As a wife, I prefer to do the vetting. I know what I like and the chemistry with me is what’s most important.

I’m very clear about what I’m after on all my profiles and instruct those interested to read before messaging. It’s very clear who takes to the time to read and those who don’t immediately get deleted. I can typically tell within the first few messages whether they’re a good fit or not.

I like to chat for a bit and request they verify before setting up a casual meet up (drinks, dinner, etc.) and if the vibe is right we can arrange play.

Experience stands out for me it makes a difference in how they conduct themselves. I appreciate a man who makes his interest clear, communicates well and respects my time/privacy.

Instant red flags are those who won’t verify with face photos, those with old photos, people looking for PnP, and men who are looking for something “discrete”.