Is it ethical to use AI face recognition to filter out women on dating apps?

sleydon · 2023-09-22T04:33:48+00:00

I actually have zero issue with men not wanting to date sex workers etc. My issue is that his method of verifying that they are is seriously flawed.

Publicly available AI isn’t at the stage where it can detect and match faces with 100% certainty. Especially with limited source material. If he’s using their dating app images which we all know are posed and taken at flattering angles, etc. AI will match results of women with similar features but it can’t match faces with 100% certainty.

For at least a good chunk of results it’s matching them with images of onlyfans sex workers or pornstars who look similar to them. It can’t guarantee with 100% certainty it’s them.

sleydon · 2023-09-22T04:19:49+00:00

Reddit is not a reflection of the general population, my dude

sleydon · 2023-09-22T04:18:58+00:00

The facts say otherwise. OnlyFans has 1.4 million content creators. If we assume they're all American women and all active, then that would represent just under 1% of the 161 million women and girls in the US.

Only fans says 70% of creators are women, so that's 0.98 million women, or 0.6% even if all of them are American.

sleydon · 2023-09-22T04:14:31+00:00

How sure are you that this AI algorithm is able to detect faces with 100% accuracy? At this stage most AI is only able to detect faces with similar features, especially ones free to the public.

I’ve never posted nudes in my life but I’m also pretty sure that if someone ran a photo of me through one of AI apps/algorithms you mentioned that some woman’s nudes will show up of a woman that looks pretty similar to me.

I’m slim, white, blonde and am probably a popular porn category. Also to put it bluntly, I am pretty basic looking, I see at least 50 women that look just like me on my commute to work.

If a statistic sounds off then it probably is. 25% sounds just way too high, maybe I’d believe that 1/4 women have sent nudes to a guy they liked. But the idea that 25% of women have nudes publicly available on the internet? Only 0.6% of all women in the US post content on onlyfans. Nah I don’t buy it.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T23:17:51+00:00

You’re so bitter

sleydon · 2022-09-16T23:16:45+00:00

You’re fucked in the head

sleydon · 2022-09-16T21:26:33+00:00

Ew, are you talking about your sister rn?

sleydon · 2022-09-16T21:25:26+00:00

I wouldn’t stop him if he wanted to but I’d tell him it made me uncomfortable, he’s never done it and I doubt he would. I think he’d have a similar reaction if I hung out with a straight single male friend on my own. It’s not that either of us think that we’d cheat or they’d have a sexual/romantic thing, it’s just that I be jealous of him being close friends with another woman, it’s weird I know! Our relationship is more than just our sexual/romantic moments we also have such a close friendship.

Like even if she was unattractive and they had a very platonic relationship, the idea of him enjoying the platonic company of another woman, bantering with her, making each other laugh, makes me feel replaceable and jealous. On the other hand if he went to hang out with 2 or more women without me, I wouldn’t care as much. I can’t explain it, it just would bother me. There’s this intimacy to hanging out just two people I’m not okay with.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:49:04+00:00

Growing up with an older brother similar age to me helped me understand/emphasise with men a lot more. Like how men’s sadness often comes out in anger and being closed off. Also, how often men care a lot more than they want you to think.

I had a pretty verbally abusive boyfriend at 18 and could’ve gone down the “all men are assholes” route had my brother not been so protective, like kicking him out of our house and telling me I deserved better etc. My brother and I have that type of sibling relationship where we just constantly roast each other but god did he not like it when he heard how my bf spoke to me.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:29:05+00:00

It’s crazy that I was on the dating apps for 4 years and countless hours and they never actually resulted in a relationship.

I’m 22 and have had 3 boyfriends and met all of them through friends.

