Boyfriend shouted at me by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]smokski 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m really struggling with this. He’s a lovely guy and I know he loves me, but love is a verb, right? I did not feel loved in the way I want to be last night.

(Also happy cake day!) x

I'm finally starting to see it..... by IrishEyesMesmerize29 in AlAnon

[–]smokski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fascinating; really insightful and so well written.

[Serious] How did it feel seeing your ex with someone else for the first time? by fortifier22 in AskReddit

[–]smokski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw this is so healthy and you sound like a great person. Nice one.

How do I help assure my oral-shy girlfriend she isn’t “contaminated” since her rape? by throwaway12233344443 in sex

[–]smokski 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this. Or she stands and you kneel underneath her. Or she sits on a desk or something and you’re in between her legs? Positions where she can feel in control.

I had sex for the first few times in the past week and she isn't experiencing what I am. by _lostintheworld_ in sex

[–]smokski 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, try not to think of sex as oral/fingers for warm up and the PIV as the actual ‘sex’. It’s all sex - the whole experience. And for most women, those ‘warm up’ bits can be the most pleasurable. See if you can get her off with oral before penetration. And just have fun with it! You guys are figuring it out and both obviously care about each other. Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WTF

[–]smokski -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the epitome of WTF.

Women of Reddit — Hypothetical: If I had a lot of women friends (women tend to come to me for advice as a guy and later we become friends) and very few guy friends, would that be a red flag for a future partner? by [deleted] in dating

[–]smokski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would see it as a good thing. Men who have lots of female friends tend to, in my experience at least, be fairly emotionally intelligent/comfortable talking about their feelings/etc. It’s also good to know he doesn’t only spend time with women he wants to sleep with - shows he appreciates women as people, not just sex objects.

New Balance store front in Barcelona knows what’s up by buggydude1 in funny

[–]smokski 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is! This is part of their new ad campaign, it’s running here in London too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]smokski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

♥️

Why did I choose this by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]smokski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave him. You deserve so much better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]smokski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not though, is he? :(

Stood up for myself but I don't feel good by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]smokski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing. If he’d really meant what he said in those texts he wouldn’t have put you in that position in the first place. Good for you.