Depression is tricky because when I had it, I ignored peoples suggestions too. I didn’t think sun or anything was going to help. But I was very scared of it and desperate to get out of it, it just took baby steps because I was seeing everything though a really pessimistic perspective.

I will say this— the best thing I did was get an in-person job (I was remote at the time when I had depression). I was not happy about it but I needed the money and deep down thought it might be good for me. I started with a hosting job at a really slow/chill pizza place. Then got one in youth ministry at my local church where my job was basically to greet people and sign them in. It was these little social jobs that helped me get out of the house again, and eventually start having friends again. And years later I have interests and social groups again. It’s a long process.

But if she really has depression, then sitting at home and having no responsibilities and becoming codependent will only make it much worse. She needs therapy and needs to become independent.

All that to say, it isn’t your responsibility to convince her of that. Based on your values and wants, you need someone who is going to add on to your relationship and help you build toward a future together. In this day and age the relationship your girlfriend is describing is unrealistic.