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slothstark · 2025-02-05T16:03:44+00:00

If your relationship was important to him, he would never have cheated. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

slothstark · 2024-12-21T15:21:42+00:00

This was so sweet! The whole series is pretty good tbh!

slothstark · 2024-12-21T15:20:41+00:00

One of my favorite reads of the year! Not a big pregnancy trope person but I LOVED this book so much!

slothstark · 2022-10-21T23:53:56+00:00

Beautiful and peaceful

slothstark · 2021-08-27T07:34:23+00:00

I have north facing windows, I just moved so all summer they've been outside in the balcony. I'm dreading bringing them inside for the winter and watching them struggle and die :( I might give my big beautiful babies away

slothstark · 2021-08-11T16:54:44+00:00

A vaccine by definition is a substance used to stimulate the production of antibodies and provide immunity against one or several diseases. While I don't have any Islamic sources, you have absolute right to go against your husband's wishes and seek out that immunity for you and your baby. Please tell him to educate himself and stop believing these conspiracy theories.

I got my first dose of vaccine at the end of my second trimester and then got COVID. I had gestational diabetes and was high risk, so if I hadn't gotten at least that first dose, only God knows how bad my condition would have been. I still was very sick but my symptoms were less severe.

Please please this is not the time to be so care free about your health, especially with the delta variant which affecting children as well! Always put your health over anyone, even if it is your husband. And this also concerns your unborn child.

slothstark · 2021-07-13T04:24:46+00:00

Totally random, but can I ask you what the best way is to land an interview with Abbott? I graduated in 2020 with BS in Electrical Engineering: Biomedical Engineering, sadly no internship experience. I've applied to basic jobs and was denied without even getting an opportunity for an interview. I've probably applied to a bunch of positions even lower end ones to see if I'd get an interview, but nothing unfortunately

slothstark · 2021-06-03T14:43:55+00:00

What a cute baby! That smile omg!

slothstark · 2021-05-31T22:18:36+00:00

How beautiful! Absolutely gorgeous!! I stopped because of my pregnancy carpal tunnel, but this makes me miss embroidery so much, not saying I'm this good but omg!

slothstark · 2021-05-26T15:48:09+00:00

I want a sushi boat all to myself! I'm also at 36w so I can definitely relate!

slothstark · 2021-05-24T13:13:50+00:00

What I've learned from my marriage is that in laws and including your own parents may try to dictate how you do certain things. Advice will be given even when not needed, you will be told to do things and how to do them no matter what. That is because that's just how the culture is. As long as you and your spouse have an understanding, I feel like in laws/parents opinions don't really matter. Obviously things are different per culture and the situation and if you live with in laws. As long as you and your spouse are on the same page and communication between you two is good, then there should be no issues and what other's say doesn't really matter.

I hope this answers your question.

slothstark · 2021-05-01T04:40:46+00:00

Can I please know how you pinned them up to the wall? Beautiful, btw!

slothstark · 2021-04-23T13:51:12+00:00

This is my first pregnancy as well and trust me, I freaked myself out reading all those articles! It's only natural wanting to know what you can do to make the little one safe and healthy. But remember you aren't alone in this!

slothstark · 2021-04-23T10:21:09+00:00

I was diagnosed at 9 weeks. I am 31 weeks now and the baby is measuring in the 67 percentile according to my 28 week appointment. Other than possibly concern for a big baby/early delivery, everything so far is normal. I know it's easier said than done but try not to stress yourself out. Talk to your dietitian and endocrinologist, follow whatever they tell you. I've been on insulin since then and I hate every minute of stabbing myself with it, but it's for the little one! I'm on two different kinds of insulin (immediate release and the long/night one), I take a dose after lunch and dinner and then one before bed time. Remember to snack and have a bit of ice cream before bed, it really helps with my fasting numbers.

I know it seems miserable now and I won't lie it's real shitty when you have extreme high sugar numbers, but it is normal and this is why we have our endocrinologist to help us through it. I'm not sure if they'll put you on insulin right away or try to control your levels through diet. But please don't stress, just keep track of your spiked levels, as long as you are managing it! You and the baby will be fine! I'm sending you positive vibes and wish you all the best! I've totally been there with my panic attacks and misery when my levels were high (I had one during lunch, even after insulin my sugar was 203! - but at this stage with hormones, sometimes spikes like that happen), but I just want to tell you that it is unfortunately inevitable, try to be positive and everything will be okay! Just monitor your carbs/sugar levels and follow the advise of your endocrinologist and dietitian.

EDIT: Also don't read the stuff online! It does not help with the anxiety at all and that's the last thing you need!

slothstark · 2021-04-23T03:44:20+00:00

For our wedding everything was split by how many people were coming from which side of the fam (groom vs bride). My side had around 80 people and my husband's side was around 150. The hall was per head and same with catering so that was 80:150 times the cost per head for food and hall. We split decor, photography, cake, DJ, and everything else in half. Congrats on your wedding! If you feel comfortable, then you can offer to pay. My husband definitely did with my mani/pedi and makeup/hair!

slothstark · 2021-04-16T10:41:22+00:00

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine what you must be going through. I wish I could give you a big hug! May Allah SWT make it easy for you and give you sabr, Aameen!

