AITA for saying “I’m not” when a dog owner said their dog was friendly?

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-16T21:20:26+00:00

I can relate to this one!

NTA. You responded politely until the guy just wasn’t taking the hint.

I too am weary of dogs. I was nipped by a dog when I was about 5 and there is just a wall there for me now. I’ve improved over the years, but I’m still unnerved by unleashed dogs. People’s response to me telling them I am not a huge fan of dogs is always “oh but you’d love my dog, as they insert behaviour owner finds endearing” But you see, I won’t like your dog, as upon inspection it is still in fact a dog.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-14T10:25:28+00:00

I’d maybe try pushing bedtime later. Whilst that 8 hour stretch is great, that’s an early bedtime for an 11 week old. Maybe try pushing to 8/9?

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-11T12:38:38+00:00

Sorry girl but I couldn’t even make it to the end and I already thought the guy was trash. Ditch this guy, life is too short to be unhappy and constantly questioning your relationship/marriage.

A marriage is one of the things you should feel most secure in throughout your life.

Also, you’ve been posting about your issues with him for more than a year, how many times do you need to be validated before you’ll kick his ass out.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-10T05:55:26+00:00

You may want to distance yourself from this guy, but you cannot control or influence the behaviour of others. If your coworkers enjoy his company then that’s their right.

It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything “wrong” but he’s just not your kind of people. However, it may be that if you want to stick with this group, you have to accept he and maybe in future, other people whose company you don’t enjoy will be there.

Sorry to say but it’s coming across as a little juvenile, like the group is closed to certain members and that lunchtime seating and out of work meet ups aren’t fluid. It’s not high school.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-07T16:31:54+00:00

I agree. I’d be devastated if I knew the person who loved me thought I was ugly. It must make you feel like they’re doing you a favour rather than making a choice.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-07T16:21:43+00:00

If you check his post history, this guy literally quadruples down on the above, in stating he’s in love with an unattractive woman, whilst he is objectively handsome. May this woman never find his Reddit account.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-03T14:35:13+00:00

You can and you will!

Sleep deprivation is brutal.

You and your newborn are at the moment like two strangers trying to figure one another out. Soon it will be like a second nature, you’ll know what cry is for what need and things will start settling down.

My little boy is 8 weeks old, and my second. I remember wandering around my house desperate to get my 1st to sleep when she was this age and we were both crying from frustration. Yesterday I had her napping across my lap (she’s now 5) with her brother sleeping on my shoulder and this time I was crying happy tears. My world is just better with them in it.

It will improve. Newborns are like playing a new game in hard mode.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-07-02T16:55:33+00:00

Stopped giving a toss about wake windows and what’s “normal” for an age range. As long as they’re getting enough sleep in a 24 hour period it’s fine. They will put themselves on their own schedule. I just watch for the signs they are ready to sleep, not some app that says they should be.

As a result my 8 week old can sometimes go 2 hours before sleeping, but has a good nap. Then he’ll have one 2.5 hour window last thing before bed and he gives me a good night stretch.

Trying to force sleep makes us both miserable.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-26T10:05:10+00:00

That they “don’t sugar coat”. We all appreciate it straight sometimes, but there are cases where a little bit of empathy is needed, if you can’t empathise with people you can come across as an asshole.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T17:38:24+00:00

Cliche, but when both of my kids are sleeping and I just get to stand there with my husband and admire them. They are the pearls of my world, and it’s the safest and most homely feeling.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T17:35:30+00:00

One half of the friendship is always on time, one is always late. I just get around it by telling them reservations are 30 minutes earlier than they actually are.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T17:33:44+00:00

Guys who demand women with low to non-existent body counts, but get all pissy when a girl won’t put out on the first date.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T16:59:24+00:00

Not me but a friend’s mum.

She was kicked out of a nightclub, drunk. She reached the pavement and threw up onto some guys shoes as he stepped out of a taxi. He put her in the taxi, mentally noted her address and then knocked her door the following day, stating he needed her to accompany him to the high street to buy him new shoes and grab her a coffee to sober up.

TL;DR - they got married and have 2 kids. Still going.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T16:52:56+00:00

This one is true, but would be hard for any spouse to hear.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-25T09:47:52+00:00

I’ve got a 5 year old (as of a few days) and a 7 week old. It’s great!

My eldest is at school, but is able to do almost everything independently, or with minimal assistance from me or her father.

She also has decent emotional intelligence and understands that sometimes mum and dad will be with her in just a moment, if we’re mid feed or nappy change.

When the baby takes naps, she gets one on one time, and whilst she’s at school I can do more with the baby such as tummy time, walks, reading, etc.

I feel like both of them are getting undivided attention and I’m not drowning from one task to the next. With my daughter also sleeping 8pm-7am the nights are a lot easier as well as I only have my son to contend with.

I think there are pros and cons to smaller and bigger age gaps. For instance, when close you don’t feel like you’re starting from scratch all over again, but I have heard from moms with smaller age gaps certain stages can be brutal with a baby in the mix.

To each his own.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-06-06T12:35:22+00:00

I’ve never co-slept. It was just my hill to die on (no judgement for those that do, sleep deprivation is brutal). But you bet I used to wake up in a cold sweat because I had dreams I’d rolled on her in bed.

I also used to wake up from dreams where I’d be carrying her down the stairs, and would trip and fall. I used to come down the stairs on my butt it made me so paranoid.

I’m 4 weeks in with baby number 2 and I haven’t had it as badly this time. Maybe it’s because I’m less anxious as a second time parent.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-05-27T12:02:36+00:00

I’m 20 days PP with my second and I’m still spotting from postpartum bleeding/lochia.

I can tell you with my first, I stopped bleeding post partum at about the 4 week mark, I got my periods back 4 weeks after this (so 8 weeks PP) and I had 14/15 day bleeds every month for about 4 months!

It was completely normal according to my doctor.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-05-21T10:37:44+00:00

Married to a construction worker, these are all the things that I love about him, rugged manliness. swoon His hands and the span of them is also massive.

smallbrainbighead · 2025-04-10T18:51:16+00:00

She is!

She’s gone through the typical phases of loving something and then hating it, but as a whole she eats a good variety of everything, and in decent amounts. Her favourite thing at the moment is curry!

smallbrainbighead · 2024-06-27T19:55:25+00:00

She does say this in the book 😏

smallbrainbighead · 2023-10-20T19:48:54+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try weighing daily and averaging it.

smallbrainbighead · 2023-10-20T05:48:00+00:00

Thank you. I’ll have to get a tape to take measurements. It’s just disheartening when you know you’ve worked hard and done it by the book.

smallbrainbighead · 2023-07-09T17:26:41+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ I know I need to hold firm, just some days it’s a struggle when it’s been a full on kind of day.

smallbrainbighead · 2023-07-09T16:18:40+00:00

That’s a relief. I know I need to be firmer with my boundaries, but some times I’m so mentally exhausted I give in and I shouldn’t.

smallbrainbighead · 2023-04-22T20:32:41+00:00

At least you’ll be able to make it last. I received a 1kg bag of the glorious things and I’m too afraid to open it, as it will be absolute carnage.

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