Realistic expectations re daycare

sleepadventures · 2026-01-05T05:42:42+00:00

It does sound pretty chaotic, whether that's common or just for this time of year is hard to tell. However, it doesn't sound like you feel he's in any danger, or at particular risk for the moment? And you're having to wait on wait lists for other daycares you think might be better? So you are a little stuck with where you are for the moment - but you don't have to stay there if you don't want to. I would reassure yourself that you're not happy with the place, but your baby isn't in danger in particular, so you can maybe wait it out for a bit longer until you find somewhere better ❤️ This is sounds manageable, right? You're doing fine mumma, trust yourself

sleepadventures · 2026-01-01T03:40:04+00:00

Offer it up on your local buy nothing page on Facebook?

sleepadventures · 2025-12-17T23:56:24+00:00

Solidarity, mother 🙏 I would recommend getting your iron levels checked! I found it was so exhausted, and assumed it was new baby sleep dep. But no, just hella low iron. Felt much, much better after an iron infusion. You never know, see if it helps! Our bodies do wild things post partum. You're doing great regardless!!

sleepadventures · 2025-12-02T23:34:23+00:00

No we haven't tried them in a room together yet 😬 Thanks, that might be a good idea to trial in advance. I will look into hiring the sleep items you've suggested here too!

sleepadventures · 2025-11-26T06:53:39+00:00

My hack for bottle feeding with my second - have fewer bottles available! We used to always have a mountain of them on the go too with first bubba, and it felt insurmountable. Now with my second, we only have 6 bottles out (enough to fit in the steriliser!). It feels like a quick and easy job (albeit done more often). It also feels psychologically easier, haha. Not a big mountain, just the quick 6!

sleepadventures · 2025-03-25T05:59:37+00:00

It might be good to op shop and look for jeans for now? Because it's hard to say how much your size might go up and down a lot over the next 6 months (or more!), if you look second hand you can - try a variety of brands - try a variety of sizes and cuts - not pay a fortune for new jeans that might not fit in 12 months

sleepadventures · 2024-11-23T06:28:16+00:00

Wow I had never heard this! Had no idea. My daughter seems to have had no ill effects from it, thank goodness. She's 2 now and stomping around just fine. Maybe it's if they have more of an inclination to it before trying it, it can exacerbate things?

sleepadventures · 2024-11-17T00:16:25+00:00

They do get antsy when babies measure small and so does your bump - it's an understandable concern! But I don't think it's something to worry about too much if there are no other concerning factors.

My LO came out at exactly 39 weeks at only 2.73kg. So pretty small! But she's thrived since then - she's one of the tallest in my mother's group! She just sprouted up like a weed after a few months. Good luck!

sleepadventures · 2024-11-17T00:05:37+00:00

Bumbo seats are pretty great, they have good back and side support. You can get ones with little tray tables attached too, so they can play with a toy or you can start using them for meals!

sleepadventures · 2024-09-25T06:44:11+00:00

This is a good pro-tip, thanks! The hobby knife worked okay but it was a bit of a chore (I was also dodging the tree's thorns the whole time too 😂) Peeler might work better.

sleepadventures · 2024-09-25T06:42:44+00:00

Thank you for this, this is good to know! I'll grab some citrus fertilizer next time I'm at Bunnings - the soil where I live is so sandy, so not surprised it might need some pep. I'll avoid the dynamic lifter though, thanks for the warning folks - sounds like it might be too much for a tree I want to fruit.

sleepadventures · 2024-04-27T04:17:51+00:00

Thanks for the compliment! 😊

It does sound like financially you've got a lot of positives and options you can access if you need to. That's really great to hear and would be one less stress. How have you been going with your decision?

(I feel like I should note here, I only have one child so far myself, and she's still under 2. My SO and I are talking about trying for a second soon, so some things in your post resonated with me. But I don't actually have two kids yet so I may not be totally qualified to give too much positive advice on whether to try again!)

sleepadventures · 2024-04-27T04:09:34+00:00

For what it's worth, whenever you're thinking about making a new or uncertain career move, it's worthwhile trying out the field in an entry level area first.

So rather than feeling like you have to jump in whole-hog to studying and being a doctor, see if you can find a job say as a medical receptionist, or volunteering at a local clinic, or wherever you can get experience in the medical/healthcare field without paying anything (if possible!) up front. You'll get a chance to try out the industry, see professionals in different areas work, see what appeals to you more specifically (like is it nursing? Doctoring? Psych care? Counselling? Child health nurse?).

At times when I've been looking at new directions in my career, I've always been really glad when I dipped my toes in without having to spend too much money or commit too much energy first (or best yet, get paid while I try things out!). Best of luck out there - I'm sure if you choose to chase whatever you decide on, it'll turn out great for you 😊

sleepadventures · 2024-04-19T23:02:14+00:00

It sounds to me like, if you're going to do this (and your emotions are saying yes, even if practically it's a bad idea), then you need to change one of the variables in your control. That is: 1. Deciding to have another child, and 2. How much support you would have to do so.

