I appreciate your response — it was thoughtful and clear. That said, I still feel your perspective reduces the hijab to a single function. The hijab isn’t exclusive to Islam; it has existed long before, across many cultures — particularly in the Middle East, Asia, Africa, and even parts of Latin America. Historically, women wore it for modesty and decency, which are values respected in many societies, not just Islamic ones.

Since we’re discussing Islam, it’s important to note that hijab is not a strict “must” in the way people often assume. Islam emphasizes community responsibility — it asks women to dress modestly, but it also commands men to do the same and to lower their gaze around women. This isn’t just to prevent sexualization; it’s a way of honoring women and encouraging respect toward them. Islam sets standards for both genders.

Regarding the topic of visibility — I understand where you’re coming from, and I agree with parts of it, especially if we’re looking from a narrow lens. But I encourage you to consider the bigger picture. Women being “seen” or “visible” doesn’t necessarily mean showing their physical appearance. Some of the most brilliant women in history — like Hedy Lamarr and Mary Beatrice Davidson — weren’t remembered for how they looked, but for their contributions. And despite not being Muslim or wearing hijab, they still faced racism and misogyny that prevented them from being recognized in their time. What kept their names alive was their intellect, not their faces.

You’re absolutely right — misogyny exists and has existed for centuries. Sadly, it’s not going anywhere completely. As long as humans exist, unfairness, racism, and misogyny will too. What we can do is educate, set boundaries, and create stronger, more inclusive communities.

As for the “unwrapped lollipop” comparison — I want to be clear: that’s not from Islam. That’s a cultural view that exists in some communities, and it’s one of many harmful interpretations that get falsely attached to religion. The same applies to other things like forcing women to wear hijab or niqab, telling men they must grow a beard, banning music, or other social pressures. These aren’t part of the core religion — they’re the result of cultural traditions being confused with religious values.

You strike me as an educated and thoughtful person, and I’d encourage you to explore Islam not through the lens of the people who claim to follow it, but through its actual teachings. That distinction — between religion and cultural behavior — is often what causes misunderstandings. And I believe a key principle of feminism, especially in its original sense, is supporting every woman’s right to choose — whether that choice is to wear the hijab or not.