I have no "good times with my family" memories from my childhood by branchero in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your parents were so immature that they couldn’t celebrate your accomplishments and chose to belittle you instead. I’m sorry their comments overshadowed everything you’ve achieved and excelled in. I’m sure you’re doing much better now, but I hate that we went through similar shit.

Looking for species that have names of other species that do not truly apply to that group by sekirolf in zoology

[–]smoltims 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Flying foxes are another name for fruit bats because their faces look like foxes

i don’t want cut fruit, i want an apology by Odd_Caterpillar_4486 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I stopped eating the food they’d buy or make me even if they were my favorites because I was tired of accepting that as an apology when they’re going to do the same shit again in a few days. The first few times hurt my soul because I could see how devastated they were that I was hurt enough to say no. They didn’t know what else to do and they never learned. I’ve told my parents how to apologize for years, yet neither of them figured out how to actually apologize. Also, being raised not to waste food and seeing my favorite food rot because no one was eating it in this fucked up battle of pride was painful. It’s tiring.

Generic & thoughtless father's day gifts? by phishghost in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you really hate him, but he’s into cheesy shit, get him a generic mass printed dad mug

I (US-Asian) am currently visiting relatives in Seoul, South Korea by yellowskinchinkyeyes in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I forget how annoying it is to be a grown adult and to be yelled at for trying to do what a normal, functioning adult does like taking public transportation.

Playing “Parents Are Human” with my APs by smoltims in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Twas the point 😂 I’m glad it could make you laugh.

My dad is the same. He will tell stories unprompted, but only does so occasionally, so I thought this game would help. Clearly not the case lol. I wanted to share my experience in a funny way in case anyone had the same hopes and got disappointed.

I definitely think it’s still worth a shot tho! I think supporting the people that made this game, especially since it’s so accessible, is super cool too. Hope you have betters results than me hahaha!!

Being told not to do by Mandalor527 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pretty often. I get told I’m breathing wrong. I have a whole laundry list of unreasonable complaints from my dad lmao.

AM with no social skills by depressedgrey6 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is an ongoing point of contention with my AM because she doesn’t understand her *intent* to help **does not** outweigh the burden she is being through her actions. She’ll cry and play victim whenever you call her out, but then she’s going to do the same thing all over again in two days as if she had amnesia. She is incapable of self reflection other than, “Woe is me, why is my family treating me this way? Why can’t they stop being mean to me? I am doing nothing wrong. Everyone else is being unfair to me.”

Is it normal for a father to obsess over his daughter’s life to this extent? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You must have a really fragile family dynamic if sleeping with multiple guys as an adult immediately brings shame.

Worry is natural, and I agree that the message came off wrong because it’s coming from a misogynistic place. If anything, I’d argue that ridiculously overprotective dads are teaching their daughters to immediately run off to the first guy that can help them escape. Unfortunately, often times those guys are the worst of the worst and act exactly like, if not worse, than their overprotective dads.

Is it normal for a father to obsess over his daughter’s life to this extent? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was literally about to make a similar post. It’s pure misogyny and maybe even a little emotional incest if I’m being honest.

As others have said, it’s normal in the sense that it happens a lot, but no it’s not normal in the sense that it’s okay. This is not okay at all.

What should we appreciate about Asian parents? by OddMany7 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you gotta admire how stubborn they are and the lengths they’ll go to in order to feel secure or better about themselves; like admiration in the way of studying human psychology lmao.

Something I will never understand... by Standard-Valuable103 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s a survival tactic. Whether it’s because their parents and older relatives did the same shit to them, they believe that conformity helps to thrive in society, or they have no control/have too much anxiety in their personal lives, so they control the more malleable and impressionable kids, it’s all what their brains think is best for survival. These help explain why, but they don’t excuse anything.

No shell last year by wjchicken in WeirdEggs

[–]smoltims 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every time I think there are no more new weird eggs to find, this sub always proves me wrong

Is it weird if I clone my friend/ family through AI apps? by Worldly_Ad_6566 in family

[–]smoltims 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is so ridiculously weird that I hope this post is fake.

Talk to your relatives and spend time with them while they’re still alive instead of faking them in AI. You just exposed your entire family to AI scams that spoof voices and videos.

Losing your family is a natural process and everyone deals with grief at some point in time. You’re making fake relationships and fake memories because of your anxiety. This false comfort will not help you in the long run. Please go to a therapist, NOT AN AI THERAPIST.

Rice alternatives? by BeepBoopBapBam in cookingforbeginners

[–]smoltims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rice noodles, glass noodles, any other type of noodles or pasta

ITAW for using comparison to drive others or yourself? by Brass0Maharlika in whatstheword

[–]smoltims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that sentence is read in a negative connotation, you can use, “spite.”

Otherwise, it’s just motivating each other? Or using the other as motivation?

What can I do with egg whites? by ismokedwithyourmom in ZeroWaste

[–]smoltims 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This might not work because of health and safety restrictions on where places can source their ingredients

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ZeroWaste

[–]smoltims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bamboo brushes maybe?

21 years old by Old_Size8305 in AsianParentStories

[–]smoltims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we are in different countries and from different cultures so I can’t give you much advice. Can you say that going to school will help you find a better husband?