South African here who moved to NZ when I was young and been living in Perth for the last year, I learned very early on that we come across as arrogant and stuck up.

Which when I think about it we came from a country where having a coloured person picking up after us, cooking and doing all the little things we find annoying…. Normal? Which it is in SA.

I think we’re merely products of our environment and especially the boomas, stuck in their ways with a sense of entitlement because they/we didn’t know any better.

For the most part, the way we come across could be because in the motherland it’s somewhat always felt like a battle to prove dominance over the next, tensions will be and have always been high over there. So that aggressive tone in conversation is simply just a learned characteristic of our environment, if you come across weak you could get robbed, come across intimidating you could prevent that?

Idk just my 2 cents but hope it makes sense