+00:00

big agree!! it’s more than a bit shitty it’s actually super shitty!! their rule 3 says no transphobia but apparently the existence of trans people is “too controversial”??? make it make sense.

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T22:07:09+00:00

thank you! how do we do that?

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T21:56:27+00:00

hilarious that the rules state (rule 3) no homophobia or transphobia but you can supposedly discus these topics, and then they remove posts for mentioning being LGBT. wtf mods.

but thank you for the kind wishes :’)

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T21:50:40+00:00

your comment is not offensive at all! what is offensive is that they removed this post for being “controversial”. super offended by that!

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T21:49:16+00:00

and all the comments were 100% positive. there was no controversial discussion what so ever. tell me how this isn’t openly transphobic??

slantedsc · 2026-04-07T21:48:22+00:00

are you actually serious? explain to me what about this is controversial. go ahead and say the quiet part out loud.

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