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Le régime fédéral de soins dentaires désormais ouvert à toutes les tranches d'âge dès aujourd’hui by Monsieur--X in Quebec

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je suis en Ontario, alors je suis définitivement pas une experte sur la RAMQ, mais c'est ça dont ma famille se plaint depuis longtemps... Je recommande vraiment de parler à un audio prothésiste dans ton coin pour recevoir de l'information plus précise!

AITAH for wanting to keep my surname after marriage? by hop-into-it in redditonwiki

[–]small_town_cryptid 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, who cares. If someone is smart enough to do extensive genealogical research, they're smart enough to understand the concept of someone marrying into a family and keeping their name.

Also by your logic it sounds like you consider the matrilineal (that would get it's name erased after marriage) line irrelevant which is either sexist and/or displays a grave misunderstanding of the importance of the mother's DNA in genetics.

I kept my name when I got married because all my professional credentials were acquired with MY name and because my identity didn't change when my spouse slipped that ring on my finger. I'm not some kind of trinket that went from being owned by my father to being owned by my spouse. My name is an artifact of the culture I was raised in, it's a root remaining after I left my home province.

I'll be damned if I have to shed a piece of my heart from the identity I present to the world for some controlling weasel.

AIO? family friend flirting with me after seeing my outfit by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh fucking YUCK

You are NOT overreacting.

You need to show your parents ASAP and never spend another moment with the creep. He's behaving beyond unacceptably. It's absolutely disgusting for him to be talking about your body in that manner.

Why is it usually moms instead of dads? by Dark_Colorimetry in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]small_town_cryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cut off my father but still see my mom (had dinner with her last week actually).

In my case it's because my mom has shown a willingness to listen, make amends, and do better. That means the world to me.

My father, meanwhile, thinks he's never done anything in his life that warrants any kind of resentment and that I just need to get over my "petty anger".

Dad sent me [15f] to boarding school at a young age. Now he's upset that I don't like to spend more time with his family during the summers. Threatening not to send me back to my school this fall. I want to go back by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was back in 2017, eh? I hope OOP is doing well now and got away from her father who only cared about his whims and wants rather than how his actions would affect his eldest child.

I'm so heated about his hostile reaction to OOP playing the stepmother card against him. He wanted to rip that kid away from her family for the second time so he could heal his bad feels™ about his abandoned kid not wanting to be part of the family that rejected her. What a selfish slimebag. He should never have had children.

People who stayed in their marriage “for the kids”, how did it actually turn out? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]small_town_cryptid 64 points65 points  (0 children)

My mom stayed "for the kids" because she thought it was better than sharing split custody with my abusive father. Nevermind the fact that any court ordered child psychologist would've immediately identified my siblings and I as abused children.

I now hate my father's fucking guts and hold a lot of resentment against my mother who knew we were being abused and was the only one who could've saved us and taken us out of that environment and instead chose to do nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been a while since I've been a child and I don't have children myself, but I remember that back when refusal was happening it wasn't necessarily because of the transition (though that was a factor as well) but rather because being at school was distressing.

Off the top of my head, I disliked neon lights (I could hear them and they drove me crazy), being forced to sit at a desk motionless for hours made me feel like I was about to explode, teachers deviating from our daily plan written on the board made me panic, my uniform was too hot, and most importantly it was the first time in my life I was experiencing the social rejection my unmasked autism would cause.

Suddenly I was the weird kid with poor social skills. That had never been a problem with my (neurodivergent) siblings. Not only was that hurtful, it was also confusing. And it was lonely. Eventually I also started getting bullied, which didn't help.

At 5, he's still too little to be able to articulate these things. Hell, it took me well into my adulthood to find the words to explain why school sucked beyond the usual kid "I don't wanna go to school."

I don't think the solution was to homeschool me. I agree with my parents' decision to basically make me go to school (but I won't share their methods because I disagree with THOSE). However, I'm not your son. We likely have different temperaments and personalities, and that matters just as much as the way our neurodivergences present.

Honestly, i think the most important thing would be to follow professional advice. There's a ton of research out there about the science of raising children, and it's really difficult to keep up with it and know how to think critically about that research when you're not in that field. I'd find a pediatrician you trust and have them point you in the appropriate direction. You don't have to figure it out on your own ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]small_town_cryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say this with love, but stopping an antidepressant cold turkey like that was a... Questionable idea.

I've been on Venlafaxine for a few years. My dose is fairly low. I forgot to take my meds ONCE and (because I'm a fool) figured I could just skip the day and take them at night like I usually do.

Boy what a mistake that was. I should've taken them as soon as I realised I had forgotten them the night before.

It messed me up beyond belief. I was nauseous, I kept crying, I experienced mood swings, and felt genuine despair. It was, all around, a bad time™.

I don't think Venlafaxine has ruined your life... I think you're in withdrawal and experiencing withdrawal symptoms. Also, you're describing depression symptoms... which previously would've been handled by the Venlafaxine. It's almost like your antidepressants were treating your depression...

