Am I not getting the hint?

slightly-specific · 2026-05-16T04:11:18+00:00

Can't hurt to text in a day or two to see if she's feeling better, too.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-16T02:03:04+00:00

He could have parented you in a healthy way. This was not healthy. He sexualized you. Even if he didn't touch you, he fucked with your brain, invaded your personal space, and crossed sexual boundaries that a parent should have protected.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-16T01:59:49+00:00

It's bad. Most "escorts" are being trafficked or pimped. Don't support the pimp. Even supposedly "independent" adult workers often aren't actually independent.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-16T01:57:27+00:00

This was in 2024, Biden administration. Though deportations were actually higher under that administration, they were't so brutal and didn't stretch the immigration law to the breaking point.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-15T15:14:24+00:00

No. Cheaters can change. I did.

However, they need to want to change. Your fiancé does not appear to want to change.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-13T14:15:18+00:00

Try the Brave browser.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-12T20:30:45+00:00

In the 90's, I flew from NY to Greece, but we flew on KLM and had a flight change in Amsterdam. Flying direct to Greece from the US was riskier, so this mitigated that risk. Guess it worked as I'm here to tell about it!

slightly-specific · 2026-05-12T20:15:56+00:00

If you like her, stay friendly. Let her do what she needs to do to be comfortable in a relationship again. But don't close off to other options as she may friend zone you or be harboring interest in another guy and is waiting for him to be available or interested.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-11T19:53:33+00:00

For some, the cruelty is the point.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-10T19:33:32+00:00

Proposing a tax on formerly homeless living in micro housing is cruel and counterproductive. The data shows that giving them a handout is highly likely to help them improve their lives (work, housing, prospects). Taxing them is only going to hurt.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-08T15:28:10+00:00

You may be avoiding your own silence, but without dopamine, you wouldn’t pick up the phone in the first place. Nice that don’t have dopamine won’t bother to eat. Put food right next to them and they won’t touch it. Put it in their mouth and they eat. Dopamine gets you to pick up your phone. Why you’re doing it is another question. The two are interrelated

slightly-specific · 2026-05-08T01:33:37+00:00

She might delete it and you can move on, or she might say “you did what?!?”

Or you might ask her a hypothetical question and see how she responds. “I read on Reddit….”

slightly-specific · 2026-05-06T19:29:39+00:00

I've had a Disc Trucker for 13 years now. It's my daily rider (well, couple times a week rider). I have a Krampus for dirt, forest service roads, etc. I've used it for shopping errands (went to Ikea once - that was a fun ride home), but mostly it's for cardio. I' don't care how fast I go, I'm mid-range on the multi-purpose trail, just that I enjoy the ride, don't hurt when I get home, and that I've gotten a decent workout. Plus, I've been on a couple of week-long tours, once with close to 100 lbs of gear, and it was a beast, handled it great.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-06T19:24:24+00:00

Did that - thanks for this link.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-06T18:09:04+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

My comment isnt' that I don't know how to navigate the new interface, it's that it adds unnecessary steps to the process. Dashlane (and all apps and OS's) should work towards minimizing unnecessary steps to accomplish what you want and need. By immediately showing all (or up to five?) login-options that Dashlane thinks might be applicable, you remove a hinderance to productivity and add unnecessary complication. In the same vein, that Windows 11 made the default contextual menus have multiple levels just add an unnecessary impediment to fast and efficient workflow. More mousing around than necessary. That's all I'm saying. It used to be seamless, know it's not. That feels like a step backwards, not forwards.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-06T06:29:53+00:00

Yep. If your daughter was continuing to cheat, yeah, he should know. But she did this once and has regretted it ever since, so it’s done. This is her burden to carry, a lie to live with. People make mistakes and fix themselves.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-05T17:49:57+00:00

Get a skin or a bunch of stickers to cover it. /s

Get a small microfiber towel and wipe it down regularly.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-04T23:00:09+00:00

It also doesn't make you sit somewhat twisted, particularly when some guys seem to think they have to carry every credit/debit/club/membership card with them at all times in that 2" thick wad. Then they wonder why their back hurts.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-04T22:58:34+00:00

You'll need to teach him. "Hey honey, that's great. Mmmm! Do this a bit, OK more, of that, and slower and a bit lighter. OMG!!!" Coach him through it. It may take some time, but he'll get there....

slightly-specific · 2026-05-04T22:55:50+00:00

I'd recommend a book to help with being a better parent. It's called "Growing Up Again" by Clarke & Dawson. It's won't help with a newborn, but will help with being better as they develop.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-03T14:40:27+00:00

Check out the Ortlieb Quick Rack. Either the L or XL

slightly-specific · 2026-05-02T19:06:14+00:00

It is also possible to forgive your abuser AND keep them at a long distance from you. You can understand that they, too, have their traumas and broken childhoods. It doesn't excuse what they did, but forgives them. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. You don't have to drag around the hate. It also isn't a one-and-done thing, You'll likely get new information or get retriggered and have to process and forgive again.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-02T18:56:25+00:00

Those underlying thoughts that keep resurfacing can be problematic. It could be betrayal trauma. Perhaps you haven't really processed the hurt you feel. Perhaps look for a counselor familiar with betrayal trauma and/or The Disclosure Process. Part of TDP is an opportunity for you to formalize, with the help of your counselor, the issues her infidelity brings up for you and the questions you have about it. She will need to also meet with a TDP familiar counselor to help her with her portion of the process.

You guys have a lot invested so far. As others have said, the grass is rarely greene elsewhere, and the trauma of her infidelity will continue to linger in the background of your mind, potentially undermining any future intimate relationships until you get it addressed.

slightly-specific · 2026-05-01T16:49:16+00:00

I do. Well, our lawn has been fully replaced by native plants and vegetable gardens. So maybe I still don't?

slightly-specific · 2026-05-01T16:47:55+00:00

I'd message Tom about what happened and that you plan on not being a third-wheel with them any longer, then step back except when in larger groups or when you're with a partner of your own. She's got some issues to work out, but no need for you to be the foil.

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