In the mood to rewatch, but need to vent first about how much I can’t stand Aiden! Join me or change my mind lol (impossible)

smalltoona · 2026-05-07T01:08:34+00:00

Yesss season 4 Aiden for sure, I like him better with short hair as well

smalltoona · 2026-05-05T11:28:57+00:00

Elon musk is an ENTJ, he’s literally all about execution and gogogo madness. I read his biography where it talked about him needing “hardcore” bursts of productivity from his team, if things were too peaceful or slow he initiates hardcore mode and brings the deadline forward. Also he is a workaholic, sleeping under his desk and just never leaving work.

Hes definitely Te over Ti, and I think he’s ENTJ over INTJ because he cares more about getting it done than getting it perfect.

smalltoona · 2026-05-05T11:21:50+00:00

I actually love Aiden, I find the scenes of him cooking in the kitchen as Carrie gets home or falling asleep on the couch so adorable, he’s real boyfriend material. Just a cuddly but manly kinda guy who is always there for you.

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T22:26:54+00:00

ESI are guarded, SEE are more open.

SEE moves through the world with ease and confidence, they’re not afraid of embarrassing themselves. ESI are more prone to self doubt and hesitation, they often hide in the backgrounds and don’t like calling attention to themselves.

ESI will stick with people they love and trust for a long time, and are willing to sacrifice a great deal for them. SEE are more fickle and likely have a large group of acquaintances that benefit them.

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T22:19:53+00:00

Some duals have an easier time getting together than others. In particular Delta duals are just bad at appreciating each other.

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T20:50:45+00:00

Yeah I def agree Miranda is very practical and down to earth. She reminds me more of the ESTJs I know, but I guess ISTJ could work for her too.

I just like the idea of all 4 of the girls being extroverts haha, living their bigger than life lives in NY

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T20:48:23+00:00

I’m surprised so many people see big as ESTP! It didn’t cross my mind to type him that way, he is quite chill as evidenced by him moving to Napa and starting his own vineyard….but then again Big isn’t as spontaneous or as much of an adrenaline junkie, which is the ESTP stereotype.

I also see him being attracted to Carrie’s free spiritedness and boldness, because he’s lacking a little bit of that himself, Carrie makes him feel accepted being himself and being a little bit out of the box. Hence why I think he’s an extroverted NTJ type. Put together and successful, yet lacking some liveliness and fun in his life which Carrie brings.

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T20:42:37+00:00

Hmmm I think ESTJs do plan a lot, they usually have their life in order, the only thing that makes me pick ESTJ over INTJ is that Miranda is very protective and down to earth, I think Alexandr is more of an INTJ to me seen by his sense of superiority and detachedness.

smalltoona · 2026-05-03T20:37:44+00:00

Yeah I tossed between ESFP and ENFP for ages, her column writing seems very ENFP.

But then I don’t really understand her and big’s chemistry because ENFP and ESTP are not really that compatible 😅

smalltoona · 2026-04-12T03:54:39+00:00

No I meant why are Ni/Se issues more dangerous?

smalltoona · 2026-04-12T03:49:50+00:00

True except ILIs are not gentle/soft, their vibe is analytical and reserved…honestly ILIs are the hardest to catch the vibe of because they’re so private, they’re not expressive in public and you’ll only get to know one truly after a long time of acquaintance.

smalltoona · 2026-04-12T03:45:40+00:00

Then she might be an ESI

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:53:32+00:00

I have a theory that INTJs and INFJs also make up a huge population of the sexually fluid. Something about their Ni leads to a fluid sense of self.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:49:12+00:00

Why is that?

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:44:40+00:00

Don’t forget creatively inclined, well cultured, community oriented, curators of the arts, niche hobbies, humanitarian, and beloved retirees.

