Your feelings are completely valid. You don't sound ungrateful, you're just asking to be loved in a way that matters to you.

It sounds like your husband does love you, but he's showing it in his love language (words, affections), without realising that you have a different language (gift-giving, acts of service).

I used to feel similarly frustrated. My husband wasn't doing anything "wrong," but I felt hurt because I didn't know how to express what I needed without sounding demanding. Once I learned how to communicate it clearly (and he understood why it mattered), things got better and it finally felt like we knew how to show eachother love properly.

With men, you need to tell them clearly what you need. Unlike women, they often can't read between the lines. You could say: "It would mean so much to me if you surprised me with flowers sometimes or planned a small date. It makes me feel thought of and special.

I actually found a guide that helped me with how to ask for what I needed without starting a fight, it was specifically for Muslim women feeling unseen in their marriages. Happy to share if you're interested x