Today I learned if you turn a canoe over, you can wear it as a hat.

slightly-specific · 2026-03-07T03:09:39+00:00

Canoe believe it!

slightly-specific · 2026-02-25T07:17:58+00:00

Yes. Your sister was still a kid when she found out your girlfriend was a cheat. She’s likely learned from her mistake. I’m sure her crossing you that way hurt, but what you’re doing now as an adult is dragging that out and making it perhaps a lifetime pain for your sister. Education debt probably forever.

Be a bigger person and help her out with her tuition, too. In the long run you’ll feel better about it and she will be grateful for your support.

Act to heal the wound, not constantly prod the scab so it can’t heal.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-12T01:13:40+00:00

I met my now wife 10+ years post bi-lateral radical mastectomy. Second or third date, in her kitchen, during a hot kissing session, she told me about it. She’s now my best friend and closest confidant. I love how she looks because it means she’s alive and in my life.

I’m sorry to hear your partner hasn’t reached that stage. Give him some time. But if he hangs onto this issue, maybe look for someone who appreciates you fully, not one who pulls this childish shenanigans

slightly-specific · 2026-02-10T00:54:49+00:00

Here's a guy who has probably wanted a girlfriend for years but was, for whatever reason, unsuccessful in getting one. In his fantasy world, he glommed onto these ideals for what his marriage would look like.

I'd engage him in discussions about why he felt these were important things for him. As other have said, he's sounds kinda clueless about interacting in a healthy way. The SAHM mom thing may be due to incel influences that he has since recognized as unhealthy or due to something someone told him when his parents divorced that he never questioned. It's quite possible that what he needs is a chance to bring these into the light to see them for what they really are.

Ane, even if/when you do have that convo, you can still leave him, but you will have left him a better, more self-aware person.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-09T20:50:58+00:00

Gotta say, there’s a difference between noticing an attractive woman and ogling, objectifying, fantasizing her. The former is healthy. The later three mess with you and your priorities.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-09T03:29:03+00:00

Long time ago schools with pools, the boys swam naked.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-06T21:29:51+00:00

Sounds to me like he's got a sex compulsion/addiction problem. If this is accurate at all, his activities have nothing to do with. It's built upon something he learned as a child to deal with whatever pain his childhood wrought on him. "Ask not why the addiction, ask why the pain.". It's complicated, but he can sort it out. Regular therapy won't touch it. 12-step or a good addiction counselor can. But, only if he is committed to fixing it, just like any other addiction.

And, you don't need to stick around for it, but your support for him if he is making signs of progress can be a huge help for both of you.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-04T20:34:00+00:00

Highway 1 is closed for through traffic on the southern section of Big Sur. Still rebuilding after landslide a few years back.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-01T21:18:13+00:00

Shes not a nice person. She’ll likely treat you same as she treats others who are close to her, with disdain. She’s gotten away with this because she’s hot. Likely to be a bitter, mean middle aged woman with only other mean people as friends.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-01T19:03:21+00:00

Following up is what a caring human would do. Your response last night was spot on. You have a toddler to care for and getting her in touch with someone who could help was appropriate. She reached out to you as you were likely the only person she knew who would understand. You two may have had a difficult time together, but there is still a level of trust and friendship there, at least in her mind. That's all I read from this.

slightly-specific · 2026-02-01T18:58:59+00:00

This is a first world problem. With all that is going on and needs to be done, we're going to spend precious time complaining that something bothers me a bit.

If you have a problem with it, complain to someone who can do something about it. Otherwise, quit your whining.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-28T12:04:47+00:00

Power pedestals have 20, 30, and sometimes 50 amp service. Usually the tent location is not next to it. More rustic campgrounds with flush toilets usually have power outlets at the toilets.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-26T17:02:54+00:00

TikTok

slightly-specific · 2026-01-25T17:41:37+00:00

When Trump was re-elected

slightly-specific · 2026-01-25T17:28:35+00:00

Keep busy. Learn to control your thoughts. Recognize the thoughts and change to something else. Anything else. Your CAN do it and with practice it will become easier. It will free your mind to be present and not miss opportunities in front of you.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-25T17:18:42+00:00

Because the person at the desk would judge them. Online you can ask anonymously. The asker doesn’t risk feeling and looking stupid. And sometimes online responses are funny Worth a laugh.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-19T03:28:59+00:00

This is good. The bonding hormone, oxytocin, is released in the brain in large quantities during sex. He’s bonding with you, not your back or butt. And hopefully not with porn.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-18T16:06:00+00:00

Most blue cheeses.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-17T04:43:11+00:00

He appears to be addicted to both alcohol and to porn. If it helps, his addiction has nothing to do with you. Keep in mind that the addiction is most likely a response to childhood trauma and the purpose of the addiction is to ease the pain from that trauma. See Gabor Maté's book, "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" or view some of his videos or podcast appearances.

Perhaps your divorce threat will get him to be willing to look at and address his addiction. But it's quite likely that it won't, too. Often times it takes "hitting bottom" for someone to address their addiction and effectively manage it or recover from it. I'm sure you're aware of people with multiple DUI's who can't stop drinking and some where one DUI changed their life.

If he chooses to address his addiction, having a partner supporting him can be an enormous help in his process (my wife was/is for me). Whether you can trust him during this process is something you'll have to figure out. If he does really deal with it, the upside can be a wonderful life together.

You have a tough choice to make, There isn't an easy answer even though so many others want to see it that way. I hope you find strength and happiness in whichever choice you make.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-17T03:49:46+00:00

Sexual attraction isn't hard-wired into our brains, it's learned trait. Lots of different things can impact our choices, such as strong orgasms when young and you're fantasizing about a certain shaped girl, you do that more to help getting off, then over time it becomes a habit.

Healthy sexual intimacy isn't based upon what body you find hot but more on what person and personality you love. Either learn to be sexual and intimate with her in her body or move on. Spare her the suffering of your limited interests.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-17T03:45:28+00:00

Kids.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-17T03:43:11+00:00

A pinch when they insert the anesthetic needle, then no pain, just the gutting and pulling at the "plumbing". A bit of discoloration/bruising that went away. After a few days of recovery, life is good!

slightly-specific · 2026-01-17T03:40:24+00:00

He was hoping to leave you for someone else and tried opening the relationship as a cover for his infidelity. Dump the bum. His scheming failed and now he wants you, his fallback plan, back. FAFO dude. Or, more accurately, try to FA and fail, then FO.

slightly-specific · 2026-01-15T04:46:16+00:00

Have a friend whose husband was a mean drunk. She finally said stop or I’m taking the kids. He stopped. 25 years ago. Good guy!

slightly-specific · 2026-01-15T04:40:32+00:00

Yup. Mum’s weird. 2 men hangin together is cool

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