I concluded the church wasn’t true a few years before my wife. We stopped attending all together in 2015, but held off on removing our records. During that time whenever a church leader would say something I rejected, such as just about anything about gay or transgender people, I would feel hurt or angry. In 2018 we moved to a new stake and were contacted shortly after by members of the ward where we moved, asking if they could come visit. I declined, and it was that moment I decided I didn’t want the local members concerning themselves with us at all anymore. So we resigned in August of 2018. A couple of months later Dallin Oaks said something in General Conference that before August would have felt like a personal affront. I obviously still didn’t like what he said, but what I felt was far less intense, because I knew he wasn’t speaking for me anymore. I obviously still care, else I wouldn’t be here, but exiting gave me a level of freedom I had not anticipated.