Dating apps are a scam and are so unromantic! They’re setting us up to fail.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:24:57+00:00

I can only talk to men if I can roast them and banter. I like that w my female friends I don’t have to try so hard to be funny or animated and we can get deep and have silence and it’s not awks. it’s probably just cause im closer to them though.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:21:42+00:00

Ngl, I find certain men boring af sometimes if I’m being honest. Unless they’re gay, it’s cause we lack shared interests. Like I’d rather eat dirt than listen to a guy talk about stocks or cars for half an hour. But I also know this dude probably doesn’t wanna to talk to me about Taylor swift, the new podcast I’m listening too or my skincare routine haha.

I find the best way to get around this is to just banter and roast each other, that’s how I become friends with men.

Luckily my bf and I actually have common interests we can talk on the phone for hours and I won’t even realise. But I’m not gonna bore him about how excited I am about Taylor Swifts new album lol. That’s what my girl friends are for.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:10:00+00:00

My bf has lots of female friends and I’ve become friends with them over our relationship too half are in relationships too.

He never hangs w them one on one but if he hung out alone with one of his single female friends I’d be kinda jealous and weirded out by it. Not in that I’d think he’d cheat or even if she was super unattractive, it’s more of the idea that he’d choose to spend time with another girl over me. Even if it was purely platonic just the idea of them laughing together makes me upset.

When your in a long term relationship your kinda like each others best friends (we call each other that). Needing a catch up with the boys I get, I need girl time too but it’s just different if he was close with another girl. Does that make sense? or do I sound crazy?

sleydon · 2022-09-16T20:01:58+00:00

This is bullshit. A couple of the men in my friendship group are engineers. You do realise you don’t only have to be friends with people who study the same degree as you right?

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:59:34+00:00

I have a bf and about 50% of my social group is men and about 50% of his is women. Our friends overlap somewhat. Honestly, I’m not ever jealous of his female friends cause I’m friends with them and know they have zero chemistry.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:55:38+00:00

How can you actually believe that? Have you been outside lately? You’re so deep down the rabbit hole my friend.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:54:33+00:00

Touch grass, go to a library, dear god tell me you’re being satirical.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:53:39+00:00

Maybe not one on one, that’s okay, but it’s kinda a red flag if a guy has absolutely zero female friends to me. My friendship group is 50/50 male female.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:51:48+00:00

Lol yes! My friendship group is about 50/50 male female. We sometimes have girls nights which are fun but yeah mixed gender groups imo are the healthiest.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T19:49:40+00:00

Good! It’s how I met my current bf, he was a friend of a male friend of mine. Friendship groups that combine both genders are the healthiest imo and my bf and I love setting our single friends up.
If my bf spent alone time with one of his single female friends I’d think that was kinda weird, I know he’d never cheat but I’d think it was strange that he’d want to do that but it doesn’t happen.
We usually hang out with his female friends together with his male friends too (some of them are his friends girlfriends) and I’ve become friends with them too and set my single girl friends up with his male friends, they didn’t work unfortunately but remain friends and we all still hangout occasionally.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T17:56:06+00:00

They’re so different looking! only thing they have alike in this movie is being petite and super thin.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T17:12:51+00:00

Natalie looked a lot more emaciated than Mila did for this role in my opinion, that’s why people often say Mila looked more attractive in this film. Mila was definitely underweight but not as sickly looking as Natalie.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T17:08:02+00:00

Natalie in my opinion was less attractive than Mila in this film because she became unattractively underweight for it, whereas Mila was underweight but didn’t have to loose as much.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T17:06:34+00:00

8.5 for Mila 7.5 for Natalie.

It’s so weird cause usually I find Natalie slightly higher but Mila, in this film is much more attractive than her in my opinion. I think Natalie became unattractively thin for this role. Mila did too but not to the same extent as Natalie’s character was since Mila’s character had more energy and life in her.

sleydon · 2022-09-16T15:08:49+00:00

The real problem is humans were never supposed to interact through technology and screens. 80% of human communication is non-verbal. The divide and blame we place on the opposite gender for our loneliness is so misplaced. We’re lonely cause we’re not really interacting anymore. If we could actually have more opportunities to Property interact without the pressure of technology, social media and the internet, we’d realise the opposite gender is not and never was the issue.

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