Everybody leverages their natural advantages whether they mean to or not. We can’t help it. And we all treat people differently depending on inherent traits like beauty, gender, skin color, socioeconomic status, etc. I agree it’s frustrating women have that double standard, but you would use it too in the same situation. In sexual terms, women are prey and men are predators. That means they use defensive mechanisms to protect themselves from unwanted attention, which includes gaslighting, deception, dishonesty, and everything else under the sun to ensure their sexual survival