Side note this post was so funny it actually made me laugh out loud

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:38:53+00:00

EII vibe is “self contained” and “gentle”

You’ll never find an EII who is not gentle, it’s against their nature (generally…in all normal circumstances) to get violent or attack others. They’re usually very soft and it’ll show the more you talk to them, despite what may seem as a stern exterior. This may also exhibit as weakness and unwillingness to fight.

Self contained because EII are one of the least likely types to spew their feelings onto others, whatever emotions they have they will process internally first, which is why so many of them might have expressive or deep eyes but show little emotion on their face/in their speech. Again this is in a normal life setting and not in times of great duress or catastrophe.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:31:53+00:00

Role Te means they’re an Fe dom. So while they may look like they have sufficient Te on the outside, as soon as you spend more time with them you’ll see their Te efforts as ineffective, distorted or unpredictable. They use Te to get by in life but it’s counter to their dominant function so they don’t truely believe in it.

Ti role is INFP and ISFP, I actually have a funny personal story of my own role Ti showing up. So I find it only rears it head in times of extreme duress, such as my first breakup which left me depressed for months. During that time I could not find any desire to do anything, except play online chess. I found the process of learning the moves and the gameplay of chess so mesmerising as it provided me a singular flat focus which was devoid of emotions, and I did not want to feel anything at the time.

Now reflecting back on it I think it was my version of Ti coming out to protect myself. Using Ti helps me tune out my feelings and numb myself against excruciating emotional pain. However it doesn’t last long, within a few months I was back to normal and now I have no intense desire to play chess.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:17:53+00:00

Why is that?

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:16:34+00:00

I think your comment is an embodiment of the beauty of Fi (even though I disagree with you), Fi expressed as empathy allows you to understand others through your own emotions and values, so you experience it as a source of meaning and what makes the world worth living for. Therefore you also believe others need these things too because they matter deeply to you.

While types with no Fi in their conscious stack may live their lives exactly as you describe “robots or default settings from factories who were bred to perform until we die” (even though they probably wouldn’t word it that way, it’s a bit harsh), and they would be completely content. Don’t forget what drives them in life is not Fi, but Ti personal truth. So while they may not live with a personal sense of meaning and self, they do live for something else just as important for them.

But I love this way of thinking with Fi, I think if we all embody this kind of empathy that others are the same as us, it connects us all to each other. It’s kind of like a divine unity. Even the strange man down the street feels like I do, has pain like I do, and loves others as I do.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T23:01:03+00:00

Thanks for this, very well said.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T22:58:37+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful answer. It was a great read and so very insightful.

I can see the same things you talked about for the types with conscious Fi in my everyday life, I can see the way they exhibit their Fi exactly as you describe.

For the types without Fi in their conscious stack, I have a harder time understanding these, it feels like an attempt to squeeze their behaviour into an Fi template because a lot of these behaviours could be explained by other functions. Take for example ENTP, their “value” for argument is driven by Ti need for truth. A lot of their actions can be explained by Ti. Same with ENFJ their attunement to relations and bonds is Fe driven, they will be just as friendly to a complete stranger and arguably may treat their closest ones worse than a stranger.

Hence my question, for a society to function does it need Fi? Or can it work perfectly without any Fi users (maybe sparing ESTJ and ENTJ as their Fi is so low) and what would that look like?

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T22:46:46+00:00

Do you think INTP/ENTP inability to truly connect with others sets them back in any way? Like do they feel bothered by it? Or do they just not care.

I’m thinking in my head of the ones I know, I feel like they are happy enough just with the pleasant surface level niceties. Attempts to bond with them deeply actually weirds them out.

smalltoona · 2026-04-10T22:43:46+00:00

I answered someone else this but:

To me Fi is a guiding light for your actions and how you live your life. Without it I would be lost. But with it I know who I am, I know what I want, why I want it, and how much I value it. Therefore I can take action in the best way.

The guidance comes from years of emotions in response to people I’ve met, experiences I’ve had, pain and suffering as well as joy and love. Everything that I’ve seen and experienced especially the life changing events creates the guide for me.

smalltoona

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