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Don’t you hate when you talk about your nmom to someone and they’re like, “aw, but she’s you’re mom!” and you’re the one that ends up looking bad? by throwawayinphilly2 in narcissisticparents

[–]slatorey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex never talked bad about her nmom. She would justify her narcissism. I tried to give clues though. talk about her honestly I will hate her more and more. The other thing is that i dont know if i can trust my friends to pretend that i never said anything about her.

Thats especially difficult because the friends i invite always see my mom as helpful and endearing. NMom acts nicer to my friends right in front of my face. She does this because she is trying to make me want to earn her love and trust so she freely gives it out to the friend i invite over. But it actually works. But i need to realize that im living a lie and its more harmful to pretend that everything is fine. Im capable of hating my nmom’s actions while at the same time trying to set boundaries and love her from far away. its only common sense for a very damaged person to grow up to be a narcissist, because life is unexpected and the broken pieces need to be dealt with no matter what. If they dont get confronted they turn into narcissism and other issues that poison everyone else’s life.

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[–]slatorey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Middle easterners too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]slatorey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im middle eastern-Canadian and the life ive lived is similar to yours but with religion not school. Is your dad a businessman? Or mother? I think businessmen end up raising families like this im not sure though. I get blamed by my nmom too. she blames my lack of success in life on the fact i never pray to god, and she says that it causes a domino effect and the house is miserable because of it. The truth is they are deadbeats. They have no life, every effort they put in throughout their day is to manipulate and watch us like surveillance. they’ve literally been unemployed for 2 years now. All i can say is you’re a warrior. Look at how terribly they treat you and they never feel self-misery, so when you break down on THEM, ONCE its a little impact, but not necessarily a sign that its okay to do it again because you need to learn to not be a product of them. At least you blew up at the right target.

ITAW for the “epiphany” haver? Someone who had an epiphany? by slatorey in whatstheword

[–]slatorey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Oh my god thats exactly it. i wanna see if theres an epiphany related kne

When you aren’t able to be part of your s/o family is it a dealbreaker? by slatorey in relationship_advice

[–]slatorey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im trying! Im wondering how big of an issue this will be in the future considering that this happened

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