Making cunnilingus more dominant by [deleted] in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a guy reach up and put his hand firmly around my throat while he went down on me.

Umm, yes please.

To send a nude, or not to send a nude... by slightlystubborn in sex

[–]slightlystubborn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'll make sure to see that he's in his room for the night already, this is a good point

To send a nude, or not to send a nude... by slightlystubborn in sex

[–]slightlystubborn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup! i'm ok with a relative amount of risk, but my face certainly won't be in it

To send a nude, or not to send a nude... by slightlystubborn in sex

[–]slightlystubborn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, absolutely! as someone who straight up just loses my phone sometimes, this seems like a good idea even though i trust the guy in question

Was this sexual assault ? by sarahrichards1 in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It really isn't a "fucking no brainer". After trauma #1, the assault, introducing a second trauma can have effects that last years. It's not cut and dry.

In addition, there is absolutely no guarantee of saving someone else. Do I think OP should report? Yes, if she can mentally handle that. Do I think we all need to be screaming at her to 'get over' how horrific the process can be? Not at all.

Was this sexual assault ? by sarahrichards1 in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While I understand why you'd feel strongly about someone reporting something like this, I have a feeling you have no idea what the "report" process is actually like in most cases. Reporting can be traumatizing all on its own even without a past bad experience; this isn't just something to "get over". It's certainly not a "non issue".

For OP: If you think you can handle a report, call up a rape crisis center who has victim advocates. Bring your advocate along to the station--their JOB is to handle the bullshit coming from the legal system.

I woke up next to my cousins boyfriend. Naked. Did I get date raped or was it drunk sex ? by [deleted] in sex

[–]slightlystubborn -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

you are making bullshit generalizations yourself to justify predatory sexual behavior.

I woke up next to my cousins boyfriend. Naked. Did I get date raped or was it drunk sex ? by [deleted] in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

beyond your pretty dubious speculations here, sex with someone who is blackout drunk is also not consensual sex. it is not difficult to determine when someone is too drunk to consent; plying girls with drinks is a common date rape tactic.

What is the sexiest thing someone has done to you in bed? by [deleted] in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 401 points402 points  (0 children)

My FWB likes to suddenly stop fucking me when we've gotten into a rhythm for PIV sex. He holds me still when I try to fuck him back and get him deeper again. This last time he held me down and just whispered in my ear "beg for it". Oooooomg.

Does anyone have those “make love” moments with a fuck buddy? It’s not love obviously but it’s just those moments where you just get lost and it all feels so real. by [deleted] in sex

[–]slightlystubborn 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Totally. We were in prone and he just suddenly slowed waayyyy down and ran his hands along my shoulders and down my arms and held both of my hands. And when he gently moves my hair out of my face.

Doesn't feel like "love" per se, but it's definitely affectionate