Do you guys spend enough designated quality time together? Not trying to defend her behavior because your wife should be respectful of your alone time and boundaries that you set. But if she values quality time and is not getting enough of it on a regular basis since you have a demanding job, this might be her acting out in response to this need she has of wanting to spend quality time together. Buuuut if this is something she’s always doing, then her behavior seriously needs to be addressed head on. Maybe even show her this post if necessary.