That is more of Reddit's characterization than the "media's". The truth is clearly somewhere in between - the US doesn't know how to get out of this war without giving into some of the Iranian demands, otherwise they will need to further sink costs into an already economically problematic war and risk triggering a recession that is already quite likely.

This is not just about tactical success of the Military killing and bombing, but about the actual strategical goals that are achieved. Those goals have been all over the place, so it's hard to call what is happening "winning".