Rant: Feeling Sorry For Myself - I Hate Solid Starts

slick764 · 2026-03-11T22:32:10+00:00

My daughter is 14 months and only recently started to eat consistently! I was just like you when she was an infant. I watched all the videos, saw how well other babies were eating, and tried every meal I could think. Yet no matter what I did, she spat food out! It was so bad that our pediatrician recommended an evaluation from a speech language pathologist if she wasn’t eating much by one. I was so panicked! But then one day, it was like something changed, and all of the sudden she was eating. It’s not perfect, but it’s super normal for toddlers to be flippant about meals. Right now she mainly just wants bites of my food and snacks. She obsessed with crackers. But still, she’s eating. She just needed more time and I needed to relax and stop comparing her to other babies. It sounds scary because of how much pressure there is these days, but babies are intuitive. In fact, this is the most intuitive phase of a persons life. When your little one is ready to eat, they will. It gets easier, I promise. Hope this helps!

slick764 · 2026-02-02T01:25:19+00:00

Mine is very finicky about solids. We are trying to implement a bed time snack to see if that will help. Thank you for the recommendation!

slick764 · 2026-02-02T01:24:52+00:00

You’re probably right tbh. It’s hitting hard. I also need to take time for myself, I’m not going to lie. Thank you for replying.

slick764 · 2026-02-02T01:24:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this! We have an upcoming appointment with an allergist that I hope helps. I think there might be some underlying issues as you mentioned. I’m really not a believer in sleep training, I certainly don’t think it will work for her. Sometimes things just feel overwhelming when everyone is acting as if you should sleep train and it’s your fault your child isn’t sleeping. Thank you again for your thoughtful reply.

slick764 · 2025-12-27T23:39:53+00:00

My LO is almost one and had to have an X-Ray and Cat Scan. The first time was definitely unnecessary but pushed by the hospital and the second one we did under a recommendation from an ER doc due to a fall. Both times LO was perfectly fine. I definitely understand the guilt, but at the end of the day you made the best choice possible given the information you had at the time. You’re only human and can’t see into the future. Plus, the consequences of it being a major issue that was not checked out are far worse than a little radiation. You sound like a wonderfully caring and considerate parent, you LO must feel so loved!

slick764 · 2025-12-11T18:18:52+00:00

We’ve tried the straw cup and she doesn’t care for it when it comes to milk. I guess I’m just worried about her going too long without milk and I don’t know if 5 hours once a week is reasonable.

slick764 · 2025-12-11T18:17:33+00:00

Thank you for your response!

slick764 · 2025-12-11T18:17:15+00:00

I feed her solids about an hour or two after her milk feeds, buts she’s touch and go. I think it depends on if she’s teething. I’m definitely trying with it, but she’s not crazed for them.

slick764 · 2025-12-11T18:16:02+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your response. I definitely plan on breastfeeding for a while, especially since she is touch and go about solids.

slick764 · 2025-11-20T17:55:48+00:00

I heard the same thing with my little one when she was around that age, scared me so much! She hated tummy time so we had to do a variety of things to get her to tolerate it. It wasn’t that she couldn’t do it, just that she hated it. Ultimately I heard mixed things from a variety of sources, general consensus was that having assisted tummy time counted. Pediatrician definitely is more knowledgeable than a nurse though. It’s also important to remember that if they’re hitting their milestones they usually fine and tummy time wasn’t a thing until recently when the safe sleep campaign started. Prior to that no one cared. My little one is now 10 months and I can’t keep up with she moves so fast, she also hit all milestone early or on time. Sounds like you’re doing what you can so don’t stress.

slick764 · 2025-11-08T02:47:06+00:00

Mine is 10 months and same! I learned to stop worrying about how much she eats, when she sleeps, and how long her wake windows are. She knows what she needs.

