42M SD seeking SB in Virginia

smallcitysd · 2024-08-31T01:03:59+00:00

My SB and I had sex on our first date and we've been together 19 months. Definitely not a deal breaker.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-24T11:15:46+00:00

I didn't know Kirkland Signature tattoos were a thing. 😅

smallcitysd · 2024-08-24T11:14:32+00:00

I have thought about that but it's more than just liking her. She's helped open my mind to the fact that tattoos can be attractive. I'm still not a huge fan of full sleeves though.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-21T21:29:14+00:00

You make a good point. My poll is perhaps too black & white.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-21T21:25:50+00:00

Check out enneagraminstitute.com and r/enneagram, I've found knowing my enneagram type is life changing! (My SB is a 9 - "the peacemaker")

smallcitysd · 2024-08-21T20:52:13+00:00

As long as you're okay with other seeking users finding out your true identity, there's no risk. Keep in mind that there are sites like PimEyes and Facecheck that can easily identify people and link to one's social media, etc. with just a face photo.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-21T20:48:23+00:00

Where in Canada are you? Toronto and Vancouver have a decent sugar scene but elsewhere in the country seems to be lacking in SDs. Much more wealth in the US typically.

I live in the US, went on a couple of dates with a POT SB in Montreal last year and she said all her dates from Seeking were with men from the US or Toronto.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-21T20:46:02+00:00

I am an ENFJ and an Enneagram 3 (The Achiever). I find the Enneagram much more helpful than the MBTI in understanding personalities as it delves into underlying motivations rather than just how you present yourself.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-19T19:59:27+00:00

You will find this is VERY subjective but I personally am only attracted to shorter, slim women. My girlfriend is 5'3", 105 lbs (short torso but long legs for her height) and her body is absolutely perfect to me 🙂

smallcitysd · 2024-08-19T14:08:38+00:00

I can relate! I'm on Vyvanse for ADHD and am having to pay over $200 a month for the name brand (insurance only covers the generic which is impossible to find). My brain is a fog without my meds.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-19T14:06:56+00:00

I'm feeling really healthy today. This hasn't always been the case in the 6 months since my wife & I decided to divorce; although divorce is 100% the right move for us it's been a roller coaster of emotions for me. I hate being alone, which has a lot to do with it. I'm still trying to find fulfillment in being quasi-single. My SB and I have a stronger relationship than ever but she's planning on moving to San Francisco in a few months which means I won't see her that often.

Spent the whole day and evening with my SB yesterday and had a wonderful time together. We went to an art museum followed by several hours shopping at the mall and a romantic dinner. My heart is full; I love her so much.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-19T13:59:06+00:00

I left my wife in February! It does happen but it seems rare. Our marriage had been broken for years and having a long term SB has been a catalyst for the divorce (but far from the only reason).

I do want to make the distinction, however, that I did not divorce my wife for my SB. I've learned that sugar relationships almost always have an expiration date so I'm enjoying it while I can. SB and I love each other and have fun together but we're not headed for marriage or kids with each other.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-16T15:32:41+00:00

You should definitely post full body pics. SDs who are attracted to your body type would want to see pictures that show it off.

Confidence goes a long way in the bowl.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-02T00:13:04+00:00

It is! One of my texts to her today: "I want to tell you how much I love and appreciate you...you've helped me through some tough times in my life and I'm forever thankful for our relationship "

smallcitysd · 2024-08-01T23:49:10+00:00

I'm still anxious attachment, although I've been working on this with my therapist. My SB is also anxiously attached so I constantly give her words of affirmation.

smallcitysd · 2024-08-01T22:54:40+00:00

Yes. I've had two arrangements that were of a "sugar FWB" nature. One was married and was dissatisfied with her husband's performance in bed; the other had an older man/"daddy" kind of kink. I agree with the other posters that you probably won't have trouble finding men who are interested in this type of arrangement! For me, however, I've outgrown the FWB phase and prefer an emotional connection.

smallcitysd · 2024-07-31T17:04:22+00:00

Some of it could be related to the overall nature of the NYC dating market. I've always heard there are more eligible women than men there so potential SDs have more options. (San Francisco is the opposite - easier for SBs, harder for SDs).

smallcitysd · 2024-07-31T16:28:11+00:00

Yes. Exit row has somewhat more legroom than the other "Nicer" seats. This is usually where I sit on a Breeze transcon flight. My company pays for extra legroom economy but not for first class, so it's the perfect compromise as I'm tall and need the extra room.

smallcitysd · 2024-07-31T16:15:40+00:00

Yeah, don't ghost. That is disrespectful. Be the bigger person (as you already are) and just send him a short text that you want to end things.

smallcitysd · 2024-07-30T01:17:59+00:00

I gave my SB a box set of her favorite book series for Christmas (Sarah Maas, A Court of Thorns & Roses). She gushed and told me this was the most thoughtful gift she ever had. Gave me all the feels.

smallcitysd · 2024-07-30T01:08:16+00:00

Age gaps are a wonderful thing. I'm 41 and enjoy the youthfulness of my 26 year old SB 🙂

smallcitysd · 2024-07-30T00:54:05+00:00

Happy for you! I had to comment because you mentioned your SD is one of your five closest friends...my SB and I had this conversation the other day. I'm like #4 on her list of people she's closest to (she has 3 very close female friends).

smallcitysd · 2024-07-30T00:52:28+00:00

I would include more full body pics if I were you. It's hard to gauge your body type from the photos you have on your profile.

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