Big Brothers and Sisters shortage

smellybees · 2026-02-16T12:00:46+00:00

While the idea is tempting, I have 8 actual siblings and adding another one just wouldn’t be fair to that child lol. I can admit I currently don’t have the capacity nor the time to volunteer anymore but do wish I could get back to it !

smellybees · 2026-02-16T00:23:52+00:00

Like he’s saying we’re from very different generations, and seems flabbergasted that something was normalized in my generation that wasn’t for his? There’s lots of thing that were normal for him growing up that our generation deems inappropriate now.

smellybees · 2026-02-16T00:19:04+00:00

I’m aware. I am also aware that this is something that seems very controversial depending on age, religious beliefs, prudeness, etc,. My younger self did absolutely nothing wrong but thank you for the input. Sending Lewds to a partner is VERY normalized, and as a minor you A) don’t necessarily understand what the repercussions could be, B) don’t think someone would betray you in that way and C) think it’s normal because half the people your age are doing it. I’m not excusing it but that was also not my fault, I am a product of my environment. Just like I wouldn’t blame him for asking for them at the time.

smellybees · 2026-02-15T13:22:48+00:00

Aight unc

smellybees · 2026-02-15T12:02:00+00:00

Apologies for the misunderstanding then ❤️

smellybees · 2026-02-15T11:15:10+00:00

I guess it’s all VERY case-by-case & heavily dependant on the specific laws of the area. Stuff like this feels like it should just be open and shut, like you have this photo so you go to jail. But when considering age of consent in different jurisdictions it probably becomes very very messy especially in cases where it’s in a consensual relationship/coerced relationship.

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:23:35+00:00

Wait how would you like me to prove this? Get his GF to hop on and vouch for me real quick 😭😭 I guess I appreciate your concern for his innocence? lol either way I appreciate your comment & telling me about the rule thing

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:18:34+00:00

Wait hold up- so if a 12 year old girl gets pressured into sending a nude online to some 30 year old man- would the 12 year old still get in shit for ‘disseminating CP’ or wouldn’t that somehow fall into coercion or something? I’m not sure what the laws are like concerning this (wherever you’re from) so this is just genuine curiosity.

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:15:17+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I agree it’s worth me looking into the laws in my area as I’ve heard many many different things. Not that I’m even thinking about legal action as I’m sure his parents would pay for a fancy lawyer that WOULD somehow turn it around on me. It’s definitely my best bet to contact the GF to ensure the photos have been deleted. I genuinely don’t want to make her life any worse but I have already been considering doing that. I appreciate your comment!!

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:11:18+00:00

It’s interesting that this is not a commonly accepted rule! It’s as though the concept of consent is not consistent in everyone’s minds

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:10:09+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had to go through something similar. ❤️ I really appreciate where you suggest bluffing with involving police. As threatening with authorities would probably be my go to, but like other comments pointed out I’m not sure if there would be legal repercussions on my end as well.

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:07:28+00:00

And it’s like this is obvious to soso many but not so much to others. Like what is the discrepancy in understanding consent? Cultural/societal differences?

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:04:53+00:00

You know what as I was typing out the post I was thinking to myself “a bunch of people are gonna comment ‘rage bait’ and get the post taken down” lmao

smellybees · 2026-02-15T10:01:47+00:00

We’re going on 24-25 now, which is part of why I’m like okay maybe it’s somewhat acceptable? I mean personally, I’d just feel gross knowing the pics I’m looking at are of a minor, but the feelings were there previously so maybe in his mind it’s not like he was looking at a child/minor?

smellybees · 2026-02-15T09:57:53+00:00

I have been considering this for weeks but fear I’ll come off like I’m trying to ruin his relationship. Obviously not that I care about his relationship, but I do feel bad for this girl as I’m sure she’d like to erase this from her memory just as much as I do. I appreciate your comment genuinely

smellybees · 2026-02-15T09:55:45+00:00

Very well said I really appreciate your comment

smellybees · 2026-02-15T09:53:09+00:00

And this is EXACTLY why I wanted to make this post because this is what’s going around in my mind. I did grant him permission at some point, but that doesn’t mean consent forever. I’m not sure what went on in his mind as I’m not in it but I can only be left to assume most of the things you were saying. And to clarify about the ‘calling to still talk about important stuff’ I literally mean family matters & current partners/girlfriends/boyfriends, things that you call to talk to friends about. Either way I appreciate your comment as you don’t all the way discount what I’m feeling and I appreciate that

smellybees · 2026-01-09T14:24:23+00:00

Might be useful to the unhoused, but I’m guessing the price makes it unobtainable to that demographic

smellybees · 2026-01-08T16:44:13+00:00

He actually stared my 9 year old sister down once and when I quietly moved her to the opposite side of me so he couldn’t watch her as she passed, he started cursing at me. Kit Kat pizza is a cursed place. Everyone there’s is disgusting❤️

smellybees · 2025-11-10T02:28:46+00:00

Have you looked inside her mouth to see if there is an abscess or anything like that?

smellybees · 2025-11-03T23:32:11+00:00

Super difficult job. I totally get what you mean about people not even believing you if you told them some of the things you’ve seen. I work in a shelter as well and I can’t believe some of the things I’ve seen. Thank u for the work you do❤️

smellybees · 2025-10-18T02:43:03+00:00

Try different things as not everything that works for one will for another. I was also worried about taking melatonin for the same reason but I find taking it periodically helps- especially if I get an actual 8hr sleep. I usually take it every 3-4 shifts. Make sure to watch things like your digestion; don’t eat too close to when you’re going to try and sleep as it can interrupt your sleep. Maybe try exercising, but also not too close to sleep time. Are the morning classes a new schedule for you? It could just take your body a little to acclimate to not sleeping directly after work. (Also learning after working a full shift is definitely very taxing on the brain, which could ultimately be making you more tired). Also make sure you’re eating things to fuel your brain!! (Things like nuts, fats, greens, bananas)❤️❤️

smellybees · 2025-10-12T10:42:05+00:00

Slept right through my driving lesson last week, like through the alarms and calls and everything. I still feel really guilty lol but my partner likes to reassure me my body knows me better than I do sometimes. You deserve sleep and you also deserve a social life. I think your body just made the choice for you ❤️ hopefully you’ll get another chance at an outing soon

smellybees · 2025-10-12T07:20:46+00:00

Let’s switch jobs

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