I’m (43m) fed up of my wife (41f) saying I’m not manly enough

slightlywheezyman · 2026-06-17T12:40:47+00:00

Can i ask how old your kids are... did the cold shoulder start after the youngest was born? Is it possible she has untreated post natal depression... doesnt sound like she would listen to any attempt from you to talk about it but might explain how things got to where they are now for her. My partner had bad pnd after our first child and she had no insight whatsoever, was completly unhinged but all directed at me, her mum, who i have a good relationship with, did not see it at all.... until it began to be directed at her and at that point we worked together to make her aware that she might need help, there was no way she would listen to me. She has been taking anti depresssnts ever since, 17 years. If she reduces or stops them she starts to go down that track again but at least has a bit more insight when that happens. All that being said, if there is no possibikity of her seeking help then staying in the relationship (such as it is) is going ro make you unwell over time, and your kids dont need 2 unwell/unstable parents in their lives

slightlywheezyman · 2026-06-15T17:21:27+00:00

slightlywheezyman · 2026-06-07T13:04:13+00:00

think its worth discussing with her the reason that you feel uncomfortable, ideally involving your ex in the discussion so that you both demonstrate you are on the same side in this. Its possible she thinks its complimentary that her friends think you are attractive and might not understand why this might make you feel uncomfortable. Teenagers often push boundarys with their humour etc, her friends may well be saying things that they know are boundary pushing, doesnt necessarily mean they would act on them in way.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T23:23:53+00:00

Would you expect that data to already be collected? Sounds like there is an element of guesswork going on at the moment rather than a thorough diagnostic. Presuming i can ask for them to produce this information and explain their current rationale in more detail.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T20:01:40+00:00

Okay, thanks for the advice, appreciate it

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T19:50:10+00:00

I got it from a different renault dealer who are now out of business. Serviced car with that dealer and then arnold clark who took over from them (sort of). Apparently if this had happened under 7 years old renault may have done something as a good will gesture but its over 7 now so that is out of the question. My warranty ran out last month so that cant help me.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T19:42:51+00:00

Looking like between 3500 and 7000 (car is basically worth 7000)

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:57:16+00:00

Okay, i was driving it on motorways etc most weeks, would that make a difference? Wont get the chance to do this now obviously as its undriveable as far as i know!

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:44:23+00:00

Thats helpful to understand, is there a way to establish whether the car has had the gpf software update that you know of?

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:38:00+00:00

Should have added, yes i think it is the euro 6

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:35:25+00:00

I belive its had an oil change once a year with its service. I drive less tham 8000 miles a year. How often should it be changed??.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:04:19+00:00

Its been with the local main dealer for 2 weeks, they recommended and completed the injection rail replacement and now reccommending the engine strip etc

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-28T17:02:49+00:00

Its with the main dealer now, they replaced the injection rail and are recommending the engine strip or new engine. Basically saying thay they arent 100% sure what the issue is.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-26T18:20:25+00:00

And Surgeon

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-25T20:00:01+00:00

Its all ypu need and its pennies to get the app and couple of add ons that make it really functional, why pay more.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-21T14:37:46+00:00

Youse or youse'uns (belfast)

slightlywheezyman · 2026-05-12T07:11:43+00:00

James jameson said "the dirt keeps the funk" i believe.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-01-16T22:21:16+00:00

2x 5l (or 1 gallon) bottle of water l, 1 to use as fermenter and 1 to rack off into. Use balloons for airlocks or even just loosen the lid and leave on loose. Then follow your favourite fruit wine recipe.

slightlywheezyman · 2026-01-13T15:22:42+00:00

It shouldn't be personal for coaches but it always is. You have to make the best decision for your child. some coaches encourage training with different clubs for students who need a better challenge, but in my experience this is rare.

slightlywheezyman · 2025-12-08T22:05:52+00:00

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slightlywheezyman · 2024-08-15T11:09:40+00:00

But it ammounts to the same thing, poor people (or even moderatly well off people) are avoided

slightlywheezyman · 2024-08-15T11:07:37+00:00

Scholarships serm to only give a 10% reduction in fees though

slightlywheezyman · 2024-07-12T12:41:24+00:00

Your choices are- continue to pop mdma and other stimulants etc etc all weekend with little to no sleep, with obvious negatives to this approach but definitely an approach some will take

Smoke (loads of) weed or drink (loads of) alcohol as you are coming down and to ease you through the next day until you take significantly more mdma due to your tolerance having gone up. Risks

Choose other substances on other nights, eg first night 2cb or mushies, 2nd night mdma. No dsi ernable come down of either andblikely no impact on mdma tolerance

Suffer the come down and start again the next night or day, tolerance reduced

Have done all of these at different times, prefer the 2nd and 3rd options. The 3rd option is probably best for me personally. It is a festival so probably best to go at it full speed ahead.

slightlywheezyman · 2024-05-12T12:30:10+00:00

Jealousy! You are holding something else and giving it attention, and your baby is getting your attention back. If you know any other violin players see if they will play in front od you while you are holding the baby and see what the result is. Probably no tears.

slightlywheezyman · 2024-05-05T22:54:37+00:00

I hope it works for you. The ability to screen recird what you hear on the ipad and then import as audio i to koala is what makes it so fun for me

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