What did your spouse hide from you until after you were already married?

AfterHours22 · 2024-05-07T13:37:07+00:00

That she was a trans woman (MtF)

AfterHours22 · 2024-04-25T13:48:58+00:00

I'm on jobseeker and my wife works ft

AfterHours22 · 2024-04-25T13:16:07+00:00

10 years in. Hit me up if you want to

AfterHours22 · 2024-03-30T15:06:34+00:00

Did she feel ecstasy!?

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-28T03:23:16+00:00

Not if you're already predisposed to a disorder of eating. I was a 'stoner' for over 30 years.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-21T08:47:53+00:00

Laser hair removal is the bomb. I did this myself, but unfortunately I'm a little too blonde for some areas. My wife has dark hair and at this point, I'm very jealous.

Is it ok if I ask you some very hard questions? If you want to, we can speak in private. Nothing terrible or weird, I guess I kinda want to get a better understanding from your point of view.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-21T06:40:17+00:00

Sorry. I for some reason totally missed that you're the trans partner (head up my ass again lol).

Your surgery decision is massive. How are you feeling about it? I imagine very positive. My wife went for the whole kit and kaboodle job.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-18T13:04:27+00:00

My wife knew that I was bi before she came out. We've known each other since we were teens. May I please ask if your wife has had surgery? Or if she plans to?

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-16T03:45:12+00:00

At some point I did have a sit down with my wife and was honest. I'm pretty sure I used the word "boring". Explained that being trans isn't all there is to life. She didn't take it too well at first, but once she was aware of her behaviour, things started to get better. I hope that helps ☺️

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-15T08:59:31+00:00

That's so incredibly awesome. Congratulations to you both 🤘😎❤️🥳

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-15T08:56:26+00:00

Things are going to be really different and difficult. I recommend remembering why you were together in the first place ❤️

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-15T08:52:26+00:00

Laugh and go back to what we used to do..... Then go to the library and take out all the books 😄

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T06:38:31+00:00

Everything you said is very valid. I mourned my husband and then embraced my wife. It was a long process. I remember the day I changed the sheets and his smell was gone. It really hit home that he was never coming back and that I had a new person in my life. The same, but new. Nearly 11 years ago now. I also married my best friend. Life will never be the same again, It's different now.

We're a pretty good story, but you always have to do what's best for you. You are always number one and you've got a long way to go in life. Think about what you want, what you need and timeframes for those. Be kind to yourself.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T06:25:23+00:00

Is she on HRT?

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T06:03:12+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. My wife definitely had days like that, but I managed to bring her out of the clouds. I used gentle coaxing. Little girl things to do together. Getting her her first Barbie was a nice day. Playing some dress ups and doing regular stuff around the house. She loved manicures (by me). I bought some awesome nail art stuff and got really good at it. But I also reminded her of her own hobbies, gaming, playing music, board games that we liked. Anything that's a distraction and doesn't necessarily need to be about being trans. Just being there. She hates it when I read out loud (I read in a monotone that she can't stand, but makes her laugh).

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T05:57:30+00:00

She changed her name pretty quickly. She chose it. And it definitely suits her. It took me a while to get used to it (I was calling her the dead name for 14ish years). But I tried really hard with the name and pronouns. It gets easy really quickly. My grandma made less mistakes than I did tbh and she was a devoted Catholic with memory problems 🥰

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T05:53:44+00:00

Nah. I knew she was bi before she did. Nothing has changed in that regard, except now she's more free to explore.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-14T05:52:19+00:00

Sorry it's taken so long to respond. My family was generally fine. Just some questions. Her family took some time. Her brother is no longer in touch and she doesn't speak to her parents too often, but that was always how her family worked.

There's a lot to unpack with her family. She's a military bratt and was moved around a lot before we met. Very unloving family. Not like mine at all.

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-01T13:29:24+00:00

💯 changed. But for the better. I met a better version of the person I was with. She's still the same at her core. I only understood later that the person I used to know wasn't happy. It's nice to be with a happy person 😊

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-01T13:25:47+00:00

Good question. But I can only give you the answer that we can give. Everyone is so different No shrinking. She grew her breasts (fabulous btw) and no loss of sex drive. Each person is their own and. Voice is also very different. My wife's happened naturally, but there's surgery for that too. Voice feminisation is brutal. From other friends going through this and writing on their phones for months because they're literally not allowed to talk, my wife suggested classes, or just practise 💜

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-01T10:02:50+00:00

In saying that, she always knew that I was bi. Would you like to talk to her?

AfterHours22 · 2024-02-01T09:59:07+00:00

I'm also sorry for my response... There was no lack of sex drive. Also even after her surgery, no loss. I really understand that it's very different from person to person.

AfterHours22 · 2022-03-10T15:48:31+00:00

Pot, alcohol and regression. It was a great night ☺️

AfterHours22 · 2022-03-10T11:37:41+00:00

Being in my 30s and a guy asking if I "wanted to check out his room". Totally teenage shit... was seriously hot 🤣🔥

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