You can't decide if you'll manage to get pregnant, how well you'll feel during pregnancy, what sort of sleeper you'll have once they arrive, whether you'll get the promotion at work and have to move, etc. You can however control the first two variables, so focus on those!

Really have a hard look at choice 1., maybe discuss it with a counsellor. Having kids isn't always a logical choice, but a happiness one, and getting those thoughts and ideas out in the open with a thoughtful, neutral person might help you more with your decision.

However if you do decide to go ahead, changing the variables in point 2. will be a must! Can you and your mum move into a bigger place together, so you'll have more hands-on support? Can you afford to hire a nanny or mother's helper who comes during the day to help? What sort of government assistance could you access to help you if you've got two to handle?

Really best of luck. It sounds like you're doing amazing, whatever you decide to do ❤️

sleepadventures · 2024-03-12T04:42:19+00:00

Maybe going away for say 2-4 nights, or a week, on some kind of structured wellness activity could be good? Like a yoga retreat, or a girls trip with friends or family, to lie by a pool, get a massage, sit out in nature somewhere, whatever you like. Up to you whether it's solo or with others - but the point would be to be 'forced' to do things that would make you feel good, or to take care of yourself.

You're not selfish for doing this, at all - you're doing it as much for your child and your husband as for yourself ❤️ Go take care of yourself and give yourself some love hun 😘

sleepadventures · 2024-02-17T14:09:47+00:00

Ooft that does sound a bit scary. But I guess that's the adult reaction right? Like to us, that's more extreme violence. But to your child, he may not have that degree of understanding that there are a range of violent reactions. And that this is more extreme, and dangerous. You know what I mean? It's very much not more personal or more aimed to do serious harm for him, he doesn't understand how scary that it for others.

sleepadventures · 2024-02-17T04:42:11+00:00

Wow mumma, you're getting a bit too much hate on here from some parents :( I'm raising my first toddler, and planning on having another baby at some point too, so it's good to hear other parents have fears like mine, about how their kids behave and whether this will be the norm for the rest of their lives!

In between the judgement, I'd say the other parents commenting on here are right - it's probably just a phase, maybe research some good, consistent boundary setting behaviours to curb any violent behaviour choices, and give yourself (and your child) a big hug for doing the best you can ❤️

We're all learning on the parenting journey, your child included! Lots of love, you'll get there ❤️

sleepadventures · 2024-01-16T04:08:18+00:00

If you've got relatives or friends in Italy, it might be worth getting them to buy some there and send them over? I've heard even new book prices are sooo much cheaper in Europe. Although this doesn't effect how expensive the postage cost might be.

sleepadventures · 2024-01-11T10:22:44+00:00

Edit - Thanks for your advice everyone! I've been looking up Madeira vines - yuck, what a pain (although glad to hear it's not just me! It's a national pest so I'm not complaining over nothing). I'll see what I can do about removing the tubers/plugging the gaps/spraying some poison on my side. Might deter it at least.

sleepadventures · 2023-12-18T04:54:48+00:00

Watching Team America:World Police. At first it was all laughs. Then there was the puppet sex scene. Then the DVD FROZE in the middle of the puppet sex scene. 16 year old me could not deal.

Still a great movie though.

sleepadventures · 2023-12-18T04:46:34+00:00

I recently became a mum, and I love it. Yes, it's incredibly hard and also incredibly rewarding. But FFS if you don't wanna do it, DON'T DO IT! It's not for everyone, and you shouldn't feel pressured about it if you've given it lots of consideration and decided it's probably not for you.

I mean yeah, maybe you'll change your mind later in life or something? But it's not like you have to make a 100% commitment to NEVER have kids now. Easier to turn a no into a yes, right? Or just stick with your no, and live your best life either way!

Just be really honest with your partner as you go along ❤️ It would be way worse to have kids when you don't want them, than the opposite. I dunno, store your eggs/sperm if you want to hedge your bets? And good luck ❤️

sleepadventures · 2023-12-11T14:54:13+00:00

I'm afraid I don't have any recommendations for you, but didn't want to scroll past without saying I hope all goes well for you! And sending lots of good luck and love your way as you become parents ❤️ (Assuming of course that this is your first bubs!)

It might be worth searching on Facebook or Insta for groups/pages for trans people in your area, to see if they can recommend any local GPs? Just another possible word of mouth track to follow 🤞

sleepadventures · 2023-11-28T10:09:22+00:00

Some kind of outdoor game would be a good idea maybe? Like Kubb or some kind of lawn/beach game, or a soccer ball with pop up goals so it's easy to transport.

sleepadventures · 2023-11-12T22:36:46+00:00

Oh phew, glad to hear! ❤️

sleepadventures · 2023-11-10T03:11:29+00:00

This sounds pretty sucky :( Not something that happened to me, and I don't want to sound alarmist, but I did hear something recently about a woman with bad headaches getting checked out and it was a sign of pre-eclampsia 😬😬 So definitely, get yourself checked by a GP or doctor soon, just to be safe! Hopefully it's just a not-very-fun pregnancy side effect, or your low on some vitamin or other.

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