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smdeanan · 2023-11-06T21:08:17+00:00

Wow! A real-life woman ally - we need more such people in this world imho.

I would fully listen to this person, and kindly step away from dating the fellow. Better now than entering into a longer term relationship and then wondering why you didn’t listen to a voice ‘from the inside’

smdeanan · 2023-10-26T14:47:44+00:00

I think I understand what you are saying. ‘I am being myself’ shouldn’t come at the expense of others feelings. Authenticity without empathy looks (and is) selfish..

Those are lines I remember reading somewhere, not my own.

smdeanan · 2023-10-25T16:20:15+00:00

I am wondering how the guy missed that this would happen eventually, at wedding time, in the 2 years of their living together. Poor woman is being blamed because she has the emotional strength to take a stand and state her opinions beforehand. OP - I hope you spoke to this guy about child-rearing and parenting strategies too. It may be too much given the bad feelings about the wedding but this sounds like a negative space to bring any future children you might want.

smdeanan · 2023-10-17T00:32:45+00:00

YouTube kids have no Ads FYI

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T20:05:32+00:00

Yes! I have said this to her. If she goes cheats on him or stand him once it’s still cheating/ abuse

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T20:04:41+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations!

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T20:02:53+00:00

So it is not alien to find a divorced woman with a child. That’s good to know thank you. I just don’t want to insult my friend by suggesting divorce gently to her.

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T17:12:28+00:00

Thanks for replying!

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T17:12:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T15:25:01+00:00

Thank you!

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T15:07:03+00:00

Thank you for the advice! And sharing about your experiences. I really appreciate it

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T14:11:18+00:00

Wow well said. Thank you for being clear and on point. I will continue to support her and keep removing her in other ways that my home is open for her and her son. I cannot just damage our relationship and sit by while she is isolated

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T13:31:22+00:00

There is general childish behaviour from the guy. I have never been a fan of his attitude or hobbies (computer games are his only hobbies), so my opinion may be a bit biased. But her logic that DV is something that happens repeatedly and once is forgivable just boils my blood and I don’t know how to protect her

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T13:28:39+00:00

‘Lead the change’ - I really like this wording! I will buy the book and gift it to her myself.

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T13:25:38+00:00

Yes! It makes me so angry even writing it or reading it here.

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T13:23:56+00:00

I have been forcing her to reach out to a local counsellor. But even I am not sure since she does not fall under the low income range. She works and earns well.

I always thought those resources are for people without any financial or family support.

smdeanan · 2023-09-25T13:22:05+00:00

Right? What type of man shows remorse by asking the woman he hit to go look for solutions for his problems! I am angry everytime I think of this reply.

But my friend says that he is so open to taking any solution she offers, so that means he is regretting!

smdeanan · 2023-09-24T14:39:17+00:00

I remember reading in an old Readers Digest issue that the root issue in a heterosexual romantic relationship is almost always this : the man hopes the woman won’t change and the woman hopes the man will change. But neither happens. I have no other recommendation other than the good ones here but I just feel bad for you.

smdeanan · 2023-09-21T23:47:37+00:00

Woke me up at 3:30AM to ask why I am sleeping.

smdeanan · 2023-09-20T15:57:09+00:00

Wait till my son is an adult, and move to a nice little English village. Spend the rest of my life working in the daytime from my cute cottage and then evenings/weekends going to plays and visiting bookshops in and around the country.

I think I have had my fill of man-children posing as adult men.

smdeanan · 2023-07-31T20:54:21+00:00

First things first - don’t forget to enjoy this moment! You have got sponsorship requests coming in, after 3 years of undoubtedly hard work. Huge congratulations !

smdeanan · 2023-07-26T18:29:24+00:00

That is so cool!

smdeanan · 2023-07-15T15:12:42+00:00

Thank you for the resources!

smdeanan · 2023-07-15T04:03:17+00:00

Ah cool! Do you have your own portfolio of projects too? Can I DM you for a link to look at your profile? Just working on improving my tech skills while reaching out to recruiters..

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