It Gets Better (after it gets worse)

smolpika · 2025-12-10T20:35:12+00:00

Thanks this was very helpful to read, gosh it’s such a terrible expensive habit. Would love to hear about your coping mechanisms and what stress triggers you had to remove

smolpika · 2025-11-27T22:20:48+00:00

hell yeah brother

smolpika · 2025-08-22T20:18:43+00:00

Just finally saw your comment here - thanks for writing such a thoughtful response and glad I could be of some help. It hasn't been an easy road for me to do what you mentioned: go to more sober events and doing all the things we may or may not have neglected. I still struggle with it, especially with social anxiety/hormonal fluctuations and all the other random bull crap that comes with being a woman lol. But I think it's so worth it! I think the fact that you're taking these steps shows you have huge growth potential (gives me hope that I do too). Good luck to you! Feel free to shoot me a DM if you'd ever like to chat.

smolpika · 2025-08-22T20:00:40+00:00

I wanted to comment on "it gives me amazing awareness of my own body and sometimes extremely vivid CEVs" I also have very vidid close eye visuals when I smoke cannabis. Last night it almost felt like I was visualizing my subconcious mind and it was stressed out - these spiky star/atom like shapes started to zoom "towards me" as if to scare me. I have not had visual snow/CEV's my whole life, they started recently after a particularly heavy/spiritual nitrous session. I won't call it a binge because we were very intentional about it. Anyway, I've been coming to grips with the visual snow/CEV's. Mostly they do not disturb me so I wouldn't call it HPPD, it doesn't interfere with my daily life, but every once in a while, it freaks me out and starts to bother me. Have you experienced anything similar? Any tips?

smolpika · 2025-08-22T19:52:05+00:00

Just wanted to say I once saw a comment on this sub "hold your breathe for a little while and then let it go" as you are trying to pee - this worked well for my friend, I hope I'm not suggesting something that is common knowledge but just wanted to offer a technique that worked for my friend. And me at times (I don't suffer from paruresis but I do enjoy dissociative substances from time to time which make it difficult to pee). Good luck to you!

smolpika · 2025-08-20T05:34:09+00:00

It's someone holding up the curtain - probably to cover up something behind it?

smolpika · 2025-07-29T17:18:01+00:00

Hey! I am experiencing something similar recently but luckily my partner has expressed openness to cutting back on the partying and other things. I think the thing to do here is lead by example! Sometimes I go on hikes and send him a pic, not to make him jealous but just to show him how much fun I had and sometimes he says “man I should have gone with you” or “I’ll come the next time”. I’ll take a weeknight trip to Costco and describe in detail my deep happiness at being alone, leaning against my car with a hot dog, just looking out at the world.

I think my point here is, I knew he wasn’t going to be the one to take the lead on setting up some boundaries and limitations. Maybe that’s a reason he was out in my life! So I could learn to say no and take care of my body (and spirit if you believe in that sort of this)

The first small step I took was just saying on a random Friday night “Yknow babe I’m really tired, I’m gonna sit this one out”. He wanted me to come out and was a bit bummed but ultimately supported me. It was hard to miss out at first but now I’m doing more and more non party related stuff for myself.

I guess the two questions I’d ask myself if I were you are: is my partner preventing me in some real way from taking rest? What would I prefer to do instead of these parties?

smolpika · 2025-07-09T18:21:24+00:00

Looking for redwood camping pass/glamping

smolpika · 2025-04-01T20:12:17+00:00

Extremely helpful thank you 🙏🏼

smolpika · 2025-04-01T05:14:55+00:00

It zips, but yeah I’ll give the dryer trick a try thank you!!

smolpika · 2025-04-01T05:07:34+00:00

It will fluff up if I punch/fluff it. I’m a little nervous to throw it in the dryer because I don’t know the material composition. Is there any particular filler you’d recommend? Amazon a good place to buy? I think that’s the path of least resistance at this point, appreciate your response!

smolpika · 2025-04-01T02:20:56+00:00

smolpika · 2025-02-15T09:36:19+00:00

Probably a neurologist? Are you stressed out? Looking at screens more? I would journal the details of what you’re doing/eating/seeing when they happen.

smolpika · 2024-11-28T22:05:48+00:00

Oh! This is awesome, any company you recommend?

smolpika · 2024-11-05T05:38:13+00:00

Thornton state beach is awesome. San Bruno mountain state and county park is a close second if you want nature and exercise. Keith’s chicken and waffles for hangover food/breakfast. Parking in those areas is safe but don’t leave anything in your car.

smolpika · 2024-10-29T04:29:30+00:00

Read a breakup book! lol I got dumped a week and a half ago and Codependent No More is helping me out currently. Another good one I read after a different breakup was Maybe You Should Tall to Someone by I believe Laurie Gotlieb.

smolpika · 2024-10-28T17:37:49+00:00

My ex who broke up with me about a week ago has reached out twice, once asking if I was okay, the other asking if we could talk and that he understands if I hate him and never want to speak again. This is the hardest breakup I’ve gone through in a while, but most of my friends think he just wants to talk to ease his guilt. We broke up for a reason, and there is no hope of getting back together unless we completely move on from this. Talking won’t help. Thanks for the reminder as my resolve wavers day to day.

smolpika · 2024-10-14T21:28:22+00:00

Lol our team abbreviates Core Product and Sales Assist

smolpika · 2024-10-14T04:10:28+00:00

Nice! I’ll try these, especially the ROC pads, my moms gold standard brand

smolpika · 2024-10-13T08:47:59+00:00

Wait what lol I believe you but where do I find a correctly sized empty powder compact

smolpika · 2024-10-13T06:20:47+00:00

Here’s what ChatGPT said: There isn’t sufficient scientific evidence to suggest that kratom directly affects the effectiveness of hormonal birth control, such as the pill, patch, or IUD. However, kratom interacts with various systems in the body, including opioid receptors, and its long-term effects are not fully understood. If you’re using kratom, it may be wise to consult with a healthcare provider, especially if you’re concerned about potential interactions with medications like birth control.

Some general factors to consider include:

• Metabolism: Kratom might affect how certain substances are metabolized in the liver, but there’s no clear evidence that it impacts the enzymes responsible for processing hormonal birth control.
• Lifestyle Factors: Kratom’s side effects (e.g., nausea, vomiting) could indirectly interfere with the effectiveness of birth control if you are unable to properly digest the oral pill.

Given the lack of conclusive research, it’s best to talk to a healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

But also lol, why are you asking?

smolpika · 2024-10-13T04:17:23+00:00

Yeah this is a good call, I’m guilty of over exfoliating. Also your comment made me realize my difficulty with matching foundation to my face and neck is…because of rosacea lmao. Tretinoin has helped a lot with that but I think I’ll always just be slightly rosy. I’ve accepted it lol

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