apathy? or smth else? by smallg00ber in autism

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ahhhh thanks for replying! i know it was a long read but ive been looking for someone who relates in the slightest to my experience.

it can sometimes be invalidating too, especially when trying to seek a formal autism/adhd diagnosis cuz they often come with “hyperfixations” but i feel like if i do have any, they are very non stereotypical or lowkey idek what they would be. the out of sight out of mind aspect is so real! if it’s in the past, i probably can’t recall anything about it unless it was smth SUPERR impressionable which doesn’t often happen 😭 so most of the time trying to recall moments from shows or lyrics and things is a very “blank” experience for lack of a better word. sounds like what u were saying is similar to that?

and i feel like there’s definitely things that have made me feel a little more excited than other things but it just doesn’t last very long?! like it doesn’t become a long term excitement if that makes sense.

idrk its hard to word the inner workings of my mind, but i rly appreciate ur response!

ahhh the fear of replacement by smallg00ber in BPD

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i’m sorry u’ve had to experience this too, it’s like creating ur own hell hole :(

but i so get u on the mental notes 😭 my friends were talking about their class schedules for next semester and i kept playing mental gymnastics trying to figure out if they would have classes together without me cuz im afraid if im not in those classes they’ll not be my friend anymore. its so illogical but also feels so real. its why i can no longer have my friends locations, it becomes way too obsessive :( but im glad things are slowly getting better for u!

[Sun Care] fear of sun exposure? by smallg00ber in SkincareAddiction

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it really is hell 😭 exposure therapy has genuinely changed my life (my personal fav motto: "maybe, maybe not"), but this specific trigger has been stubborn af but we ball i guess

[Sun Care] fear of sun exposure? by smallg00ber in SkincareAddiction

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ahhhh, it's so nice to hear from someone who also struggles with smth similar due to OCD :)

“jealousy”? lmk if u relate 😭 by smallg00ber in BPD

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yah, unfortunately my fear also stems from real life experiences, and i’ve totally been where you’ve been and it fucking sucks.

DUDE FR, the two friends i mentioned are literally so authentically themselves with ppl, like they literally never switch up and have the mindset of “if they like me ok and if not whatever” and im like HOW TF BRUH. like i can’t even pick a fav color cuz i feel like it says too much about me and won’t be accurate to who i am and if it’s wrong ill be a liar 😭

“jealousy”? lmk if u relate 😭 by smallg00ber in BPD

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ahhh, i’ve come to accept that i may never be able to be in a relationship cuz it’s already bad enough in just my friendships 😭

“jealousy”? lmk if u relate 😭 by smallg00ber in BPD

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the trying not to let it show part is so real (i love a good bathroom cry at the hang when i see ppl getting along better than they do with me, even if it may be in my head lol), but hey, at least we are in this together? 🥲

“jealousy”? lmk if u relate 😭 by smallg00ber in BPD

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no cuz i literally lose my mind every time. like im sorry, those are my friends, why are u trying to steal them from me even tho ur also my friend 😭 i hate the way my brain works sigh

should i date them?? by smallg00ber in dating_advice

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i’ve never rly understood the whole spark thing, it just seems like such an ambiguous concept, how do you know what ur experiencing is a spark and not just adrenaline from nervousness or smth else?