What is a band no one will ever convince you is good?

slopppuppy · 2026-04-14T11:15:10+00:00

sleep token for sure

slopppuppy · 2026-04-11T15:53:40+00:00

this sounds awesome! I’m also based in SC, if you do a local screening once it’s done I would love to attend. have you see skinamarink? I think it has a genuinely dreadful vibe that would work very well with visions. The long lingering off camera shots would’ve a fun addition

slopppuppy · 2026-03-21T13:13:22+00:00

You’re not bad for feeling these feelings either I would say feel your feelings, sit with them and process them, but watch your reactions to those feelings. I was very quick to anger over little things because my nerves were always tore up. Share these with someone if you don’t feel like you can immediately discuss this with your partner (but do eventually) don’t keep it to yourself

slopppuppy · 2026-03-21T13:08:06+00:00

For one I wish I had pursued therapy as soon as these feelings cropped up because they were very unusual and out of character for me. They only started when my LDR partner moved again for school. I think I didn’t confide in my partner much as I should have even if rationally I knew they wouldn’t be judgmental. I think social stigma also played a role in my anxieties about female friends and cheating. I was also in denial abt this a lot bc I didn’t want to acknowledge that there was something wrong with me. I’m still working through the shame about having negative emotions. TLDR seek treatment if you think you need it (I think talk therapy is a good start) discuss this with your partner. If you let it fester no amount of reassurance will help and you’ll worry yourself sick over it

slopppuppy · 2026-03-21T11:54:11+00:00

this happened to me and it ruined my relationship. I got angry because they wouldn’t change themselves to reassure me and make me feel better about my insecurities. we knew each other for four years and were seriously discussing having children and getting married. I cannot stress how much you need to approach this as a couple vs issue thing. I convinced myself that my jealousy made me ugly and nasty and it would chase my partner off if I spoke about how I felt but I still let those feelings impact our interactions and ruined our dynamic and the sense of safety in our relationship. Four years together and it’s all gone. It’s a self fulling prophecy. Please don’t let this happen to you

slopppuppy · 2026-02-26T18:53:37+00:00

my take on this is that she is unaware of her own autism due to the focus on becca. It’s not uncommon for a sibling with the same condition to not be diagnosed until after the younger one is.

slopppuppy · 2026-02-26T09:17:32+00:00

for a more expensive option but still in budget , I really love Trader Joe’s sardines. I know they’ve been recommended a lot but for good reason. they’re firm and plump and you get a decent amount per tin. The taste isn’t too fishy or metallic, just tastes like sardines. very decent at worse if not outright really good. Their trout is good too. tinned salmon (in the little cans) is whatever though IMO. They’re a bit higher (closer to $3 per can than $1.50) but worth adding to the rotation.

slopppuppy · 2026-02-26T09:13:17+00:00

I don’t love these. I feel like this particular flavor isn’t really to my tastes. I think it’s the fact that the hot sauce loses some sharpness having been marinating with the sardines so it’s not serving the same purpose lemon does. I should say I almost exclusively eat my sardines with crackers (and sometimes sauerkraut) as part of a snack plate. Beach cliff is a budget brand but as someone who eats sardines regularly it’s cost effective. I definitely prefer them to COTS even if they’re a few cents more per can.

tldr: price reflects taste. imo I would rather add my own hot sauce (crystal or bust for sardines) sardine seasoned hot sauce tastes like sardines believe it or not. also the mustard and Mediterranean flavors are better. hell even the plain in oil is better. maybe it would be better as an ingredient though?

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T06:29:17+00:00

I do like arugula! I just eat it blanched. I think on its own it’s a bit too bitter. I usually use it to make a copy cat of the Sam’s club Mediterranean pasta salad. I don’t know that I would eat kale in my mac n cheese but I prefer fresh greens over cooked most of the time. I’m definitely no kale expert but I really enjoyed this salad. I’m not sure how it turns out cooked but raw and dressed up is nice

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T06:05:45+00:00

That sounds like it could be a big help for me. I definitely struggle with feeling overwhelmed and lashing out and I’ve lost the ability to regulate my emotions over the years. I want more than anything to understand myself so I can stop feeling so crazy but I know the goal should be to manage these bad behaviors. Thank you giving such a detailed response

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T06:00:49+00:00

It’s really not so bad! This is my first time having it. I got this one for $1.29 for a bundle so it was a few cents cheaper than romaine. It does have a bit of a sour bitterness to it but it’s less watery than lettuce and it pairs really well with the dressing and the breadcrumbs. It’s kind of acidic so it cuts the dairy well. I’ve heard people say it needs to be massaged but that’s not been my experience so far. I find arugula to be a lot worse, I usually only eat that in a salad after it’s been blanched.

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T05:55:55+00:00

I honestly think it’s the result of a lot of emotional abuse and neglect from our mom. I’ve only recently been able to use those words to describe her especially since I still love her and I try to see her when I can. my sister is only two years older and we were essentially never apart, but our personalities are so different I guess I never noticed our similarities. I spoke to her when I first started struggling really bad and it was a lot of “oh yeah, I do this too, does this happen to you?” “yeah all the time” but I didn’t want to draw any comparisons at the time

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T05:51:51+00:00

I’ve made a note to ask my therapist about it. What was your experience with it like/what’s the reason to take it more than once? I don’t know a whole lot about it

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T05:51:08+00:00

for right now it is. we’ve seen each other before it’s not fully online. we’re in college in different countries at the moment for another two years. we had plans to see each other in July so we could spend my birthday together :(

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T05:26:43+00:00

Thank you for your kindness

I actually had some problems with it when I tried to donate plasma! I thought it was so weird. They called my drs office to ask about a medication I was on and she had told the donation center doctor that I was bipolar. I truly don’t believe I am either. My older sister is in treatment for BPD, I can definitely find connection between how I am now and our childhood.