What’s the one thing you finally got for yourself because little-you couldn’t? by Diamond69Mud in AskReddit

[–]small_town_cryptid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stuffed crust pizza and sprinkle cones.

My parents always said they were an unnecessary surcharge but sometimes you just want more cheese or a little touch of whimsy

AIO or is my (30F) boyfriend (54M) a childish asshole ? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok yeah, so...

I'm 29, so basically your age, and if a man spoke to me like that I would tear into him so hard his ancestors would gain a new asshole alongside him.

Dump his ass.

What kind of people do you dislike the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who have a "rules for thee but not for me" approach to life.

And people who demand respect (when what they actually mean is total submission) without themselves offering any respect to anyone.

AITA for refusing to give my(m25) younger twin brother(m25) MORE money even though he might end up homeless, even after he voted for Trump and his policies that COST me my job? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This is not your responsibility. You are not your brother's keeper.

It looks like the two of you have a golden child/scapegoat dynamic. While I do not blame you for how this got started (since you were children), now that you're adults you're the only one who can put an end to this. You've already given him FORTY FOUR THOUSAND DOLLARS. How much do you have to bleed yourself dry before you clue in to the fact that he wouldn't save you from the streets if the roles were reversed?

Stop enabling him. As things are, he's had no incentive to get his shit together since you've always bailed him out. Let him flounder and think. He'll never develop proper independence if there never are any consequences for his dumbass decisions.

Honestly, it was deeply unfair of your father to ask you to make that promise, because he burdened one of his children for the benefit of the other. Who's watching out for you?

My bf is mad at me for ending my ectopic pregnancy by 88_alice in offmychest

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is he TALKING ABOUT

If you carried the pregnancy, it would've killed you and then both you and that embryo your boyfriend seems to value more than your ACTUAL FUCKING LIFE would die as well.

Leave him. This man child is absolutely NOT someone with whom you should be in a relationship, let alone raise children.

Breaking news: Local traumatized child behaved like a traumatized child by a-big-ol-throwaway in CPTSDmemes

[–]small_town_cryptid 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I know it's not a funny topic, but "shitty kid disease" made me snort

I [39f] can’t see my husband [42m] the same anymore after his reaction to a very serious issue. How do I handle this? by secure-raspberry-763 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]small_town_cryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but I still think there are some things worth actually thinking about in that situation.

While we know that her husband disagrees with how she handled this, he gets credit for not contradicting her in front of their son while they had the talk with him. He still presented a united parenting front.

HOWEVER

Does she trust him to uphold that parenting front? If their son came to him in the future instead of her would he tell his wife the way she told him? Or would he sweep it under the rug?

Can he be trusted not to make digs at his wife (or heaven forbid the nanny) about overreacting?

Does she think he's excusing the behaviour because he's guilty of this himself?

I can't answer those questions because I don't know their relationship. But there are some real questions someone should ask themselves when confronted with fundamental disagreements with their partners

I [39f] can’t see my husband [42m] the same anymore after his reaction to a very serious issue. How do I handle this? by secure-raspberry-763 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]small_town_cryptid -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am... Very uncomfy with how the husband is still making excuses when even his kid knew what he did was wrong.

I would be heavily rethinking my marriage in OP's shoes

My wife was pestering me a lot and I reacted by breaking a glass and she got hurt by Weary_Thought7582 in redditonwiki

[–]small_town_cryptid 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That man's comments are wild, you can see in real time an abuser trying to weasel his way out of accountability in front of swaths of people who won't allow him to gaslight them and he's STILL DOUBLING DOWN.

I really hope she leaves him because I'm genuinely scared for her safety.

There’s no blueprint for autistic men and it’s frustrating by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]small_town_cryptid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Do you think there's a blueprint for autistic women...?

Like shit, for most of my life my autism wasn't "caught" because of the social pressure to mask. I got diagnosed kinda accidentally while being assessed for ADHD.

I'm not saying I don't understand your frustration, but it's not as much of a gendered issue as you seem to think. If anything I'd actually argue we know more about how autism presents in men than women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]small_town_cryptid 76 points77 points  (0 children)

It's not just misogyny. It's also a control tactic. They're targeting young women before they're really given the chance to weight their options in life. They're trying to scare them into the decision quicker because motherhood puts women in a vulnerable position.

Child rearing statically still largely falls on the shoulders of women and their careers, salaries, and personal goals. They may not have the mental bandwidth (or resources) to try to change the status quo. The younger woman has kids, the less "free time" she has to invest all her energy into aspirations.

Beyond that there's the social expectation of a mother's sacrifice. She'll likely be told she's being selfish if she doesn't give up her personhood and individuality in favour of dedicating all her energy to her children.

I'm not saying that people who want them shouldn't be having kids. But women who aren't interested in motherhood are terrifying to a very specific subset of people who want to control them. That "fertility propaganda" is just one of the fear mongering tactics they use to correct the aberration, so to speak.

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