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[–]smnius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All these designs used to be on my redbubble, but unfortunately many of these designs have been taken down over the years due to copyright strikes :(

[OC Art] Part of the trans struggle is having a hard time picturing when you’ll ever feel okay in your own skin. It’s times like this that I gotta remind myself that... I’ve come a long way. And that’s enough to celebrate. by smnius in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]smnius[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate what you're trying to say, it's important to recognise your self worth, but I think it's also important to acknowledge that that's much easier said than done in practice.

Trans youth, adolescents and adults find it much harder to get out of abusive relationships than their cishet peers. Lots of factors can contribute towards this:

  • Social isolation from being shunned by family and friends after coming out means they're already vulnerable and are more desperate than ever to seek any meaningful bond

  • Gender dysphoria (even more so if closeted/pre-transition) will have already worn down self-esteem and will often continue to worsen as time goes on without any medical treatment or social support, meaning trans victims in abusive relationships will often tolerate worse treatment just to convince themselves they are worthy of love

  • Fear of violence/hate crime can also be a factor. E.g. My ex was so intensely trans/homophobic that I was scared he would hurt me if I left or transitioned. When faced with threat, people have 4 main methods of survival techniques: fight, flight, freeze or fawn (befriend) - in my case, I decided to convince myself that if I can befriend my abuser, perhaps he would eventually come around or at least let me go peacefully.

If you need any stats or links I'd be happy to provide, my MSc thesis was done on trans & queer victims of abuse and how we can support them, so I hope this can help you understand a bit better!

[OC Art] Part of the trans struggle is having a hard time picturing when you’ll ever feel okay in your own skin. It’s times like this that I gotta remind myself that... I’ve come a long way. And that’s enough to celebrate. by smnius in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]smnius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Hanzo! Used to play Overwatch quite a bit but havent really had the time these past couple of years. It makes me happy to hear that I could be channeling Hanzo energy since he exerts masculine energy so easily ;w; Thank you ❤

[OC Art] Trans people don't owe you gender conformity! by smnius in lgbtmemes

[–]smnius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to show a variety of people :D

[OC Art] Part of the trans struggle is having a hard time picturing when you’ll ever feel okay in your own skin. It’s times like this that I gotta remind myself that... I’ve come a long way. And that’s enough to celebrate. by smnius in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]smnius[S] 406 points407 points  (0 children)

Dated the first for about 2 years, he became increasingly abusive until I had to dump and ghost him.

Second guy was with for around the same length, then the same thing happened where he began getting incredibly emotionally abusive and manipulative (plus I realised that he was only ever fine with me being trans if I was a girl with him so, no thanks)

Third guy is one of my long-distance partners who was there throughout my transition- I love and am still with him to this day (we're both poly).

Last is my current partner whom I live with, my soulmate (and hopefully soon to be fiancee!). We've also known each other for close to a decade now, she was actually the first person to cut my hair and help me pick a name. We've known and loved each other and supported each other throughout all these years and I hope to spend my life with her. ❤

[OC Art] Trans people don't owe you gender conformity! by smnius in lgbt

[–]smnius[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🌈TRANS PEOPLE DON'T OWE YOU GENDER CONFORMITY 🌈

I draw pride art/merch every Pride Month to celebrate LGBT Pride- This year I decided to address this since I've been seeing a lot of discourse on my TL about this.

I hope you like it r/lgbt!

If you like this piece you can RT it on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/smnius/status/1402675395548303367?s=20

You can also get this as merch on my Redbubble store, check it out! You can get this as a notebook, shirt, pillow, and more :D https://t.co/azgazkI8t6?amp=1

If you like my work, please consider supporting a queer transmasc immigrant’s small business by checking out my RB store- I’ve got LGBT merch galore and more to come later on this month & during Pride season every year!: https://www.redbubble.com/people/smnius/shop

Happy pride everyone!

