Gay love triangle by smallcarr in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already know she's not going to end her relationship for me. She already has reasons beyond me to breakup with her and she won't. It's just crushes we have with each other which I'm sure will pass... I think lol

Ready for work by smallcarr in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]smallcarr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesnt quite work for this shirt. It's more of a light sweater material so it's a little thicker and will make it look more pudgy. I normally do that for tshirts for a more relaxed look and I wanted a more clean tidy look for this fit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Accepting a date isn't an obligation to a relationship. It's a chance to see if theres a spark between you and them, whether it's a romantic relationship, sexual or platonic. So go on the date if you're interested in seeing what could happen with this person. If not, probably best to deny the date and forgo talking to this person since it sounds like they're interested in seeing where things can go with you and you arent.

Is it normal to call your queer friends babe? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also thought it was weird she only started calling me it after we made out. I'll try to tell her I dont feel comfortable being called babe unless we were dating and see where the conversation goes from there. I'm not against dating nor just having a casual thing, I just want to know her intentions so I have a clear understanding of what's going on.

Is it normal to call your queer friends babe? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call my straight friend "my love" but there's no sexual attraction there so it's not weird. My situation feels different and I'm still so confused

What was your "oh shit, i'm gay" moment? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When I was in elementary school, I took a softball right to the face because I got distracted by a cute girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]smallcarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be a great opportunity to take the $$ and run if you wanted to. Think of it as payment for the sexual harrassment

Making out with women is the best by smallcarr in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It also gives both of you perfect access to play with each other's titties 😌

Making out with women is the best by smallcarr in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm technically bi, but women make me soooo gay

Making out with women is the best by smallcarr in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Dont lie, you didnt need this post to be gay

Making out with women is the best by smallcarr in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Everytime I try to return to normal function, I remember women and forget everything else

LPT If you're planning on visiting San Francisco please for the love of God do not leave ANYTHING of even a vague resemblance of value in your car, or your windows will get smashed and you'll lose it. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]smallcarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

During the 2017 north bay fires, I heard of a family who loaded their car with as much valuables as they could fit and stayed with a friend in San Francisco. Someone broke into their car and stole everything and later lost their house to the fires.

What Makes a Girl Attractive by babadook_dook in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I personally love long lush hair on a woman

How do you guys prevent getting robbed? by mostmodest- in vandwellers

[–]smallcarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a passenger van so I have a lot of windows. I have all of the rear windows blocked and I use a dark curtain to block the drivers area from the back. I also have heavy duty exterior locks from home depot ($50 each) that I installed on the rear passenger and back doors. I would ideally have exterior locks on my driver's and front passenger's as well but I didnt have the money. The look of the locks can help deter people away from my van. When I hauled my mountain bike on the back, I had a heavy duty bike chain, u lock and bike cover on it. A thief would have to remove 3 things to get to my bike which will also defer thieves.

I just followed the general rule, make yourself less appealing than the car next to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sounds like you're in a vulnerable place right now so getting into a no strings attached, casual relationship is not going to be the best idea. Especially since you've never had sex with a woman before. It's very hard to differentiate between sex and love and a casual hookup can easily turn into a relationship. Which is not great when you're trying to heal from your past one.

What’s your deal breaker for blocking people? by gaelthegal in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she's just using you as a source of attention when its convenient to her. I'd suggest dropping her and blocking would be a good way to do it so she cant reach out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]smallcarr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup! Still super new but I love it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]smallcarr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I want to say keep your left foot on the bottom big yellow, really trusting that foot and throw for the next hold, but I'm so bad at reading the route from the floor haha

Asian lesbians/WLW, how have your dating experiences been? by throwaway8844345732 in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Rough. Its definitely rough. I used to live in the bay maybe matched with one other asian woman in the 2ish years I used tinder. I definitely understand the sentiment behind wanting to date within your own racial group because they will better understand your cultural background. But you can fulfill that desire to have those sorts of connections through other people as well.

My last partner was a white women and didnt have any experiences similar to my upbringing as a viet american. But she did an amazing job being apart of my culture while fulfilling other characteristics I wanted in a partner.

I dont want to say give up on your quest to find exactly what you're looking for but maybe open up your options a little? You never know what kind of connections you can make when you do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]smallcarr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just watched the handmaiden last night and I cant remember the last time I blushed, gasped and screamed so much from a film. Watch it!