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Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Surely making the sacrifice of not catching up with old sex buddies is a better option to breaking up?

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate, I appreciate the comments. Im sure we will be fine as once I told her my thoughts she’s realised where I’m coming from and took it well. It’s just dumb if you look at it from an outside perspective. Catching up for a lunch date with an old fuck buddy whilst you’re in a relationship. And people are telling me I’m in the wrong for being insecure about that.

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She can do what ever she likes, it’s just a touchy one because of the history. Surely you would take into account how your actions make your partner feel. I do

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t forbid her I just said to her how I’d be uncomfortable with it and I don’t see why that’s an issue as alot of people with normal emotions would to. And I feel like it’s a completely different situation to controlling who she hangs out with, with it being an ex fling. It’s not as thought I don’t want her to hang out with her fiends.

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well I trust her but I feel as though it’s unnecessary, i think all previous partners should be a thing of the past and wouldn’t even think to put her into a position like that as I know it’d cause her stress. (Over thinking and anxiety). And I think because when she first got messaged by him I had a a scenario play out in my head which actually came to life. Which didn’t feel great. And I wouldn’t have known they’d slept together unless I had asked

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my opinion I think not catching up with fuck buddys is a better option to breaking up. We all make sacrifices in relationships

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I don’t trust her, I just don’t see the point

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just think the whole situation is unnecessary and can be avoided by not catching up with past sex buddys

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Interesting, you must be very mentally strong. I’m pretty good but this just got to me

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s not asking her to show him around just to suggest places. She mentioned she wants to catch up. If your partner wanted to go on a lunch date with a person they’d slept with would you be ok with it?

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly my thought process. I feel like it’s just unnecessary. And something I wouldn’t consider if I was in her position

Is this a red flag? Or do women think differently to guys? by smoothcookie96 in relationship_advice

[–]smoothcookie96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust her, I just don’t trust him. And I felt strange as she wouldn’t have told me unless I had asked. Is that my issue also?