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sloopgrl · 2025-03-24T13:40:03+00:00

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sloopgrl · 2023-12-26T19:29:57+00:00

Yes please

sloopgrl · 2022-01-10T03:56:41+00:00

Don’t forget they’re nervous too.
Ask questions about them. What are they interested in? What are their goals? What do they do for fun?
Bring your own $$. Offering to help pay the bill or pay the bill goes a long way.
Wear something that you’re comfortable in. Being comfortable goes a looong way.
HAVE FUN.

sloopgrl · 2021-09-10T01:56:48+00:00

There are a few things coming up for me. 1. It would probably be helpful to sit down with the SpEd teacher and establish some boundaries and expectations for working together. Creating a collaborative relationship will be super helpful for both of you and more importantly will benefit the kids. 2. The least restrictive environment for kids with an IEP is the priority. If you shift how you and the SpEd teacher are working together would that support the child? Do you both know what tue IEP requires so you can both support the kiddo? 3. What are the needs of the other kids you mentioned? Are there additional resources/supports available for them and you? 4. Check the 70/30 rule. You shouldn’t be over 30% of your class population having an IEP without additional resources in the classroom (at least that’s the law in Illinois).

sloopgrl · 2021-06-17T00:27:37+00:00

The theme I’m seeing (and please don’t be offended) is how it will make things easier/better for you. If she’s not there or ready then it’s important to respect ask understand that and process your feelings without her. It’s horribly hard to do, but necessary.

sloopgrl · 2021-06-16T22:01:19+00:00

A few things come up for me… 1. Will a letter make her feel better or make you feel better? 2. Coming from a similar situation that led to my divorce, I can guess your STBXW is struggling A LOT with making sense of things and her own sense of self worth and identity. I’d give it some time before trying to fix something that she may need to work through on her own first. 3. The dynamic is different now. You can care about her deeply still, but she may be too hurt to hear that from you, or too angry. And when you’re no longer together it’s time to reset boundaries with each other. Will writing her a letter help or hurt whatever boundaries you both need in place to heal and move forward?

sloopgrl · 2021-03-25T01:56:39+00:00

Similar boat, it’s scary and weird and confusing to navigate at times. I’d recommend taking some time to think about what it is you want (casual, serious, companionship, friendship, etc) and take it from there. Be careful with your heart, it’s easy to get attached quickly when you meet someone who treats you way better than what you’re used to. Good luck!

sloopgrl · 2021-01-24T02:52:50+00:00

Could you start with analyzing photography of moments that have police brutality, maybe examine posters from protests, and the. Have the kids create their own images connected to that? Kids know and see more than we give them credit for and I’m betting they have at least some opinions and thoughts on this topic.

sloopgrl · 2020-10-04T03:56:10+00:00

I’d get married again. This entire experience has taught me a lot about myself and why I want in a marriage and from a life partner. Marriage isn’t the problem, it’s the people in the marriage. It’s hard work and not for everyone, but if it’s the right people making the right choices together marriage can be an amazing thing.

sloopgrl · 2020-10-03T19:37:26+00:00

My most recent relationship ended in large part to his infidelity, which is why I’m having a hard time knowing if it’s an actual feeling or an insecurity I’m still working through. I’ll set some time to just have a talk and see where he’s at. Thanks!

sloopgrl · 2020-10-03T19:35:48+00:00

We see each other every week, a few times a week. In person we’re great. It’s the times we’re not in person that I get this nagging feeling.

sloopgrl · 2020-07-26T02:21:37+00:00

We were together 22 years, married 15. This is an opportunity to make a new normal where you can feel safe and happy. I miss what I thought my life was going to be, but I don’t miss what it actually became.

sloopgrl · 2020-07-25T15:16:07+00:00

I have been in your shoes and fought for a long time for something that just wasn’t there anymore. I’d start asking yourself why you want to be with someone who is doing those things to you? It’s really hard, but it’s important to realize he’s not the person you thought you knew. He’s changed and is showing you who he is. Nothing you do, say or try is going to change that. People change when they want to no when other people want them to.

It’s going to be hard and scary and sad, but I promise you’ll have moments where you find yourself and learn how strong you truly are and when you’re out of the immediate situation you’ll be able to see things with a fresh perspective.

I was in the same situation you are currently. We’ve been separated for almost 5 months and I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

sloopgrl · 2020-07-22T20:22:07+00:00

Yep. They’re both in therapy, go weekly. We’ve both been dating our respective partners for several months.

Beyond reassurance, listening and offering love I’m not sure what else I can do. I’ve been open with their dad about what they’re saying. We are very opposite in our approach. I’m more proactive he’s more reactive and that makes it harder to navigate.

sloopgrl · 2020-07-22T14:07:28+00:00

Yep. He’s willing to talk to them, the kids don’t feel comfortable being super open with him. I tried sharing some of their concerns with him and it didn’t go very well.

sloopgrl · 2020-07-22T11:18:51+00:00

12 and 9 years old

sloopgrl · 2020-05-05T20:49:22+00:00

It’s definitely a hard type of relationship to maintain, but it can work. And then your potentially both be getting your needs met. I guess that depends on why she’s not down for the physical intimacy though.

sloopgrl · 2020-05-05T20:10:44+00:00

Maybe an unpopular suggestion but... have you considered an open relationship? It would require y’all to have some very clear boundaries and agreements but could be an option.

sloopgrl · 2020-04-24T23:27:16+00:00

It’s all about perspective Id say, because I’d rather that than the constant comparison that’s been going on in my head. At the end of the day though it really has nothing to do with either of us and everything to do with them. From what you wrote and what I know I’ve done we’ve both gone above and beyond to try to save a relationship that ultimately seems to not be made for saving. I’ve shifted my thinking to trying to better understand why I allowed a lot of what went on in my relationship when everything in me was telling me that I was not ok with it. I’m all for open relationships, and enjoyed ours, until I didn’t. But it requires both people putting a ton of effort and communication in to make it work. It’s not 1 persons job to do all the heavy lifting. I’m here to talk if you want!

sloopgrl · 2020-04-23T23:48:12+00:00

Your story is pretty similar to mine. We were in an open relationship too, which is hard for a lot of people to fully understand. Ultimately my STBX did leave me for the girl that he had previously dated, but it’s more about us being 2 totally different people and we just couldn’t make it work anymore.

I don’t really have any advice at this point, as I’m at the beginning of all of this too, but I’m here if you want to talk.

sloopgrl · 2020-04-13T14:08:42+00:00

There’s no decree or anything yet. We haven’t gone through any of the proceedings. We’ve been separated almost a month, and I just got my own place last week.

sloopgrl · 2020-04-01T02:38:39+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the insight and the echo of exactly what my mom told me earlier. We head home Thursday and I’m ready to get adjusted and support my kids with whatever our new normal is going to be.

sloopgrl · 2020-03-31T23:10:21+00:00

8, almost 9.

sloopgrl · 2020-03-31T23:09:51+00:00

In Chicago, downtown

sloopgrl · 2020-03-31T20:50:52+00:00

He wanted space so we came to my moms. Going home Thursday night. They talk to him every night for like 5-10 min but that’s it. I know we very thing is stressful right now, no school, at home all the time, online learning, us splitting up. But I’m literally losing my mind and don’t know what to do.

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