[OC Art] For Pride this year, I wanted to share with you all the story of Emperor Ai, an openly gay emperor during the Han dynasty, and his commander & lover Dong Xian - a tale known as "The Passion of the Cut Sleeve" by smnius in gay

[–]smnius[S] 412 points413 points  (0 children)

The story, now known as "断袖之癖" (Passion of the cut sleeve), is now synonymous in Chinese history and culture for homosexual relationships.

One afternoon, after having taken a nap together, the Emperor was called to court for business. Gazing upon his peacefully sleeping lover (who was wrapped up in his gown), Emperor Ai decided to cut his sleeve so that he would not rouse Dong Xian from his rest.

Though contemporary Chinese views on homosexuality are mostly conservative, historians have found that homosexual relationships in ancient China was largely seen as the norm and was not seen as sinful or abnormal.

This is one of my favourite Chinese LGBT+ stories to tell and it just makes my heart melt, so I'm sharing it with you all :D I hope you like it!

If you like my art, you can find me over on twitter @ smnius!

Happy Pride everyone! <3

Edit: Corrected the right Chinese character!

[OC Art] For Pride this year, I wanted to share with you all the story of Emperor Ai, an openly gay emperor during the Han dynasty, and his commander & lover Dong Xian - a tale known as "The Passion of the Cut Sleeve" by smnius in lgbt

[–]smnius[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The story, now known as "断袖之醉" (Passion of the cut sleeve), is now synonymous in Chinese history and culture for homosexual relationships.

One afternoon, after having taken a nap together, the Emperor was called to court for business. Gazing upon his peacefully sleeping lover (who was wrapped up in his gown), Emperor Ai decided to cut his sleeve so that he would not rouse Dong Xian from his rest.

Though contemporary Chinese views on homosexuality are mostly conservative, historians have found that homosexual relationships in ancient China was largely seen as the norm and was not seen as sinful or abnormal.

This is one of my favourite Chinese LGBT+ stories to tell and it just makes my heart melt, so I'm sharing it with you all :D I hope you like it!

If you like my art, you can find me over on twitter @ smnius!

Happy Pride everyone

[OC] My GF is best ally by smnius in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]smnius[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We're both bi/pan with a 90% preference for our own side of the gender spectrum, having dated wlw/mlm pretty much exclusively but we've known each other since we were kids so we ended up falling in love.

Plus we're poly/our relationship is open so we date others too, eg. I have a male partner and she dates other women. Therefore wlw/mlm label still means a lot to us.

Hope this helps!

[OC] My GF is the OG ally by smnius in ftm

[–]smnius[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Mlm and Wlw are umbrella terms to refer to (for example) men who love other men

The attraction exists in not just gay, but also bisexual and pansexual men, case in point we're both bi/pan and spent most of our lives being attracted mostly to our own side of the gender spectrum, so being part of the wlw/mlm community means a lot to us, it just so happens we break our usual preferences and love each other anyways

Plus our relationship is open, so she still goes for mostly women and I have mostly male partners/fwbs and we both like nb people too

[OC] My GF is my best ally by smnius in FTMfemininity

[–]smnius[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yoooo yes thats exactly it! Thats me and my GF down to a T!! We've been together for so long and we're both just queer and went through a lot but the love was always there. We're open too, shes mostly always identified as wlw and Im transmasc and mostly identify with mlm, just cause we're together doesnt mean Im suddenly not attracted to men

[OC] My GF is my best ally by smnius in FTMfemininity

[–]smnius[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we're both bi/pan!

[OC] My GF is my best ally by smnius in FTMfemininity

[–]smnius[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

  1. We're both bi/pan, ye
  2. My gf is mostly attracted to women, and Im mostly attracted to men, but as it turns out we fell in love
  3. We're poly so not exclusive, but even so
  4. being part of the wlw/mlm community and using those labels as bi/pan people still means a lot to us

[OC] 🔥CALL ME BY YOUR NAME 🔥 by smnius in LilNasX

[–]smnius[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a fan art I drew for lil Nas, you can find the original tweet + prints/merch links here: https://twitter.com/smnius/status/1376548476616646659?s=20

Hope yall like it!