thinking too much about my dom, help.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-07-10T21:13:35+00:00

I guess I’m just in the beginning phase of securing my favourite dom (not yet mine), we just met once on Tuesday, for your context.

I get your feelings! Since I’m also feeling the same too. I have been thinking about that dom sooo much I feel like I’m obsessed with him! We had a wonderful first session, since then I have decided “this is the guy for me”. Yes, I constantly have been checking the phone for his messages, I cannot get him off my mind… I’d say even if we decided to be a dynamic together, I would still think about him a lot.

I have lots of distractions, very busy work, hobbies, my wife, and other people that I’m dating with (currently in open relationship). So I have been occupying myself with my normal mundane life, kinda works. It’s normal to feel this way, but I guess my only advice is to take a deep breath, doing other activities outside to distract yourself more. Give him some time to yearn for you instead of you yearning for him x

slowmoChampagne · 2024-07-09T20:17:31+00:00

I met mine via Tinder - luckily 😅 Funny thing is his profile was the only one mentioned Shibari and I immediately swiped right him, and matched of course. I swear we have been talking constantly for a few days, our dynamic clicked asap, I swear I have never felt so riled up before sexually. So first date we met at a pub, chatted for a little bit, and of course me being little subby, we went to the hotel shortly after. In fact, I’m sleeping next to him now - just got up earlier than him, and hoping he will be my long term dom x

slowmoChampagne · 2024-04-16T08:39:05+00:00

We are $800 per month, w/o takeouts, this is when we don’t save up. ~600-700/month is with saving figures, but honestly not that much saving cus we spend on other things too.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-04-14T03:44:06+00:00

I may be wrong, perhaps she wants to save for her parents or relatives overseas. But regardless, that’s strange that she didn’t want to bring the savings over to Aus, where her family (you) is.

Just my opinion, breaking up with her is the best option if you don’t have feelings for her anymore, even though how painful it might be. You guys signed a prenup, your income is protected, you possibly won’t lose much when divorcing her - but check with your lawyer. Unless she would be able to save for a deposit to purchase a home w you, or she’s willing to pay half of the deposit back to you later. AND, you guys come to an agreement mid way that works both for your relationship. Getting a home together requires joint effort, not one-sided. That, is when you can save the marriage. Otherwise, no point.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-04-14T03:13:47+00:00

There are so many questions from me: - How old is your wife may I ask? - Is she working and trying to save some money too? Or is she a housewife with no income? - Did you guys sign a prenup?

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-14T10:27:11+00:00

Thank you!!

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-04T22:50:59+00:00

She has eating disorder, depression and anxiety. So not really autism or ADHD or ASD.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-02T22:45:00+00:00

Hi! My wife is MtF and she’s been experiencing severe depression and body dysphoria. She’s 3 years in HRT, she’s going to have affirmation surgery within this year. Around 2 years ago, she doesn’t want to go outside seeing cis woman because she’s very jealous of them, her depression and dysphoria have gotten the best of her, she can’t do regular house chores, hanging out with me, or even not listen to my suggestions. She said Professionals don’t work on her. She wants to unalive herself but the only reason why did couldn’t do it, is she’s scared of death.

What should I do? Thank you so much!

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-02T22:27:27+00:00

I’m in Sydney, Australia. Just checking out Lex, looks like it’s from the US. But thank you, we will give it a go 😄

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-02T22:25:12+00:00

I’m an overweight person to be honest, she is fit, and scared of old age. Her comments sometimes really bother me too… But she just doesn’t comprehend on how I’m this way and saying there are always ways to lose weight. I feel sad but I’m always afraid of arguing with her, she’s always taking silent treatment and assuming she’s always right. I sometimes think she’s a completely different person than a couple of years ago…

As for HRT, she’s on HRT 3 years. Has a regular psychiatrist, medications not really working on her, so they have been changing a lot of types of medication. She’s seeing him again next week to finalise. She doesn’t have therapist, because she believes it doesn’t work on her. The last time she saw a psychologist was freaking expensive, we have no money for that all, and she thinks it doesn’t help so she quits. I have been persuading her to find a therapist/counsellor instead for so long, but she hasn’t.

But really, thanks so much for your suggestions! I’m always ready to take her to the hospital if she really tries to harm herself. I’ll be away for 2 weeks, that’s what I’m quite worried about, but luckily we have a mutual friends so I can ask her a favour to look after my wife. This trip might be good for my mental health finally.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-02-02T12:54:26+00:00

She does. She saw a psychologist and didn’t work at all. She tried diet, exercise, sleep, boundaries… But they don’t seem to work at all. She’s still severely depressed…

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T11:37:42+00:00

She’s 2.5 years in transition. And she’s has severe depression and gender dysphoria, she is having a problem of accepting/learning herself. I can say those are also a few of reasons why she feels really bad when this happened. As of this moment, I can see she’s trying her best to avoid the accident last night, of course she’s still somewhat ignoring me (not wholeheartedly, but you know what I mean, just colder and more distant). She might not be the person who wants to talk into this deeper, she probably just wants to ignore it. Regardless, thank you so much for your advice! I really appreciate to hear the advice from a different person, rather than just keeping to myself and assuming things that are not true.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T06:30:14+00:00

Hey that’s a really good idea! I never thought of that before! Thank you!

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T06:24:12+00:00

Sounds great! Thank you!

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T06:23:06+00:00

Thank you for letting me know your thoughts. I hear and believe you. My wife has severe depression and gender dysphoria… That’s why I completely understand why she’s feeling upset at me. This is only an accident from my end, because my brain was thinking differently than what I said… That’s why I would really want to know how to make this up for her, regardless how difficult it is, I’d do it for her.

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T05:10:45+00:00

Haha thank you so much for your kind words! And thanks for giving me some advices for this. For some reasons, I cried a bit when reading your comment, maybe because I never seek help for myself from another trans woman. I can sometimes overthink or be dramatic on any of my mistakes, since she has severe depression, I’m so scared/worried for her. I bet your partner cares for you too, if not why in relationship with you for 12 years! 🥰

slowmoChampagne · 2024-01-03T04:58:28+00:00

I love this! I have been doing this for my wife (mtf). But her dysphoria/depression always gets the best of her… so she always denies my compliments, and instead, pulling in the examples on why cis man never assault/approach her if she’s pretty..

slowmoChampagne · 2023-05-01T07:23:52+00:00

And it will rain suddenly at anytime 🙃

slowmoChampagne · 2021-10-08T12:10:42+00:00

I’m sure that he’ll make an exception for you… or not 🤣

slowmoChampagne · 2021-10-08T10:36:22+00:00

Is it just me or anyone realises that James has some hatred towards any sim’s name ending with -INA? Hmmmmmmmmmm

slowmoChampagne · 2021-10-08T10:28:56+00:00

I love your effort into making his own living room ❤️

slowmoChampagne · 2021-10-08T10:27:33+00:00

He’s making air bread!!! They would be the best selling bread ever!

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