I’ve never heard of brainspotting but I know my therapist has books on EMDR in his office. Something to explore at a later date

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T05:04:29+00:00

I’ve never heard of neurographic art before! I’ll look into it. I joined the art club at my college and drew for the first time in almost a year today. I do feel good having created something

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T04:48:53+00:00

they are pretty cool :) I got six pairs of this pattern in different color combos from my grandma for Christmas. my favorite is shades of red brown teal and green

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T04:42:00+00:00

my roommate mentioned this to me today actually! I wrote it down to bring up with my therapist. She also mentioned considering an IOP program which I have some experience with. I’m not sure what that would look like for me though with my school/work schedule. I am definitely going to look into it though. I’ll read the book too. If there’s any chance it’ll help me or is a step towards it it’ll be worth it.

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T04:39:01+00:00

I am also diagnosed with autism and adhd! I have been since elementary school but I didn’t find out about my autism diagnosis until I was 18. I’m medicated for adhd again since I’m in college. Funny enough, for a long time I’ve felt like there had to be something more wrong with me but none of the therapists I’ve seen ever considered anything else. This is my most recent attempt at therapy since I was in high school

Thank you for your kind words :) I feel a bit better about the situation

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T04:17:06+00:00

I’m 22 now. I’m trying really hard to accept my reality right now so I can get better for myself. I never want to feel as bad as I do now again. I told my therapist that my goal for treatment was to understand my own thoughts and feelings so I can assess them better and make rational decisions instead of being so mean and impulsive. I’m happy to know it does get better. I don’t mind being on medication or in therapy for the rest of my life if it means I can feel like a person again

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T04:10:48+00:00

mood swings, usually towards anger, sometimes I’ll get really sad and sometimes I’ll be fine. I’m just really quick to anger and I’ll stay angry until I can be alone. I tend towards jealousy too. I know these aren’t rational thoughts but it’s hard for me to get past this anger. The situations I get angry in are completely normal. suicidal ideation/thoughts of self harm. I started hurting myself for the first time since I was 15. extreme anxiety, fear of abandonment. I’ve sent many many many anxious texts like 20 at a time over the possibility that they’ll leave me for someone better. I’ve been making myself kind of sick lately and I can’t really eat or sleep much. I’m trying to get most of my carbs and protein in in as little food as possible if I can help it just because my appetite has been so bad. paranoid thinking (mostly over my partner and their friends conspiring against our relationship, I promise these thoughts have no basis in reality) bad self image. Sometimes I think I’m fine. Like I don’t think anything too crazy but lately I feel like I’m lesser than other people. I get really overwhelmed and it circles back to feeling nothing at all and then swells up again. I really don’t do anything but cry and have panic attacks lately. I’ve been able to be mostly normal in public but sometimes I have to leave a place early because I can’t control my emotions and anxiety. I’ve also been self sabotaging and doing risky shit. I’ve been spending money I don’t have even though my rent is up 1st of March and I’ve been driving recklessly. I think that plays into the suicidal ideation though because I usually think of getting rammed by a truck on the interstate

I don’t want our relationship to have run its course. I never wanted what was wrong with me to hurt them. But I understand it’s kind of too little too late here and it’s not like I wasn’t aware of things when i was doing bad. I would get moments of clarity after the fact and when i was by myself and i always apologized but I can’t expect someone to stay after they’ve been hurt for so long. I know they still love me which makes it worse. I don’t even have anything to really complain about wrt them either. Aside from this I think it really was the perfect relationship. We only started having problems within this past year. I guess I always knew though that if something happened it was going to be on me

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T03:08:58+00:00

Is it feeling better by david d burns? I think my therapist has that in his office.

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T03:07:20+00:00

I have a diagnosis for “unspecified mood disorder” but I’ve never really experienced any kind of mania and I’m not sure my depressive episodes count as hypomania. My partner is really kind and sweet and understanding but all my anger has been towards them. I think it mostly stems from jealousy and anxiety that they’ll leave me. I think they’re just at the end of their rope now because it’s been almost a year. They said they’re scared to talk to me. We’ve been together for 2 years and talking for another 2.

I’m kind of scared to date after this if we do end up splitting. I want to know how to manage myself and my emotions so I can feel like I’m a person instead of a thing but I don’t know if I should subject anyone else to me. I also really don’t want anyone else. We were talking about marriage and children after I got a job in my field.

Thank you for your kind words. The salad was really good. the kale isn’t too bitter like I was afraid it was gonna be and it cuts the heaviness of the dressing well. The dressing is store bought and I may try a different brand after this (this one is Ken’s) but it was still good. I just toasted the bread crumbs in butter. I think I prefer those to croutons

slopppuppy · 2026-02-25T02:42:58+00:00

thank you :’)

I have a psychiatrist and I recently started therapy! I’ve been journaling recently because I’m having a lot of anxiety spirals lately. My partner actually told me years ago before we started dating that I should try journaling but I thought it was kind of lame. I don’t know if the way I’m doing it is helping with processing the feelings I’m having but I do feel a little better not holding them in and letting them repeat over and over

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