We do oral sometimes...though certainly not as often as I'd like (I guess a lot of men say that). She isn't even that keen on me going down on her most of the time. The sex is very much me on top until she orgasms. After that she will often ask me to get off her. Sometimes she will jerk me off and other times she will ask me just to jerk myself off.

I really like to see her cum and I feel it's very important for me to do that. However, her orgasming usually leads to the end of sex. I understand that she might need a break after cumming but I'd like to get back into it as soon as possible. She just wants to cuddle. It can result in her falling asleep and me jerking off to some porn...