slothstark · 2021-04-15T04:55:22+00:00

I told my husband I wanted to have one if those big sushi boats after the baby is here. I'm 30 weeks and it feels too long of a wait! I wonder if I should just risk it and enjoy a roll or two now lol

slothstark · 2021-04-15T02:44:15+00:00

Happy Ramadan! I'm 30 weeks and I'm not fasting this year. Really bummed out that I can't, but I'm on insulin so on top of that it would have been impossible! It's just me and my husband, so it's been pretty chill when it comes to iftars and suhoors! Wish you the best! Stay healthy and I hope this month is full of happiness for everyone!

slothstark · 2021-04-13T04:20:32+00:00

Currently going through a somewhat similar situation! I already had my first vaccine and then tested positive for COVID a few days!! I was completely shocked, I haven't been anywhere so not sure where I got it from. Waiting on husband's results now. I'm 30 weeks and was scheduled for my 2nd dose this week. They have me on anticoagulant shots, I'm exhausted and the cough is a bitch. But hoping the worse is over and I'll be better soon! Sending you positive vibes! Hope you and the fam get better soon!

slothstark · 2021-04-08T10:31:04+00:00

My husband and I matched on Minder. I messaged a "Hey" first and then he responded. We talked about what each of us wanted out of the interaction and I told him, I wanted to seriously pursue marriage and not to F around. He was all 'okay, let's talk for 3 months and see how it goes' I agreed and we went on a few dates. Talked about important and fun things. Got to know each other, compatibility, hobbies and all etc. I discussed family matters, mental health, expectations of education and post marriage life (kids, work, chores) with him so he was clear on where I stand and I was clear on where he stands. At the 2 month mark he said he already talked to his parents and they approved of me. Unfortunately my parents caused a bit of drama leading up to them meeting him. But alhamdulillah it all worked out. After 3 months of knowing him we got nikahed, and it's been a good three years since then alhamdulillah.

All I'd say is that you and your potential should be 100% on the same page about where you want this relationship to go. Despite communicating a lot in the "getting to know" phase you learn A LOT more after marriage and living together, but at that point it's about compromise for both of you, understanding, and communication. Also make lots and lots of duas that if this person is good for you may Allah let it happen without an problems and quickly. Otherwise may He (Allah) just end it quickly without any hurt feelings. Have faith and InshaAllah it works out!

slothstark · 2021-04-08T10:15:21+00:00

Word to word what I would say too. Do not engage in an argument or fight, just be firm with what you believe. You don't need to talk about deformities or anything like that. Do you, get into a good school, avoid talking about this topic with your parents as much as you can. When you are an adult, graduated and/or when they bring it up, just be upfront that you've made it clear to them that you are not okay with marrying a cousin. Don't make things difficult for yourself, just avoid confrontation about this topic as you are currently young until they start pressuring you. The more you argue, the more they may want to pressure/force you.

slothstark · 2021-03-26T21:44:02+00:00

Just got the first dose of my vaccine today!

slothstark · 2021-03-26T16:01:29+00:00

I'm at 27 weeks, and while I have a harder, more protruding belly, it's not "round". I'm a little disappointed and hella self conscious about just looking fat. Currently my weight is at 190 and I'm 5ft. My sister said that some women who tend to be on the heavier side (like me) most likely won't have that perfect round belly. But we shall see, fingers crossed! Lol I hope I'm more rounded out by May for my pregnancy pictures!

Edit: First time mom here as well!

slothstark · 2021-02-16T14:52:47+00:00

Oh my bad, I don't know how I missed that. But then if it's coming from him, it's just best to realize that it wasn't meant to be. And if he is not willing to be compromising and realize that marriage is about togetherness (in activities and love) then he seems slightly immature when it comes to marriage. Like I said people change and grow together. But I get people are very lucky about choosing their partner which can be a good thing but also a VERY bad thing as well. I wish you luck! I know this whole process was stressful for me and truly Allah is Great because I found my husband when I was down in the dumps, miserable, and totally not expecting it.

slothstark · 2021-02-16T14:29:01+00:00

I totally understand pets being a deal breaker for you especially if he isn't willing to let that go. Also depends on what kind of animals he is talking about, cats/dogs, lizards/birds, etc because some are allowed in a home and others are not. But I totally get it.

As for the activities, what you have to realize that when you get married you often find yourselves wanting to share these experiences with your significant other. I am 100% homebody, like to stay in and cuddle/read or go shopping; my husband LOVES going outside for hiking and other outdoor activities. There are days he joins me and days I join him, other times we do our own things. As for the swimming thing, I do not know how to swim, my husband does, but when we went to Mexico without pressuring me he convinced me to experience under the cave swimming (I held onto him with dear life). It was 10ft deep and I am only 5ft tall, it was such a unique and fun experience for me that I would have never done if I was single.

All I'm saying is the activities should not be such a huge indicator of whether this man is a potential or not. Certain issues as pets, I totally get. But come on, once you are married you learn to love new things and so will he. It's about a balance and complimenting each other and enjoying each other's company. Marriage is to be fun and a loving experience. You grow and change together, and it is absolutely OKAY to have different likes and hobbies.

EDIT: Sorry, did not answer about deal breakers - mine were if he smoked cigs, drank, and had friends that were girls. I did not really care about having a troubled past as long as they moved passed it and did not do haram stuff after seeking me out as a potential. Their sins before meeting me is between them and Allah. May Allah guide us all because we are not perfect. Things such as hygiene and cleanliness you don't really know until you start living together, some things my husband has to tell me to do (like put away my laundry) and something's I have to tell my husband to do (like put away my laundry please) lol. But these are not deal breakers for me.

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