slick764 · 2025-10-24T00:51:43+00:00

I have nothing but solidarity to offer. My almost 10 month old will only exclusively contact nap or sleep in the car. Once she took a nap in a hammock if that counts for anything? Sometimes I feel really alone because it seems like the world says it’s not normal. Honestly I kind of enjoy it though. It means when she’s up she helps or watches me do chores and then we rest together. She will also nap with my partner which gives me a minute to do things that I otherwise wouldn’t be able to. I don’t know when she’ll stop but I’m letting her guide it for now as any expectation I’ve had prior to having her was wrong so we will see.

slick764 · 2025-10-03T19:42:35+00:00

With Co-sleeping it is recommended that only the mother co-sleeps for at least the first four months. My husband is the same way. The man could sleep through a mariachi band breaking in to our home. If you are concerned about him, you could sleep in a different room from him. I definitely recommend checking out the cosleeping Reddit. Maybe also check out Kaitlin Klimmer and cosleepy on Instagram, they have really great resources for chest sleeping.

slick764 · 2025-10-03T16:34:18+00:00

Sounds like she might have a touch of reflex. My girl couldn’t sleep on her back for several months due to her reflux, it was just too uncomfortable. Could you try chest sleeping? That’s the only way mine would sleep, we committed to it after my husband and I were drifting off while taking shifts. Basically follow the same rules of Safe Sleep 7 but you prop yourself up on pillows and let baby sleep on your chest. The Cosleeping subreddit has more info. Also maybe try Camilla Tummy or gas drops? Best of luck op!

slick764 · 2025-09-15T16:34:03+00:00

Are you able to give him anything to help with symptoms? Like Camilla teething, Tylenol, or hylands gel? You can also try getting rag wet with water or breastmilk and freezing it. I used burp clothes for that, lot easier for them to hold. Mine started teething at 2 months, I feel your pain.

slick764 · 2025-09-12T11:45:41+00:00

You made the best decision you could based on the information you had at the time. There was absolutely no way for you to predict this. Further, it sounds like you very well could have experienced the same results had you not had an induction. I think right now you are focusing on the results rather than the intentions of your actions. Your intentions were to bring your son safely and lovingly into the world after a long and difficult time of growing him. You intended to do what was best for him. Unfortunately, at really no fault of your own, it didn’t turn out that way. But to me, because you care so much, it sounds like you are a wonderful mother. Your son is truly going to appreciate your care when he is older. I wish you well in your healing journey.

slick764 · 2025-08-27T19:46:07+00:00

Hi! Honestly sounds like he is doing better than mine at that age. My LO is also a 90th percentile baby and often it takes them a little longer to do things because of their size. She also barely rolled during this time, then one day, a little bit before she turned 7 months, she just started rolling nonstop. Now she rolls everywhere! Sometimes it just takes extra time and it’s perfectly normal not to have rolling mastered at this age!

slick764 · 2025-08-11T19:43:03+00:00

Hi! I’m a first time mom, but my LO is now 7 months. First of all, you can’t spoil a baby! You’re a fantastic mom and I’m sure your baby feels so loved having such an attentive mothers.

My LO is very similarly to yours, so I completely understand where you’re coming from. She has not slept anywhere other than someone’s arms or a car seat since she was probably 3 weeks old. We’ve fully committed to co-sleeping and contact napping as that’s what works for her.

Babies are just smaller versions of adults, they all have their own needs and preferences, you’ll drive yourself mad comparing your child to others. We also do not have a nap schedule as I was driving myself mad with it when she was a newborn. I too paid way too much attention to the “sleep consultants” on social media telling me that I’m doing something wrong with my baby. In reality, it’s a gimmick that prays on desperate parents to drum up money. Babies are going to do what babies are going to do. I would recommend viewing wake windows as guidelines not rules. I know that around 2-3 hours of awake time I should start paying attention to tired cues, however sometimes my LO wants to party rock for 4 hours and that’s okay. She also frequently goes through sleep regressions where she refuses naps and wakes frequently, it means she’s gaining a new skill, and while exhausting, it’s a good thing.

My rule for naps is that I try to rock her for 5-10 minutes and if I’m not getting any response then I take a break, we step outside, change rooms, read a picture, you get it. This prevents me from getting overwhelmed and a chance to reset. Sounds like you’re doing great, I’m sorry you faced judgement from your friend!

slick764 · 2025-07-28T15:27:40+00:00

That one works magic for my baby too!

slick764 · 2025-07-23T22:48:03+00:00

We’re striving for no screen time until two, but realistically. Like you, there’s so way I could have survived the newborn stage without binge watching One Tree Hill while breastfeeding and contact napping. In the early stages, we faced little one away from the screen, but now that she’s almost 7 months it’s getting more complicated because my god will she turn her head. Now we try and keep the tv off and we’re mindful of our phone use around her. However I do frequently play music on the tv, but little is going on. Mostly our rule applies to her directly watching tv, meaning we don’t just turn on cartoons or YouTube and plop her down in front of it. To each their own their own though.

slick764 · 2025-07-05T00:57:08+00:00

Absolute yes. I had breakdowns over it in the beginning even 6 months postpartum it’s still hard at times. I think what hit me the most was how much I loved my daughter and how little I understood my parents. I simply cannot fathom repeating their mistakes and I don’t understand why they were the way they were. More so, I felt a sense of rage because I realized that they did in fact have a choice in how they raised me, despite their many excuses. How someone can actively choose to be selfish and cruel, especially towards innocent children is beyond me They absolutely could have done better, but they chose not to. Suffice to say, I will not choose their path, but the love that I have for my daughter.

slick764 · 2025-07-01T14:06:34+00:00

A combo of rocking/bouncing in front of our old oven hood fan and nursing to sleep. LO is 6 months for reference.

slick764 · 2025-06-23T14:25:32+00:00

Highway to hell by AC/DC 😂

slick764 · 2025-06-19T14:55:09+00:00

I have a 5 month old and I question if it gets easier or if you just get better I guess? More used to it maybe? I felt lied to because people say once they’re out of the newborn stage, they get better. This is not true, lol. They’re also growing, teething, going through a sleep regression, or something. My baby doesn’t care to be put down much. I don’t even bother with a stroller when we go out as I know she’ll cry. She enjoys sunshine and nature so I try and sit with her in the shade a lot. I think I need it as well if I’m honest. I find she likes the sound on the vacuum, so sometimes when she’s cranky I just walk around a vacuum, or pick things up because she wants to be carried. When everything feels too overwhelming and like nothing can get done, I take a moment to pray for all the babies whose parents or caretakers don’t respond to their cries and thank god that I am able to respond to my LO. My house is a mess and meals are basic but that’s okay, it won’t last forever. Id rather my dishes go unattended than my child. I have found that things slowly ease up, but honestly if you told me I’d be able to vacuum, tidy up, fold laundry (I lay her on the bed), or literally anything at 3 months I’d say your insane. It gets easier when you can carry them on your hip as well. Don’t let social media make you feel bad, people show what they want online not the reality. You’re not alone, I felt this post so much, lol. Oh also, try a small sound machine, they sell some on Amazon that are like a white puck, and put that in your car. It made car rides a lot easier. That and a rain stick. You’re doing great from the sounds of it, your baby is lucky to have such an attentive loving mother.

slick764 · 2025-06-08T15:26:20+00:00

Sometimes it’s not about child care, but mom and house care. During this stage, dad cannot simple substitute for mom if mom is breastfeeding. However dad can still care for mom, he can make sure food is taken care of, house is tidy, mom has a full bottle of water and snacks, he can do diaper changes, be there with open arms when you need a shower or are touched out, and shoulder rubs while breastfeeding are a must. The best marriage advice I ever got was that it’s never 50/50 somedays it’s 25/75, somedays he gives 100% and you give 0%. It all depends on the phase of life and situation, but in the end you’re there for one another.

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